My 16 Rules For Living And How To Develop Your Own

I have 16 rules for Living 10 personal I have 16 rules for Living 10 personal and six for the organization that I lead and six for the organization that I lead and six for the organization that I lead the organizational values are shared the organizational values are shared the organizational values are shared with me Alex and the rest of our team with me Alex and the rest of our team with me Alex and the rest of our team the personal values are for myself and the personal values are for myself and the personal values are for myself and my family today we're going to go my family today we're going to go my family today we're going to go through each of the 16 rules together through each of the 16 rules together through each of the 16 rules together plus we'll talk about some exercises you plus we'll talk about some exercises you plus we'll talk about some exercises you can use to develop your own rules for can use to develop your own rules for can use to develop your own rules for living but also why you might not want living but also why you might not want living but also why you might not want to do any of this at all in the first to do any of this at all in the first to do any of this at all in the first place place place well hey there and welcome to the pro well hey there and welcome to the pro well hey there and welcome to the pro Church tool show we're here to help you Church tool show we're here to help you Church tool show we're here to help you and your church navigate the big and your church navigate the big and your church navigate the big communication shift in 500 years I'm communication shift in 500 years I'm communication shift in 500 years I'm Brady Sher your host I'm join as always Brady Sher your host I'm join as always Brady Sher your host I'm join as always but my co-host we call him Bishop but my co-host we call him Bishop but my co-host we call him Bishop breastroke it's Alexander Mills hello breastroke it's Alexander Mills hello breastroke it's Alexander Mills hello hello we are here in the year of Our hello we are here in the year of Our hello we are here in the year of Our Lord 2024 and recently I shared our Lord 2024 and recently I shared our Lord 2024 and recently I shared our company values in a social post and I company values in a social post and I company values in a social post and I got a number of questions and response got a number of questions and response got a number of questions and response where can we see your full list of where can we see your full list of where can we see your full list of company values and how do we create our company values and how do we create our company values and how do we create our own so we wanted to dedicate this own so we wanted to dedicate this own so we wanted to dedicate this episode to going through our company episode to going through our company episode to going through our company values uh but then also sharing an values uh but then also sharing an values uh but then also sharing an exercise on how we develop these and how exercise on how we develop these and how exercise on how we develop these and how you might be able to develop your own you might be able to develop your own you might be able to develop your own now before we get into the actual values now before we get into the actual values now before we get into the actual values specifically a few important notes specifically a few important notes specifically a few important notes number one uh this is a living document number one uh this is a living document number one uh this is a living document values get added as needed uh there was values get added as needed uh there was values get added as needed uh there was a time last year where uh something was a time last year where uh something was a time last year where uh something was broughten up I I I I remember broughten up I I I I remember broughten up I I I I remember specifically but I'm not really in the specifically but I'm not really in the specifically but I'm not really in the mood to disclose it today the team came mood to disclose it today the team came mood to disclose it today the team came to me and they said why are you the way to me and they said why are you the way to me and they said why are you the way that you are and we had to add a new that you are and we had to add a new that you are and we had to add a new value to the list do you recall this I value to the list do you recall this I value to the list do you recall this I don't recall this actually okay it was don't recall this actually okay it was don't recall this actually okay it was clearly it didn't it didn't hurt me as clearly it didn't it didn't hurt me as clearly it didn't it didn't hurt me as much as it or you yes yes so the point

much as it or you yes yes so the point much as it or you yes yes so the point is is that once you create your values is is that once you create your values is is that once you create your values uh they don't need to be the Ten uh they don't need to be the Ten uh they don't need to be the Ten Commandments on Stone can't remove can't Commandments on Stone can't remove can't Commandments on Stone can't remove can't add they are meant to be a living add they are meant to be a living add they are meant to be a living document you're going to change your document you're going to change your document you're going to change your church is going to change your church is going to change your church is going to change your organization is going to change and so organization is going to change and so organization is going to change and so it's okay to add upon these hey we it's okay to add upon these hey we it's okay to add upon these hey we haven't done it yet I'm sure it's all haven't done it yet I'm sure it's all haven't done it yet I'm sure it's all right to even uh remove a value you know right to even uh remove a value you know right to even uh remove a value you know what this is a little too much Integrity what this is a little too much Integrity what this is a little too much Integrity going to backtrack a bit uh second note going to backtrack a bit uh second note going to backtrack a bit uh second note this is less about what we do and more this is less about what we do and more this is less about what we do and more about how we do it when you're writing about how we do it when you're writing about how we do it when you're writing your values you don't want them to be your values you don't want them to be your values you don't want them to be aligned with a specific goal or outcome aligned with a specific goal or outcome aligned with a specific goal or outcome don't worry about the output more be don't worry about the output more be don't worry about the output more be concerned with the input and and control concerned with the input and and control concerned with the input and and control what you can control thirdly I would not what you can control thirdly I would not what you can control thirdly I would not recommend and this is perhaps why we recommend and this is perhaps why we recommend and this is perhaps why we have not done an episode dedicated to have not done an episode dedicated to have not done an episode dedicated to this so far I would not recommend that this so far I would not recommend that this so far I would not recommend that you lift these values and copy them uh you lift these values and copy them uh you lift these values and copy them uh for yourself right because these are for yourself right because these are for yourself right because these are very specific to us again we have an very specific to us again we have an very specific to us again we have an exercise that we'll get to for exercise that we'll get to for exercise that we'll get to for developing your own now that's not to developing your own now that's not to developing your own now that's not to say that you can't pull some of like the say that you can't pull some of like the say that you can't pull some of like the larger truths from it but larger truths from it but larger truths from it but unlike most things and I had a bit unlike most things and I had a bit unlike most things and I had a bit difficulty preparing this episode unlike difficulty preparing this episode unlike difficulty preparing this episode unlike most things where I I'm like here's your most things where I I'm like here's your most things where I I'm like here's your three-step framework don't worry I got three-step framework don't worry I got three-step framework don't worry I got one but like it was a little more one but like it was a little more one but like it was a little more challenging to get to these were like challenging to get to these were like challenging to get to these were like part of like things that were just very part of like things that were just very part of like things that were just very personal to me I mean even the language personal to me I mean even the language personal to me I mean even the language of some of these values it's like it's of some of these values it's like it's of some of these values it's like it's not going to resonate with your church not going to resonate with your church not going to resonate with your church likely because or your organization likely because or your organization likely because or your organization because these came up and out of who we because these came up and out of who we because these came up and out of who we are and how we talk and what we talk are and how we talk and what we talk are and how we talk and what we talk about and so that's just to say and and about and so that's just to say and and about and so that's just to say and and like I said as this as like you said as like I said as this as like you said as like I said as this as like you said as this episode unfolds you'll see how this this episode unfolds you'll see how this this episode unfolds you'll see how this will work out for your church and and

will work out for your church and and will work out for your church and and how your values will come up and out of how your values will come up and out of how your values will come up and out of what you're doing um and and and so what you're doing um and and and so what you're doing um and and and so that's just to say that's just to say that's just to say like this is not a template that you can like this is not a template that you can like this is not a template that you can copy and paste as far as the values go copy and paste as far as the values go copy and paste as far as the values go um but there is a process to go through um but there is a process to go through um but there is a process to go through to come up with your own values that to come up with your own values that to come up with your own values that will resonate with your team your work will resonate with your team your work will resonate with your team your work your organization your church note your organization your church note your organization your church note number four there are five notes here number four there are five notes here number four there are five notes here we're almost done values can serve as a we're almost done values can serve as a we're almost done values can serve as a superior a superior alternative to goals superior a superior alternative to goals superior a superior alternative to goals so here we are at the beginning of a new so here we are at the beginning of a new so here we are at the beginning of a new year and you know in my 20s most of the year and you know in my 20s most of the year and you know in my 20s most of the notes that I would make at the beginning notes that I would make at the beginning notes that I would make at the beginning of the year were dedicated to this is of the year were dedicated to this is of the year were dedicated to this is what I want to accomplish and as I got a what I want to accomplish and as I got a what I want to accomplish and as I got a bit older I shifted a bit to less about bit older I shifted a bit to less about bit older I shifted a bit to less about what I wanted to accomplish and more what I wanted to accomplish and more what I wanted to accomplish and more about like the effort um that I wanted about like the effort um that I wanted about like the effort um that I wanted to to give well that's to what you said to to give well that's to what you said to to give well that's to what you said earlier these values are not about are earlier these values are not about are earlier these values are not about are less about what we do and more about how less about what we do and more about how less about what we do and more about how we do them so instead of setting goals we do them so instead of setting goals we do them so instead of setting goals for I want to do these things AB andc for I want to do these things AB andc for I want to do these things AB andc throughout the year it's in all the throughout the year it's in all the throughout the year it's in all the things I do I want to do them this way things I do I want to do them this way things I do I want to do them this way mhm absolutely so it's less about what mhm absolutely so it's less about what mhm absolutely so it's less about what we are accomplishing and more about who we are accomplishing and more about who we are accomplishing and more about who we are becoming and how we're choosing we are becoming and how we're choosing we are becoming and how we're choosing to live and then finally number five uh to live and then finally number five uh to live and then finally number five uh Beware of doing something like Beware of doing something like Beware of doing something like this you know I I promise you that it is this you know I I promise you that it is this you know I I promise you that it is fun uh beginning of the year you're fun uh beginning of the year you're fun uh beginning of the year you're going to on day one you're like you know going to on day one you're like you know going to on day one you're like you know what I'm going to write down these what I'm going to write down these what I'm going to write down these values maybe you share them with your values maybe you share them with your values maybe you share them with your team the way I did and everyone's like team the way I did and everyone's like team the way I did and everyone's like wow profound these are great then comes wow profound these are great then comes wow profound these are great then comes another day where you have to actually another day where you have to actually another day where you have to actually live by these values and you go wait a live by these values and you go wait a live by these values and you go wait a wait wait a minute wait a minute say wait wait a minute wait a minute say wait wait a minute wait a minute say that I got all my credit when everyone that I got all my credit when everyone that I got all my credit when everyone was like great values oh thanks for was like great values oh thanks for was like great values oh thanks for leading us now I have to actually live

leading us now I have to actually live leading us now I have to actually live by these values becomes less easy so you by these values becomes less easy so you by these values becomes less easy so you know what maybe wait till 2025 to know what maybe wait till 2025 to know what maybe wait till 2025 to install these you take some time hey install these you take some time hey install these you take some time hey just make sure because for me I review just make sure because for me I review just make sure because for me I review these every year and I say how am I these every year and I say how am I these every year and I say how am I living by these and if not what do I living by these and if not what do I living by these and if not what do I need to make a change be like in respect need to make a change be like in respect need to make a change be like in respect to because I have Define like my life I to because I have Define like my life I to because I have Define like my life I want to live by these rules if I'm not want to live by these rules if I'm not want to live by these rules if I'm not that's like the ultimate indictment upon that's like the ultimate indictment upon that's like the ultimate indictment upon yourself like you're lying to yourself yourself like you're lying to yourself yourself like you're lying to yourself and you actually just said something and you actually just said something and you actually just said something profound there about this like profound there about this like profound there about this like philosophically you you said as a person philosophically you you said as a person philosophically you you said as a person as an individual how am I living by as an individual how am I living by as an individual how am I living by these and that's that's what this is all these and that's that's what this is all these and that's that's what this is all about is is personifying these values as about is is personifying these values as about is is personifying these values as a leader from the top down not just not a leader from the top down not just not a leader from the top down not just not just handing out values to your team just handing out values to your team just handing out values to your team that you want to see them live out but that you want to see them live out but that you want to see them live out but you embodying them first and foremost so you embodying them first and foremost so you embodying them first and foremost so that you set the tone you set the that you set the tone you set the that you set the tone you set the culture you set the example as a leader culture you set the example as a leader culture you set the example as a leader and uh and and surely people will know and uh and and surely people will know and uh and and surely people will know notice and follow along but if if you notice and follow along but if if you notice and follow along but if if you don't quite have a handle on living don't quite have a handle on living don't quite have a handle on living these values out uh yourself you're these values out uh yourself you're these values out uh yourself you're going to have a hard time passing them going to have a hard time passing them going to have a hard time passing them on and expecting others do the same on and expecting others do the same on and expecting others do the same thing so like you said maybe maybe take thing so like you said maybe maybe take thing so like you said maybe maybe take 2024 to work them out tease them out 2024 to work them out tease them out 2024 to work them out tease them out practice living them out before you practice living them out before you practice living them out before you assign them to an entire team pro Church assign them to an entire team pro Church assign them to an entire team pro Church tools values value number one the family tools values value number one the family tools values value number one the family you choose described as quote relational you choose described as quote relational you choose described as quote relational longevity is our Target choosing to be longevity is our Target choosing to be longevity is our Target choosing to be in each other's lives through the ups in each other's lives through the ups in each other's lives through the ups downs and ever evolving stages toasting downs and ever evolving stages toasting downs and ever evolving stages toasting each other's triumphs not abandoning each other's triumphs not abandoning each other's triumphs not abandoning another in not abandoning another in another in not abandoning another in another in not abandoning another in grief uh we know that not every

grief uh we know that not every grief uh we know that not every relationship is for life but often our relationship is for life but often our relationship is for life but often our need to make a living will force change need to make a living will force change need to make a living will force change upon us that fractures our closest upon us that fractures our closest upon us that fractures our closest relationships we want to invert this we relationships we want to invert this we relationships we want to invert this we work to live we don't live to work work to live we don't live to work work to live we don't live to work because family should never be because family should never be because family should never be collateral damage so for those that are collateral damage so for those that are collateral damage so for those that are unfamiliar perhaps with the history of unfamiliar perhaps with the history of unfamiliar perhaps with the history of our company I started pro-church Tools our company I started pro-church Tools our company I started pro-church Tools in 2011 is uh as a third-year student in in 2011 is uh as a third-year student in in 2011 is uh as a third-year student in Bible College was studying to be a youth Bible College was studying to be a youth Bible College was studying to be a youth pastor I have a degree in youth ministry pastor I have a degree in youth ministry pastor I have a degree in youth ministry realized I didn't have perhaps the uh realized I didn't have perhaps the uh realized I didn't have perhaps the uh relational bandwidth to be a full-time relational bandwidth to be a full-time relational bandwidth to be a full-time pastor but wanted to serve churches pastor but wanted to serve churches pastor but wanted to serve churches that's all I cared about doing and so a that's all I cared about doing and so a that's all I cared about doing and so a friend of mine was like yo why don't you friend of mine was like yo why don't you friend of mine was like yo why don't you start like a start like a start like a Blog that's how he spoke yeah we lived Blog that's how he spoke yeah we lived Blog that's how he spoke yeah we lived in Edmonton but he was West Coast in Edmonton but he was West Coast in Edmonton but he was West Coast stereotype California uh and you know he stereotype California uh and you know he stereotype California uh and you know he presented the idea pro-church tools presented the idea pro-church tools presented the idea pro-church tools you're learning a lot as a media you're learning a lot as a media you're learning a lot as a media director at this new Church Plant like director at this new Church Plant like director at this new Church Plant like you can just teach what you're learning you can just teach what you're learning you can just teach what you're learning and I was like cool I love the idea of and I was like cool I love the idea of and I was like cool I love the idea of online business that was really cool uh online business that was really cool uh online business that was really cool uh so so the first person we hired was my so so the first person we hired was my so so the first person we hired was my roommate in college uh and then like the roommate in college uh and then like the roommate in college uh and then like the next five six hires were all um friends next five six hires were all um friends next five six hires were all um friends from youth group and then we brought in from youth group and then we brought in from youth group and then we brought in a foreigner this weird Italian bishop a foreigner this weird Italian bishop a foreigner this weird Italian bishop and you know he really frankly messed up and you know he really frankly messed up and you know he really frankly messed up The Vibes but before that point being is The Vibes but before that point being is The Vibes but before that point being is that when you mix friendship and work that when you mix friendship and work that when you mix friendship and work and this happens in church a lot uh and this happens in church a lot uh and this happens in church a lot uh because church is work but it's also so because church is work but it's also so because church is work but it's also so intertwined with like faith and faith is intertwined with like faith and faith is intertwined with like faith and faith is so so intimate and so personal that even so so intimate and so personal that even so so intimate and so personal that even just the essence of working in church just the essence of working in church just the essence of working in church crosses boundaries that typical crosses boundaries that typical crosses boundaries that typical professions do not and so we kind of

professions do not and so we kind of professions do not and so we kind of have baked into the fabric of the have baked into the fabric of the have baked into the fabric of the company the whole point of what we want company the whole point of what we want company the whole point of what we want is unless someone decides to strike out is unless someone decides to strike out is unless someone decides to strike out on their own or move to a different on their own or move to a different on their own or move to a different country the two transitions we ever had country the two transitions we ever had country the two transitions we ever had were one of each of those things guy was were one of each of those things guy was were one of each of those things guy was like Hey I want to start my own company like Hey I want to start my own company like Hey I want to start my own company we're like awesome praise God go do it we're like awesome praise God go do it we're like awesome praise God go do it and then the other guy was like I want and then the other guy was like I want and then the other guy was like I want to move to another country and we're to move to another country and we're to move to another country and we're like awesome praise God do it yeah like awesome praise God do it yeah like awesome praise God do it yeah unless someone actively chooses to leave unless someone actively chooses to leave unless someone actively chooses to leave the whole point is when we're 65 I want the whole point is when we're 65 I want the whole point is when we're 65 I want to be looking across this table at to be looking across this table at to be looking across this table at Alexander and being like well hey there Alexander and being like well hey there Alexander and being like well hey there apparently at 65 I'm 85 in this apparently at 65 I'm 85 in this apparently at 65 I'm 85 in this apologies apologies uh but that apologies apologies uh but that apologies apologies uh but that necessitates certain concessions right necessitates certain concessions right necessitates certain concessions right yeah it sure does yeah it sure does yeah it sure does and this is not this is not easy to pull and this is not this is not easy to pull and this is not this is not easy to pull off whenever I talk about the complexion off whenever I talk about the complexion off whenever I talk about the complexion and the culture of our Works Space here and the culture of our Works Space here and the culture of our Works Space here I was just on a podcast a couple weeks I was just on a podcast a couple weeks I was just on a podcast a couple weeks ago and I was I was telling the story um ago and I was I was telling the story um ago and I was I was telling the story um and again we were talking actually on and again we were talking actually on and again we were talking actually on that podcast working in church and and that podcast working in church and and that podcast working in church and and the the context of of practicing Faith the the context of of practicing Faith the the context of of practicing Faith with actual family and leading a church with actual family and leading a church with actual family and leading a church with family and how that can be that can with family and how that can be that can with family and how that can be that can be tricky um and like you said there are be tricky um and like you said there are be tricky um and like you said there are some concessions that need to be made to some concessions that need to be made to some concessions that need to be made to to do that effectively and and we're to do that effectively and and we're to do that effectively and and we're trying to do that here and uh I I I trying to do that here and uh I I I trying to do that here and uh I I I think we're pulling it off and I I think think we're pulling it off and I I think think we're pulling it off and I I think that has that's rooted in the fact that that has that's rooted in the fact that that has that's rooted in the fact that this is like so clearly stated in our this is like so clearly stated in our this is like so clearly stated in our values like this is the thing we're values like this is the thing we're values like this is the thing we're trying to do and so to do that requires trying to do and so to do that requires trying to do and so to do that requires us to do ab andc wherein other us to do ab andc wherein other us to do ab andc wherein other organizations may not have to um but organizations may not have to um but organizations may not have to um but this is I mean this is the first one this is I mean this is the first one this is I mean this is the first one we're starting with this is a big

we're starting with this is a big we're starting with this is a big priority of ours and that's why coming priority of ours and that's why coming priority of ours and that's why coming to work uh feels like so much fun for me to work uh feels like so much fun for me to work uh feels like so much fun for me is because I'm coming to work with my is because I'm coming to work with my is because I'm coming to work with my friends who feel like family and and for friends who feel like family and and for friends who feel like family and and for us that's that's a really big value here us that's that's a really big value here us that's that's a really big value here a couple important notes in the a couple important notes in the a couple important notes in the description of this value the first is description of this value the first is description of this value the first is in each other's lives through the ups in each other's lives through the ups in each other's lives through the ups and downs and ever evolving changes so and downs and ever evolving changes so and downs and ever evolving changes so the roommate that I hired him and I the roommate that I hired him and I the roommate that I hired him and I lived together at the age of 19 we lived together at the age of 19 we lived together at the age of 19 we couldn't cook and we would just order couldn't cook and we would just order couldn't cook and we would just order pizza most nights I could not imagine pizza most nights I could not imagine pizza most nights I could not imagine what that room looked like we would what that room looked like we would what that room looked like we would watch WWE yeah and then go to class in watch WWE yeah and then go to class in watch WWE yeah and then go to class in the morning on no the morning on no the morning on no sleep he works here today 12 years later sleep he works here today 12 years later sleep he works here today 12 years later yeah and this year he last year he yeah and this year he last year he yeah and this year he last year he became a father yeah he's married I'm became a father yeah he's married I'm became a father yeah he's married I'm married two kids we're both homeowners married two kids we're both homeowners married two kids we're both homeowners we've worked together now for 12 years we've worked together now for 12 years we've worked together now for 12 years you know Alex as we record this podcast you know Alex as we record this podcast you know Alex as we record this podcast is still on Parental leave with a second is still on Parental leave with a second is still on Parental leave with a second child and things have been difficult as child and things have been difficult as child and things have been difficult as the stages have changed because we've the stages have changed because we've the stages have changed because we've had a certain way of doing things and it had a certain way of doing things and it had a certain way of doing things and it worked but then that person is no longer worked but then that person is no longer worked but then that person is no longer that person anymore like Oh I'm a father that person anymore like Oh I'm a father that person anymore like Oh I'm a father of two I'm a father of one I'm a husband of two I'm a father of one I'm a husband of two I'm a father of one I'm a husband I have other responsibilities you know I have other responsibilities you know I have other responsibilities you know Alex and I Alex and I have had to work Alex and I Alex and I have had to work Alex and I Alex and I have had to work that out in travel like we used to go that out in travel like we used to go that out in travel like we used to go all these places together wherever all these places together wherever all these places together wherever whenever and willy-nilly as they say and whenever and willy-nilly as they say and whenever and willy-nilly as they say and I remember when Alex had his first child I remember when Alex had his first child I remember when Alex had his first child and and I was so happy for and and I was so happy for and and I was so happy for him but there's I sent him this skit him but there's I sent him this skit him but there's I sent him this skit there's this skit I don't know who made there's this skit I don't know who made there's this skit I don't know who made the skit but there's this there's a skit

the skit but there's this there's a skit the skit but there's this there's a skit of this guy and his his bro and his bro of this guy and his his bro and his bro of this guy and his his bro and his bro is like I had a kid and his and and his is like I had a kid and his and and his is like I had a kid and his and and his friend is like yo hold your guy back and friend is like yo hold your guy back and friend is like yo hold your guy back and he starts beefing with the baby cuz he's he starts beefing with the baby cuz he's he starts beefing with the baby cuz he's like this guy he has barely known you like this guy he has barely known you like this guy he has barely known you man I've been here for 10 years you know man I've been here for 10 years you know man I've been here for 10 years you know he doesn't know you this child doesn't he doesn't know you this child doesn't he doesn't know you this child doesn't know you and you know to the point where know you and you know to the point where know you and you know to the point where Alex and I have a joke that like okay Alex and I have a joke that like okay Alex and I have a joke that like okay we're not planning on having any more we're not planning on having any more we're not planning on having any more children right now perhaps we can get children right now perhaps we can get children right now perhaps we can get vasectomies abroad that's right we call vasectomies abroad that's right we call vasectomies abroad that's right we call it the snip trip that's right snip trip it the snip trip that's right snip trip it the snip trip that's right snip trip 2027 like this is the only way we're 2027 like this is the only way we're 2027 like this is the only way we're going to get away from our children going to get away from our children going to get away from our children together and we'll talk about you know together and we'll talk about you know together and we'll talk about you know oh it's a season you know eventually our oh it's a season you know eventually our oh it's a season you know eventually our kids are all going to be in school and kids are all going to be in school and kids are all going to be in school and that's true but there's like this that's true but there's like this that's true but there's like this grieving and mour period where you're grieving and mour period where you're grieving and mour period where you're like we're friends and we work together like we're friends and we work together like we're friends and we work together and we travel and everything's great and and we travel and everything's great and and we travel and everything's great and then we enter a new stage of life and then we enter a new stage of life and then we enter a new stage of life and the stage of life is great and this is the stage of life is great and this is the stage of life is great and this is what makes it Bittersweet and what makes it Bittersweet and what makes it Bittersweet and challenging to work through you're like challenging to work through you're like challenging to work through you're like this is even better there's a new life this is even better there's a new life this is even better there's a new life in this world like Alex is a father of in this world like Alex is a father of in this world like Alex is a father of two now I'm a father of two now I'm a father of two now I'm a father of you you mix a child in there somewhere you you mix a child in there somewhere you you mix a child in there somewhere too you you popped out a but I'll just too you you popped out a but I'll just too you you popped out a but I'll just leave the child I I have no no qus of I leave the child I I have no no qus of I leave the child I I have no no qus of I will go in and take the child Grandpa will go in and take the child Grandpa will go in and take the child Grandpa see you later see you later see you later um and so you you you celebrate it but um and so you you you celebrate it but um and so you you you celebrate it but then you're also mourning like okay that then you're also mourning like okay that then you're also mourning like okay that stage of life as like young marrieds stage of life as like young marrieds stage of life as like young marrieds without kids is gone and it's never without kids is gone and it's never without kids is gone and it's never coming back yeah but this is the family coming back yeah but this is the family coming back yeah but this is the family you choose so how do you stay in each you choose so how do you stay in each you choose so how do you stay in each other's life through and in the new other's life through and in the new other's life through and in the new stage uh we also have in this stage uh we also have in this stage uh we also have in this description we know not every description we know not every description we know not every relationship is for life that's an relationship is for life that's an relationship is for life that's an important caveat because at any point important caveat because at any point important caveat because at any point someone else can be like hey I feel like someone else can be like hey I feel like someone else can be like hey I feel like the next stage of Life For Me looks like

the next stage of Life For Me looks like the next stage of Life For Me looks like this people joined this company at the this people joined this company at the this people joined this company at the age of 21 everyone moved here like 21 age of 21 everyone moved here like 21 age of 21 everyone moved here like 21 it's not realistic to think that someone it's not realistic to think that someone it's not realistic to think that someone might not wake up at the age of 35 or 45 might not wake up at the age of 35 or 45 might not wake up at the age of 35 or 45 and be like you know what I'd like to and be like you know what I'd like to and be like you know what I'd like to try something different in my life I try something different in my life I try something different in my life I only get this one life and I've always only get this one life and I've always only get this one life and I've always wanted to X I'm going to go do that and wanted to X I'm going to go do that and wanted to X I'm going to go do that and that is something else that we want to that is something else that we want to that is something else that we want to celebrate and yet also more in the fact celebrate and yet also more in the fact celebrate and yet also more in the fact that it is a new that's right uh and that it is a new that's right uh and that it is a new that's right uh and then finally uh we believe that this then finally uh we believe that this then finally uh we believe that this work allows us to stay in each other's work allows us to stay in each other's work allows us to stay in each other's lives the biggest reason why we started lives the biggest reason why we started lives the biggest reason why we started this company was because I wanted my this company was because I wanted my this company was because I wanted my friends from college to just stay here friends from college to just stay here friends from college to just stay here and now they can't leave that's right and now they can't leave that's right and now they can't leave that's right got them value number two Vibes just got them value number two Vibes just got them value number two Vibes just simply Vibes this is what I was alluding simply Vibes this is what I was alluding simply Vibes this is what I was alluding to earlier that maybe the language to earlier that maybe the language to earlier that maybe the language specifically for us may not resonate specifically for us may not resonate specifically for us may not resonate with your church that's okay you can with your church that's okay you can with your church that's okay you can find it the description here find it the description here find it the description here productivity is not the highest goal the productivity is not the highest goal the productivity is not the highest goal the bottom line is not the ultimate bottom line is not the ultimate bottom line is not the ultimate motivator for what will it profit us to motivator for what will it profit us to motivator for what will it profit us to gain the whole world yet forfeit our gain the whole world yet forfeit our gain the whole world yet forfeit our souls practically this could mean souls practically this could mean souls practically this could mean choosing a hybrid work week over Peak choosing a hybrid work week over Peak choosing a hybrid work week over Peak efficiency or investing in memorable efficiency or investing in memorable efficiency or investing in memorable shared experiences instead of stashing a shared experiences instead of stashing a shared experiences instead of stashing a bit more away structurally we won't bit more away structurally we won't bit more away structurally we won't sacrifice our Collective well-being on sacrifice our Collective well-being on sacrifice our Collective well-being on the altar of private the altar of private the altar of private Enterprise so yesterday I went to the Enterprise so yesterday I went to the Enterprise so yesterday I went to the bank and I had to send the bank and I had to send the bank and I had to send the wire for the rest of our owed amount on wire for the rest of our owed amount on wire for the rest of our owed amount on our vacation rental for the corporate our vacation rental for the corporate our vacation rental for the corporate retreat yikes and you know it's kind of retreat yikes and you know it's kind of retreat yikes and you know it's kind of like when I pay my taxes and listen I've like when I pay my taxes and listen I've like when I pay my taxes and listen I've had to pay some taxes to the IRS if had to pay some taxes to the IRS if had to pay some taxes to the IRS if you're an American I don't empathize or you're an American I don't empathize or you're an American I don't empathize or sympathize with you but when I pay my sympathize with you but when I pay my sympathize with you but when I pay my taxes to this great country of Canada taxes to this great country of Canada taxes to this great country of Canada there's always this feeling of that's a

there's always this feeling of that's a there's always this feeling of that's a lot of money y but there's also this lot of money y but there's also this lot of money y but there's also this feeling and perhaps it becomes lesser feeling and perhaps it becomes lesser feeling and perhaps it becomes lesser every year of you know what though I'm every year of you know what though I'm every year of you know what though I'm glad to live here and I'm glad to you glad to live here and I'm glad to you glad to live here and I'm glad to you know contribute in my way when I sent know contribute in my way when I sent know contribute in my way when I sent the wire for this vacation rental I was the wire for this vacation rental I was the wire for this vacation rental I was like it's a lot of like it's a lot of like it's a lot of money and you start like just doing the money and you start like just doing the money and you start like just doing the quick math you're like if I put this in quick math you're like if I put this in quick math you're like if I put this in the bank today at this percent interest the bank today at this percent interest the bank today at this percent interest over this many years that wouldn't be over this many years that wouldn't be over this many years that wouldn't be this much money and so there's always this much money and so there's always this much money and so there's always this opportunity cost anytime you spend this opportunity cost anytime you spend this opportunity cost anytime you spend money but especially at this age you money but especially at this age you money but especially at this age you could stash that away and it could 10 to could stash that away and it could 10 to could stash that away and it could 10 to whatever I don't know 100 I don't know whatever I don't know 100 I don't know whatever I don't know 100 I don't know how many X's interest is crazy over 35 how many X's interest is crazy over 35 how many X's interest is crazy over 35 years or I could burn it all for seven years or I could burn it all for seven years or I could burn it all for seven days with the team here and I say burn days with the team here and I say burn days with the team here and I say burn it all to basically frame it in the way it all to basically frame it in the way it all to basically frame it in the way that like sometimes our brains think that like sometimes our brains think that like sometimes our brains think that way but like written in this value that way but like written in this value that way but like written in this value is we want to invest in experiences you is we want to invest in experiences you is we want to invest in experiences you know I I've always believed that that know I I've always believed that that know I I've always believed that that travel and especially travel with people travel and especially travel with people travel and especially travel with people you love is one of the most rewarding you love is one of the most rewarding you love is one of the most rewarding ways to spend your money you know if ways to spend your money you know if ways to spend your money you know if nothing else for when the camera roll nothing else for when the camera roll nothing else for when the camera roll reminds you seven years later hey reminds you seven years later hey reminds you seven years later hey remember when you did this like we've remember when you did this like we've remember when you did this like we've all had that experience where you open all had that experience where you open all had that experience where you open your camera roll or Facebook and it's your camera roll or Facebook and it's your camera roll or Facebook and it's like hey this was what you were doing like hey this was what you were doing like hey this was what you were doing seven years ago uh and then the other seven years ago uh and then the other seven years ago uh and then the other part of that is there are moments where part of that is there are moments where part of that is there are moments where I'm like wanting to message someone I'm like wanting to message someone I'm like wanting to message someone after hours or I'm like okay we need to after hours or I'm like okay we need to after hours or I'm like okay we need to like really work hard to get this out like really work hard to get this out like really work hard to get this out and sometimes we do but then a lot of and sometimes we do but then a lot of and sometimes we do but then a lot of the times I catch myself and I go hey the times I catch myself and I go hey the times I catch myself and I go hey the whole point of this value is like the whole point of this value is like the whole point of this value is like you've chosen to work a certain way but you've chosen to work a certain way but you've chosen to work a certain way but that doesn't mean your employees are that doesn't mean your employees are that doesn't mean your employees are choosing to work that way and wait until choosing to work that way and wait until choosing to work that way and wait until they're back in the office let's say they're back in the office let's say they're back in the office let's say it'll everything will get done is there it'll everything will get done is there it'll everything will get done is there is there something pressing that we need is there something pressing that we need is there something pressing that we need to work on that yeah we're recording a

to work on that yeah we're recording a to work on that yeah we're recording a triple podcast right now back to back to triple podcast right now back to back to triple podcast right now back to back to back while you're on Parental leave you back while you're on Parental leave you back while you're on Parental leave you know so apparently apparently we're not know so apparently apparently we're not know so apparently apparently we're not abiding by this value today no no I I abiding by this value today no no I I abiding by this value today no no I I committed to this um my parental leave committed to this um my parental leave committed to this um my parental leave is is a perfect example of this right is is a perfect example of this right is is a perfect example of this right like and and I I often bring up like and and I I often bring up like and and I I often bring up conversations when we're talking about conversations when we're talking about conversations when we're talking about work here I often bring up conversations work here I often bring up conversations work here I often bring up conversations that I have outside of work about my that I have outside of work about my that I have outside of work about my work uh with folks friends and family work uh with folks friends and family work uh with folks friends and family who ask when they find out oh you get who ask when they find out oh you get who ask when they find out oh you get you're taking three months off like how you're taking three months off like how you're taking three months off like how did you pull that off and I get to tell did you pull that off and I get to tell did you pull that off and I get to tell them well like blackmail no it wasn't them well like blackmail no it wasn't them well like blackmail no it wasn't blackmail I'm like well um my boss is my blackmail I'm like well um my boss is my blackmail I'm like well um my boss is my happens to be my best friend and he's a happens to be my best friend and he's a happens to be my best friend and he's a very generous person and my I work with very generous person and my I work with very generous person and my I work with my friends and they were malleable in my friends and they were malleable in my friends and they were malleable in this way and so they made space for me this way and so they made space for me this way and so they made space for me to do this and they're like that sounds to do this and they're like that sounds to do this and they're like that sounds amazing I'm like yeah it is and and and amazing I'm like yeah it is and and and amazing I'm like yeah it is and and and that's why this value The Vibes although that's why this value The Vibes although that's why this value The Vibes although not my favorite title is is one of one not my favorite title is is one of one not my favorite title is is one of one of my favorite values that we have here of my favorite values that we have here of my favorite values that we have here um um um because there's like and especially the because there's like and especially the because there's like and especially the way you've articulated here in the way you've articulated here in the way you've articulated here in the description there's like this um description there's like this um description there's like this um ecclesiastical in the sense of like the ecclesiastical in the sense of like the ecclesiastical in the sense of like the Book of Ecclesiastes sense to it which Book of Ecclesiastes sense to it which Book of Ecclesiastes sense to it which is yes there is there is one sense of of is yes there is there is one sense of of is yes there is there is one sense of of productivity being the highest goal um productivity being the highest goal um productivity being the highest goal um um capital gains being the highest goal um capital gains being the highest goal um capital gains being the highest goal um putting away as much for retirement um putting away as much for retirement um putting away as much for retirement as you can being the highest goal and as you can being the highest goal and as you can being the highest goal and similar to the first uh value here the similar to the first uh value here the similar to the first uh value here the way we the way we're operating is it it way we the way we're operating is it it way we the way we're operating is it it tries to invert that is countercultural tries to invert that is countercultural tries to invert that is countercultural to that it celebrates more like um um

to that it celebrates more like um um to that it celebrates more like um um yes celebrating the fruits of our labor yes celebrating the fruits of our labor yes celebrating the fruits of our labor now so that when we look back over the now so that when we look back over the now so that when we look back over the course of our work it's marked by trips course of our work it's marked by trips course of our work it's marked by trips and by memories and by goodness and and by memories and by goodness and and by memories and by goodness and gladness as opposed to just like how gladness as opposed to just like how gladness as opposed to just like how much money I put away for the future um much money I put away for the future um much money I put away for the future um this is again this is a value system or this is again this is a value system or this is again this is a value system or a value in this system that that keeps a value in this system that that keeps a value in this system that that keeps our our morale um uh high at almost all our our morale um uh high at almost all our our morale um uh high at almost all times it keeps us excited about the work times it keeps us excited about the work times it keeps us excited about the work we're doing because the environment we're doing because the environment we're doing because the environment we're working in is is Catered towards we're working in is is Catered towards we're working in is is Catered towards um our our personhood as opposed to our um our our personhood as opposed to our um our our personhood as opposed to our productivity and that's just really productivity and that's just really productivity and that's just really special to us um so yeah The Vibes the special to us um so yeah The Vibes the special to us um so yeah The Vibes the the corporate retreat that we do every the corporate retreat that we do every the corporate retreat that we do every year and this will be our second year year and this will be our second year year and this will be our second year it's almost the cost of another employee it's almost the cost of another employee it's almost the cost of another employee not quite right like it's like 75% of not quite right like it's like 75% of not quite right like it's like 75% of the cost of another employee for one the cost of another employee for one the cost of another employee for one week M we were talking about this the week M we were talking about this the week M we were talking about this the other day Alex and I we were like hey other day Alex and I we were like hey other day Alex and I we were like hey this is the second year and everyone's this is the second year and everyone's this is the second year and everyone's looking forward to it a bit more and looking forward to it a bit more and looking forward to it a bit more and we've done Retreats for a long time but we've done Retreats for a long time but we've done Retreats for a long time but this this once Co happened we couldn't this this once Co happened we couldn't this this once Co happened we couldn't really go anywhere so we've gotten back really go anywhere so we've gotten back really go anywhere so we've gotten back to these International Retreats where we to these International Retreats where we to these International Retreats where we go to the Caribbean and we were like go to the Caribbean and we were like go to the Caribbean and we were like think about our our kids like every year think about our our kids like every year think about our our kids like every year they're going to have this experience so they're going to have this experience so they're going to have this experience so when we talk about investing money and when we talk about investing money and when we talk about investing money and like oh here's what it turns out into in like oh here's what it turns out into in like oh here's what it turns out into in like 30 years well what does investment like 30 years well what does investment like 30 years well what does investment in us going away every single year and in us going away every single year and in us going away every single year and creating that work and family tradition creating that work and family tradition creating that work and family tradition what does that investment turn into over what does that investment turn into over what does that investment turn into over the course of 5 10 15 20 years okay at the course of 5 10 15 20 years okay at the course of 5 10 15 20 years okay at the risk of turning this into a two-hour the risk of turning this into a two-hour the risk of turning this into a two-hour episode I have to share this because episode I have to share this because episode I have to share this because this is a perfect example of how these

this is a perfect example of how these this is a perfect example of how these values um contribute to the way you make values um contribute to the way you make values um contribute to the way you make decisions as an organization as a church decisions as an organization as a church decisions as an organization as a church as a team when it came to the as a team when it came to the as a team when it came to the international Retreats when and when we international Retreats when and when we international Retreats when and when we were talking about what they cost some were talking about what they cost some were talking about what they cost some of us me included uh in our team SP up of us me included uh in our team SP up of us me included uh in our team SP up and said hey that's a lot of money like and said hey that's a lot of money like and said hey that's a lot of money like can we talk about how we're spending can we talk about how we're spending can we talk about how we're spending this money why we're spending this money this money why we're spending this money this money why we're spending this money and if we didn't have values articulated and if we didn't have values articulated and if we didn't have values articulated we would be kind of lost as to how to we would be kind of lost as to how to we would be kind of lost as to how to make a decision about should we do a a make a decision about should we do a a make a decision about should we do a a trip like this this scale but because trip like this this scale but because trip like this this scale but because this is built into who we are the this is built into who we are the this is built into who we are the culture of our team we're able to say culture of our team we're able to say culture of our team we're able to say like oh we value this and so this is you like oh we value this and so this is you like oh we value this and so this is you were able to to articulate this is why were able to to articulate this is why were able to to articulate this is why to you as a business owner this is why to you as a business owner this is why to you as a business owner this is why this trip is worth this amount of money this trip is worth this amount of money this trip is worth this amount of money compared to what we would have done with compared to what we would have done with compared to what we would have done with this amount of money so that's just a this amount of money so that's just a this amount of money so that's just a great example about how these values and great example about how these values and great example about how these values and the values that you're going to tease the values that you're going to tease the values that you're going to tease out with your team um guide and shape out with your team um guide and shape out with your team um guide and shape the decisions you make about what you're the decisions you make about what you're the decisions you make about what you're going to do what you're not going to do going to do what you're not going to do going to do what you're not going to do um that that's just such a great example um that that's just such a great example um that that's just such a great example of how that worked out for us uh earlier of how that worked out for us uh earlier of how that worked out for us uh earlier this year value number three say the this year value number three say the this year value number three say the quiet part out loud okay this is one of quiet part out loud okay this is one of quiet part out loud okay this is one of those that feels great to write down those that feels great to write down those that feels great to write down that's right feels less great when you that's right feels less great when you that's right feels less great when you get that after hour slack message need get that after hour slack message need get that after hour slack message need to talk which still triggers so much to talk which still triggers so much to talk which still triggers so much trauma in me please don't say that if trauma in me please don't say that if trauma in me please don't say that if you're going to say that you're going to you're going to say that you're going to you're going to say that you're going to have to give me a precursor you got to have to give me a precursor you got to have to give me a precursor you got to lay down broadly somewhat of what we're lay down broadly somewhat of what we're lay down broadly somewhat of what we're going to talk about otherwise I won't be going to talk about otherwise I won't be going to talk about otherwise I won't be able to sleep at night description for able to sleep at night description for able to sleep at night description for this value we value speaking plainly this value we value speaking plainly this value we value speaking plainly this could mean talking openly in

this could mean talking openly in this could mean talking openly in difficult situations not shortcutting difficult situations not shortcutting difficult situations not shortcutting conflict resolution or simply refusing conflict resolution or simply refusing conflict resolution or simply refusing to let bitterness simmer by letting to let bitterness simmer by letting to let bitterness simmer by letting things go unsaid fundamentally we don't things go unsaid fundamentally we don't things go unsaid fundamentally we don't believe in trying to hide the real thing believe in trying to hide the real thing believe in trying to hide the real thing we're trying to we're trying to we're trying to say so this is a necess necessity as a say so this is a necess necessity as a say so this is a necess necessity as a value from my perspective because if value from my perspective because if value from my perspective because if you're going to have people in your life you're going to have people in your life you're going to have people in your life for 10 20 30 40 years there are going to for 10 20 30 40 years there are going to for 10 20 30 40 years there are going to be times where you have to work through be times where you have to work through be times where you have to work through conflict that is inevitable I think in a conflict that is inevitable I think in a conflict that is inevitable I think in a lot of workplaces you can use HR as an lot of workplaces you can use HR as an lot of workplaces you can use HR as an intermediator you can sidestep real intermediator you can sidestep real intermediator you can sidestep real conflict resolution by just being like conflict resolution by just being like conflict resolution by just being like Oh yeah she's that's just yeah we we're Oh yeah she's that's just yeah we we're Oh yeah she's that's just yeah we we're not about that right we don't like her not about that right we don't like her not about that right we don't like her other less than Savory other less than Savory other less than Savory terms well that can't happen when like terms well that can't happen when like terms well that can't happen when like you're a family otherwise like the you're a family otherwise like the you're a family otherwise like the bitterness simmers resentment grows and bitterness simmers resentment grows and bitterness simmers resentment grows and things things things fracture so this has been fun I'm a pretty people no no one no one fun I'm a pretty people no no one no one says they're a confrontational person says they're a confrontational person says they're a confrontational person everyone's like I'm not a everyone's like I'm not a everyone's like I'm not a confrontational person like I it's like confrontational person like I it's like confrontational person like I it's like everyone's a visual learner I'm I'm just everyone's a visual learner I'm I'm just everyone's a visual learner I'm I'm just a visual learner it's like I think a visual learner it's like I think a visual learner it's like I think everyone is like both of those things everyone is like both of those things everyone is like both of those things sure but I have very much believed in sure but I have very much believed in sure but I have very much believed in living by this value and so we have living by this value and so we have living by this value and so we have confronted many different things where confronted many different things where confronted many different things where we've been like all right let's get it we've been like all right let's get it we've been like all right let's get it out let's talk it out let's talk it out let's talk it through the one you just brought up is a through the one you just brought up is a through the one you just brought up is a great example I was like we're going on great example I was like we're going on great example I was like we're going on this Retreat hope you like five star this Retreat hope you like five star this Retreat hope you like five star luxury and everyone was like what about luxury and everyone was like what about luxury and everyone was like what about the Lord and I was like and I was like wait what and we

like and I was like wait what and we talked through it and I would like get talked through it and I would like get talked through it and I would like get in my car and I'd be like what just in my car and I'd be like what just in my car and I'd be like what just happened like that why is this a why why happened like that why is this a why why happened like that why is this a why why are people upset about this um and we are people upset about this um and we are people upset about this um and we worked through it together and then you worked through it together and then you worked through it together and then you have values and then you can lean back have values and then you can lean back have values and then you can lean back on those values to say okay here's how on those values to say okay here's how on those values to say okay here's how we're making decisions like okay I don't we're making decisions like okay I don't we're making decisions like okay I don't necessarily agree always with the necessarily agree always with the necessarily agree always with the expression of that value but I do agree expression of that value but I do agree expression of that value but I do agree with that value and you don't always with that value and you don't always with that value and you don't always come to a 100% conclusion on everything come to a 100% conclusion on everything come to a 100% conclusion on everything but say the quiet part loud has truly but say the quiet part loud has truly but say the quiet part loud has truly saved us uh so many times and what it saved us uh so many times and what it saved us uh so many times and what it does is it builds the foundation for does is it builds the foundation for does is it builds the foundation for stronger relationships in the long term stronger relationships in the long term stronger relationships in the long term I remember you know you all know I have I remember you know you all know I have I remember you know you all know I have 3.5 best 3.5 best 3.5 best friends one of my uh best friends is 10 friends one of my uh best friends is 10 friends one of my uh best friends is 10 years my senior he's a pastor and when years my senior he's a pastor and when years my senior he's a pastor and when we were first starting to develop our we were first starting to develop our we were first starting to develop our friendship we were away on a trip and in friendship we were away on a trip and in friendship we were away on a trip and in Phoenix and he like kind of came to me Phoenix and he like kind of came to me Phoenix and he like kind of came to me at one point and he was like you know at one point and he was like you know at one point and he was like you know I've never really had a close guy friend I've never really had a close guy friend I've never really had a close guy friend and I'm I'm worried that like you're and I'm I'm worried that like you're and I'm I'm worried that like you're just one day not going to want to be my just one day not going to want to be my just one day not going to want to be my friend anymore like you're just going to friend anymore like you're just going to friend anymore like you're just going to be like oh now I know the real you and I be like oh now I know the real you and I be like oh now I know the real you and I think every one of us can resonate with think every one of us can resonate with think every one of us can resonate with that feeling where like if I showed this that feeling where like if I showed this that feeling where like if I showed this person my real self they would not want person my real self they would not want person my real self they would not want to be here anymore and we worked through to be here anymore and we worked through to be here anymore and we worked through that together and then in the years that that together and then in the years that that together and then in the years that have gone by since then this was maybe have gone by since then this was maybe have gone by since then this was maybe seven or eight years ago we've often seven or eight years ago we've often seven or eight years ago we've often cited that as like that was this cited that as like that was this cited that as like that was this inflection moment for our relationship inflection moment for our relationship inflection moment for our relationship we're like we're like are we really we're like we're like are we really we're like we're like are we really going to go deep here or are we just going to go deep here or are we just going to go deep here or are we just going to kind of stay here and for him going to kind of stay here and for him going to kind of stay here and for him he had really only ever stayed there he had really only ever stayed there he had really only ever stayed there with people and my wife had a very

with people and my wife had a very with people and my wife had a very similar thing recently with one of her similar thing recently with one of her similar thing recently with one of her friends and they kind of had their first friends and they kind of had their first friends and they kind of had their first real like conflict and my wife who real like conflict and my wife who real like conflict and my wife who famously is a people pleaser like wrote famously is a people pleaser like wrote famously is a people pleaser like wrote a text and was like no I like I stood up a text and was like no I like I stood up a text and was like no I like I stood up for myself and I said I see your for myself and I said I see your for myself and I said I see your feelings but this is how I felt and they feelings but this is how I felt and they feelings but this is how I felt and they came out of that a lot stronger and I came out of that a lot stronger and I came out of that a lot stronger and I said like every relationship has to go said like every relationship has to go said like every relationship has to go through this moment and once you have through this moment and once you have through this moment and once you have that in the rear view you have the that in the rear view you have the that in the rear view you have the script for what your relationship is script for what your relationship is script for what your relationship is going to do when you encounter conflict going to do when you encounter conflict going to do when you encounter conflict because you're basically deciding in because you're basically deciding in because you're basically deciding in that initial moment are we going to that initial moment are we going to that initial moment are we going to always just kind of sidestep it or are always just kind of sidestep it or are always just kind of sidestep it or are we going to face it headon to get we going to face it headon to get we going to face it headon to get through it together and this coded value through it together and this coded value through it together and this coded value is basically saying we are always going is basically saying we are always going is basically saying we are always going to face it head on to get through it to face it head on to get through it to face it head on to get through it together otherwise the previous two together otherwise the previous two together otherwise the previous two values actually don't even matter that's values actually don't even matter that's values actually don't even matter that's right cuz we can't live through them if right cuz we can't live through them if right cuz we can't live through them if we don't live this one that's right yeah we don't live this one that's right yeah we don't live this one that's right yeah value number four clear the value number four clear the value number four clear the runway descripted description is this runway descripted description is this runway descripted description is this we're not naive what we're trying to do we're not naive what we're trying to do we're not naive what we're trying to do here is ambitious and the world's here is ambitious and the world's here is ambitious and the world's systems are not made to cater to this systems are not made to cater to this systems are not made to cater to this ideal that means we're always ideal that means we're always ideal that means we're always forecasting what's to come and preparing forecasting what's to come and preparing forecasting what's to come and preparing to remove obstacles on the horizon to remove obstacles on the horizon to remove obstacles on the horizon basically we never want to go back to basically we never want to go back to basically we never want to go back to the way it was before so this value is the way it was before so this value is the way it was before so this value is an acknowledgement that the world an acknowledgement that the world an acknowledgement that the world systems and the way that things are are systems and the way that things are are systems and the way that things are are constantly pulling us away from what constantly pulling us away from what constantly pulling us away from what we're trying to do right so if you think we're trying to do right so if you think we're trying to do right so if you think from those first three values yeah right from those first three values yeah right from those first three values yeah right if you think about like you know the if you think about like you know the if you think about like you know the scriptural value of like the the the scriptural value of like the the the scriptural value of like the the the road is narrow and and be careful that road is narrow and and be careful that road is narrow and and be careful that you're not slipping off of the road you're not slipping off of the road you're not slipping off of the road because it's it's very easy to think because it's it's very easy to think because it's it's very easy to think you're on the straight and narrow but you're on the straight and narrow but you're on the straight and narrow but you're not you're teetering off the edge you're not you're teetering off the edge you're not you're teetering off the edge and so this is an acknowledgement of and so this is an acknowledgement of and so this is an acknowledgement of kind of the Frog boiling in the water kind of the Frog boiling in the water kind of the Frog boiling in the water syndrome where like you don't realize as

syndrome where like you don't realize as syndrome where like you don't realize as the temperature gets up up up until it's the temperature gets up up up until it's the temperature gets up up up until it's too late this is acknowledgement like too late this is acknowledgement like too late this is acknowledgement like you always have to recalibrate you have you always have to recalibrate you have you always have to recalibrate you have to remeasure you have to revisit these to remeasure you have to revisit these to remeasure you have to revisit these values and make sure okay where have I values and make sure okay where have I values and make sure okay where have I slipped not am I slipping where have I slipped not am I slipping where have I slipped not am I slipping where have I slipped because all the world systems slipped because all the world systems slipped because all the world systems are pulling you away from it it's very are pulling you away from it it's very are pulling you away from it it's very easy to be like last time we lived by easy to be like last time we lived by easy to be like last time we lived by these values which means we'll always these values which means we'll always these values which means we'll always live by these values no no no no it's a live by these values no no no no it's a live by these values no no no no it's a constant constant constant vigilance and you say it in the value vigilance and you say it in the value vigilance and you say it in the value that that that requires like foresight looking ahead requires like foresight looking ahead requires like foresight looking ahead clear the runway exactly into the future clear the runway exactly into the future clear the runway exactly into the future um cuz it's often that that when when um cuz it's often that that when when um cuz it's often that that when when you're in the midst of something you you're in the midst of something you you're in the midst of something you know that that phrase hindsight's 2020 know that that phrase hindsight's 2020 know that that phrase hindsight's 2020 it's because when you're in the midst of it's because when you're in the midst of it's because when you're in the midst of something you can't see it as clearly as something you can't see it as clearly as something you can't see it as clearly as you can when you look at it in the rear you can when you look at it in the rear you can when you look at it in the rear view and so it takes proactive foresight view and so it takes proactive foresight view and so it takes proactive foresight to look into the future and say okay we to look into the future and say okay we to look into the future and say okay we are going to encounter A and C how do we are going to encounter A and C how do we are going to encounter A and C how do we prepare for that to happen or how do how prepare for that to happen or how do how prepare for that to happen or how do how do we prepare to navigate that so that do we prepare to navigate that so that do we prepare to navigate that so that we can maintain this this sense of we can maintain this this sense of we can maintain this this sense of homeostasis that we that we that we homeostasis that we that we that we homeostasis that we that we that we currently have yeah and and this also currently have yeah and and this also currently have yeah and and this also reflects on my desire to stash money reflects on my desire to stash money reflects on my desire to stash money away right like when I was describing away right like when I was describing away right like when I was describing earlier oh this this this lump sum could earlier oh this this this lump sum could earlier oh this this this lump sum could go towards the retreat for 7 days or it go towards the retreat for 7 days or it go towards the retreat for 7 days or it could go to like the forever stash fund could go to like the forever stash fund could go to like the forever stash fund the the forever stash fund is not like the the forever stash fund is not like the the forever stash fund is not like only there for like riches it's there only there for like riches it's there only there for like riches it's there for an indefinite Runway so when Co for an indefinite Runway so when Co for an indefinite Runway so when Co happened we had a cushion to lean back happened we had a cushion to lean back happened we had a cushion to lean back on well what's the next thing that's on well what's the next thing that's on well what's the next thing that's going to happen I don't know but

going to happen I don't know but going to happen I don't know but something's going to happen and if we something's going to happen and if we something's going to happen and if we don't have that cushion suddenly and don't have that cushion suddenly and don't have that cushion suddenly and this is where a lot of us find ourselves this is where a lot of us find ourselves this is where a lot of us find ourselves a lot of people are probably listening a lot of people are probably listening a lot of people are probably listening to this watching this being like Oh must to this watching this being like Oh must to this watching this being like Oh must be nice for a lot of things like is I be nice for a lot of things like is I be nice for a lot of things like is I don't ever want to have to make the hard don't ever want to have to make the hard don't ever want to have to make the hard decision between like this person or decision between like this person or decision between like this person or like continuing this company in this way like continuing this company in this way like continuing this company in this way and so you have to have enough of a and so you have to have enough of a and so you have to have enough of a cushion so that the runway is cleared cushion so that the runway is cleared cushion so that the runway is cleared enough that when you have to spend a enough that when you have to spend a enough that when you have to spend a little more time on the runway before little more time on the runway before little more time on the runway before taking off like you can just keep doing taking off like you can just keep doing taking off like you can just keep doing it before it just runs out of space and it before it just runs out of space and it before it just runs out of space and suddenly like well we got to take off or suddenly like well we got to take off or suddenly like well we got to take off or we're just going to crash right two more we're just going to crash right two more we're just going to crash right two more values here second to last bring Heaven values here second to last bring Heaven values here second to last bring Heaven to Earth quote we want to do work with to Earth quote we want to do work with to Earth quote we want to do work with purpose the kind a purpose that affects purpose the kind a purpose that affects purpose the kind a purpose that affects positive life change around the world we positive life change around the world we positive life change around the world we also believe that we have the agency to also believe that we have the agency to also believe that we have the agency to bring a little more light or a little bring a little more light or a little bring a little more light or a little more Darkness into the world with every more Darkness into the world with every more Darkness into the world with every choice we make so it doesn't matter how choice we make so it doesn't matter how choice we make so it doesn't matter how big or small our aspiration for every big or small our aspiration for every big or small our aspiration for every interaction and every creative interaction and every creative interaction and every creative expression is simple on Earth as it is expression is simple on Earth as it is expression is simple on Earth as it is in in in heaven you know you run a business you heaven you know you run a business you heaven you know you run a business you do work Alex can attest to this it do work Alex can attest to this it do work Alex can attest to this it doesn't matter how much you love your doesn't matter how much you love your doesn't matter how much you love your work work is also just work sure maybe work work is also just work sure maybe work work is also just work sure maybe it's another customer conversation with it's another customer conversation with it's another customer conversation with a person that's aggravated and so they a person that's aggravated and so they a person that's aggravated and so they come to you in a bit of a sour mood and come to you in a bit of a sour mood and come to you in a bit of a sour mood and you don't really feel like you know you don't really feel like you know you don't really feel like you know bringing your best or maybe it's like ah bringing your best or maybe it's like ah bringing your best or maybe it's like ah I have to make another Instagram post oh I have to make another Instagram post oh I have to make another Instagram post oh the last few people haven't resonated the last few people haven't resonated the last few people haven't resonated with them as much I put so much into with them as much I put so much into with them as much I put so much into them people weren't really feeling them them people weren't really feeling them them people weren't really feeling them and you got to bring yourself to it and you got to bring yourself to it and you got to bring yourself to it again and we are always reminding again and we are always reminding again and we are always reminding ourselves every opportunity this is a ourselves every opportunity this is a ourselves every opportunity this is a chance for us to bring a little bit more chance for us to bring a little bit more chance for us to bring a little bit more Heaven to Earth and we don't know who

Heaven to Earth and we don't know who Heaven to Earth and we don't know who this might affect on the other side of this might affect on the other side of this might affect on the other side of the screen we don't know who or how this the screen we don't know who or how this the screen we don't know who or how this might affect who we're becoming might affect who we're becoming might affect who we're becoming ourselves but this is the aspiration ourselves but this is the aspiration ourselves but this is the aspiration that's right and then final company that's right and then final company that's right and then final company value yes B yes no be no this is the one value yes B yes no be no this is the one value yes B yes no be no this is the one that we've added most recently it reads that we've added most recently it reads that we've added most recently it reads as such quote people trust us we hold as such quote people trust us we hold as such quote people trust us we hold that in high esteem keeping that trust that in high esteem keeping that trust that in high esteem keeping that trust demands that our words are pure and our demands that our words are pure and our demands that our words are pure and our actions live up to our words and yet actions live up to our words and yet actions live up to our words and yet opportunity will always exist to stretch opportunity will always exist to stretch opportunity will always exist to stretch intent in service of our own interests intent in service of our own interests intent in service of our own interests in light of this our commitment is not in light of this our commitment is not in light of this our commitment is not to manipulate sensationalize overpromise to manipulate sensationalize overpromise to manipulate sensationalize overpromise misdirect or in any way purposefully misdirect or in any way purposefully misdirect or in any way purposefully mislead people with our words we uphold mislead people with our words we uphold mislead people with our words we uphold and affirm this value through our and affirm this value through our and affirm this value through our actions so there is a part to this that actions so there is a part to this that actions so there is a part to this that I will not disclose but one way that I will not disclose but one way that I will not disclose but one way that this gets continually expressed is this gets continually expressed is this gets continually expressed is through the content that I create there through the content that I create there through the content that I create there is this constant pull on social media to is this constant pull on social media to is this constant pull on social media to just dial up The just dial up The just dial up The Sensational Essence a little bit more Sensational Essence a little bit more Sensational Essence a little bit more because it will because it will because it will predictably translate to better predictably translate to better predictably translate to better performance and that is very tempting performance and that is very tempting performance and that is very tempting it's the dopamine head of if I eat this it's the dopamine head of if I eat this it's the dopamine head of if I eat this chocolate it will feel good yeah will chocolate it will feel good yeah will chocolate it will feel good yeah will you ever eat cholate and won't feel good you ever eat cholate and won't feel good you ever eat cholate and won't feel good well if you eat so much that you puke well if you eat so much that you puke well if you eat so much that you puke and there can be so much over and there can be so much over and there can be so much over sensationalizing that you even feel sensationalizing that you even feel sensationalizing that you even feel gross about it but almost every time gross about it but almost every time gross about it but almost every time like if I just dialed up the outrage a like if I just dialed up the outrage a like if I just dialed up the outrage a little bit more if I did this a little little bit more if I did this a little little bit more if I did this a little bit more it would result in more of what bit more it would result in more of what bit more it would result in more of what I know is good for the company yeah or I know is good for the company yeah or I know is good for the company yeah or good for the performance of this post good for the performance of this post good for the performance of this post but you have to be you know you have to but you have to be you know you have to but you have to be you know you have to ex just manage that you have to temper

ex just manage that you have to temper ex just manage that you have to temper that desire within you because in the that desire within you because in the that desire within you because in the long term it's destructive even if in long term it's destructive even if in long term it's destructive even if in the short term it achieves what you are the short term it achieves what you are the short term it achieves what you are wanting to achieve right and and this wanting to achieve right and and this wanting to achieve right and and this comes out um like you said in your in comes out um like you said in your in comes out um like you said in your in the content that we produce whether it's the content that we produce whether it's the content that we produce whether it's YouTube videos or Instagram posts or how YouTube videos or Instagram posts or how YouTube videos or Instagram posts or how we talk about um how we talk about we talk about um how we talk about we talk about um how we talk about products or services that that we do products or services that that we do products or services that that we do here but this also comes out in here but this also comes out in here but this also comes out in interpersonal relationships uh both interpersonal relationships uh both interpersonal relationships uh both within our team and with personal within our team and with personal within our team and with personal conversations with customers just conversations with customers just conversations with customers just embodying people you know these last two embodying people you know these last two embodying people you know these last two values are are pretty thoroughly values are are pretty thoroughly values are are pretty thoroughly Christian I mean they're all pretty Christian I mean they're all pretty Christian I mean they're all pretty thoroughly Christian but these last two thoroughly Christian but these last two thoroughly Christian but these last two you know are are are explicitly linked you know are are are explicitly linked you know are are are explicitly linked to some scripture references like um to some scripture references like um to some scripture references like um embodying uh being a person of integrity embodying uh being a person of integrity embodying uh being a person of integrity and people of integrity and using words and people of integrity and using words and people of integrity and using words that people can trust um that's a value that people can trust um that's a value that people can trust um that's a value of ours and and so and and it's easy to of ours and and so and and it's easy to of ours and and so and and it's easy to because we sell things right we we we because we sell things right we we we because we sell things right we we we use marketing language we do use marketing language we do use marketing language we do advertisements and it's easy to look advertisements and it's easy to look advertisements and it's easy to look around in popular culture in marketing around in popular culture in marketing around in popular culture in marketing and advertising advertising and see um and advertising advertising and see um and advertising advertising and see um language see compan that you know you language see compan that you know you language see compan that you know you can't trust because of how they're can't trust because of how they're can't trust because of how they're talking and and so we're not pretending talking and and so we're not pretending talking and and so we're not pretending we're not trying to sell things we sell we're not trying to sell things we sell we're not trying to sell things we sell things and so in doing that it's it's things and so in doing that it's it's things and so in doing that it's it's important and imperative to us that we important and imperative to us that we important and imperative to us that we are people of Integrity with the way we are people of Integrity with the way we are people of Integrity with the way we talk about them and so we built that talk about them and so we built that talk about them and so we built that right into into who we are right like right into into who we are right like right into into who we are right like one example of this is we sell things one example of this is we sell things one example of this is we sell things and often we have launches of things and often we have launches of things and often we have launches of things with discounts or registration windows with discounts or registration windows with discounts or registration windows that have a hard end date so this that have a hard end date so this that have a hard end date so this discount will expire at this date discount will expire at this date discount will expire at this date registration window enrollment will

registration window enrollment will registration window enrollment will close at this date close at this date close at this date which means that we're generating like which means that we're generating like which means that we're generating like scarcity right but those are real stop scarcity right but those are real stop scarcity right but those are real stop points so one point of Integrity is that points so one point of Integrity is that points so one point of Integrity is that like you'll never like actually like like you'll never like actually like like you'll never like actually like find oh the the price stayed the same find oh the the price stayed the same find oh the the price stayed the same right I I have yet to and I I hesitate right I I have yet to and I I hesitate right I I have yet to and I I hesitate to ever say I'll never do anything but to ever say I'll never do anything but to ever say I'll never do anything but like I've never done that thing because like I've never done that thing because like I've never done that thing because I don't like it when like a discount I don't like it when like a discount I don't like it when like a discount ends and they're like we've extended the ends and they're like we've extended the ends and they're like we've extended the window boxing day sorry Canada uh window boxing day sorry Canada uh window boxing day sorry Canada uh Christmas holiday sale extended through Christmas holiday sale extended through Christmas holiday sale extended through January and you're like what right okay January and you're like what right okay January and you're like what right okay they didn't just make that decision that they didn't just make that decision that they didn't just make that decision that was baked in the whole time yes was baked in the whole time yes was baked in the whole time yes absolutely so we we've never done that absolutely so we we've never done that absolutely so we we've never done that but you know there have been times where but you know there have been times where but you know there have been times where I'm like I don't know I'm like I don't know I'm like I don't know like if I send one more email it'll like if I send one more email it'll like if I send one more email it'll generate nine more purchases but like generate nine more purchases but like generate nine more purchases but like will it also turn off like 900 people I will it also turn off like 900 people I will it also turn off like 900 people I don't know and that's especially in don't know and that's especially in don't know and that's especially in those launch times like I'm all on those those launch times like I'm all on those those launch times like I'm all on those final few days it's like okay 50% of final few days it's like okay 50% of final few days it's like okay 50% of enrollments come in the final day so I enrollments come in the final day so I enrollments come in the final day so I have to send these emails because people have to send these emails because people have to send these emails because people need a stop date because if you don't need a stop date because if you don't need a stop date because if you don't have the exam due at this time unturn it have the exam due at this time unturn it have the exam due at this time unturn it in it's not going to get done that's in it's not going to get done that's in it's not going to get done that's just human nature but also you know how just human nature but also you know how just human nature but also you know how many emails do I need to send on the many emails do I need to send on the many emails do I need to send on the final day and how do I need to word them final day and how do I need to word them final day and how do I need to word them like I've crossed the line I think like I've crossed the line I think like I've crossed the line I think before and I wish I hadn't but then I'll before and I wish I hadn't but then I'll before and I wish I hadn't but then I'll also be like it also it was CH like also be like it also it was CH like also be like it also it was CH like these are this sometimes like it's just these are this sometimes like it's just these are this sometimes like it's just about about about like you don't really know yeah you're like you don't really know yeah you're like you don't really know yeah you're trying your best to live by the value um trying your best to live by the value um trying your best to live by the value um I do take issue with one thing you said I do take issue with one thing you said I do take issue with one thing you said about like them not all being rooted in

about like them not all being rooted in about like them not all being rooted in Scripture I think you're forgetting the Scripture I think you're forgetting the Scripture I think you're forgetting the minor profit use the verbiage minor profit use the verbiage minor profit use the verbiage Vibes maybe just revisit might revisit Vibes maybe just revisit might revisit Vibes maybe just revisit might revisit that yeah I don't spend a whole lot of that yeah I don't spend a whole lot of that yeah I don't spend a whole lot of time in the book of Zephaniah so it's time in the book of Zephaniah so it's time in the book of Zephaniah so it's it's I I I probably Overlook that it's I I I probably Overlook that it's I I I probably Overlook that respect respect respect okay uh I also respect respect respect okay uh I also respect respect respect okay uh I also have my okay so those are the company have my okay so those are the company have my okay so those are the company values we'll get into the exercise here values we'll get into the exercise here values we'll get into the exercise here to develop your own um we found that in to develop your own um we found that in to develop your own um we found that in our content a lot of times people just our content a lot of times people just our content a lot of times people just want to see what other people are doing want to see what other people are doing want to see what other people are doing yeah right like so I can say here's the yeah right like so I can say here's the yeah right like so I can say here's the social media strategy eight principles social media strategy eight principles social media strategy eight principles and they're like right can you just show and they're like right can you just show and they're like right can you just show us yeah what a church is doing like well us yeah what a church is doing like well us yeah what a church is doing like well it's actually better if you develop your it's actually better if you develop your it's actually better if you develop your just show us okay uh so I also have my just show us okay uh so I also have my just show us okay uh so I also have my family values here that I think are a family values here that I think are a family values here that I think are a little bit more applicable to most little bit more applicable to most little bit more applicable to most people and we can go through you also people and we can go through you also people and we can go through you also print them out for your family like you print them out for your family like you print them out for your family like you print our values out for us no the print our values out for us no the print our values out for us no the family values I just tattoo on my skin family values I just tattoo on my skin family values I just tattoo on my skin ah right so every time they see you ah right so every time they see you ah right so every time they see you they're reminded yes yeah I mean yes I they're reminded yes yeah I mean yes I they're reminded yes yeah I mean yes I will frequently cuz there are a couple will frequently cuz there are a couple will frequently cuz there are a couple that are specifically for my children that are specifically for my children that are specifically for my children I'll point to like this is the value I'll point to like this is the value I'll point to like this is the value this is what this means you know I had a this is what this means you know I had a this is what this means you know I had a really fun M the other night come over really fun M the other night come over really fun M the other night come over here and kiss this here and kiss this here and kiss this tattoo Lord have mercy I uh there's one tattoo Lord have mercy I uh there's one tattoo Lord have mercy I uh there's one value and I said it to two days ago and value and I said it to two days ago and value and I said it to two days ago and I I started it and the child finished it I I started it and the child finished it I I started it and the child finished it and I was like let's go got him okay so and I was like let's go got him okay so and I was like let's go got him okay so indoctrinated Family Values the first indoctrinated Family Values the first indoctrinated Family Values the first one is every good thing and these all one is every good thing and these all one is every good thing and these all have scripture references this is have scripture references this is have scripture references this is referen to John 10:10 whatever is right referen to John 10:10 whatever is right referen to John 10:10 whatever is right whatever is pure whatever is lovely whatever is pure whatever is lovely whatever is pure whatever is lovely whatever is admirable if anything is whatever is admirable if anything is whatever is admirable if anything is excellent or praiseworthy dwell on these excellent or praiseworthy dwell on these excellent or praiseworthy dwell on these things I'm I'm aware that that is not things I'm I'm aware that that is not things I'm I'm aware that that is not John 10:10 but that is the description John 10:10 but that is the description John 10:10 but that is the description for the value basically this is like our for the value basically this is like our for the value basically this is like our open-minded belief of like hey is there open-minded belief of like hey is there open-minded belief of like hey is there something like worth doing or worth something like worth doing or worth something like worth doing or worth experiencing or worth pursuing or

experiencing or worth pursuing or experiencing or worth pursuing or inversely but to the same ends worth inversely but to the same ends worth inversely but to the same ends worth denying ourselves of if it achieves more denying ourselves of if it achieves more denying ourselves of if it achieves more Living Like Jesus like John 10:10 is Living Like Jesus like John 10:10 is Living Like Jesus like John 10:10 is like I have come to give life and life like I have come to give life and life like I have come to give life and life abundant okay life should be abundant okay life should be abundant okay life should be abundant what is there for us to abundant what is there for us to abundant what is there for us to experience we want to be open to all of experience we want to be open to all of experience we want to be open to all of those things every good thing I have the those things every good thing I have the those things every good thing I have the words every good thing tattooed on the words every good thing tattooed on the words every good thing tattooed on the back of my knee Lord have mercy that was back of my knee Lord have mercy that was back of my knee Lord have mercy that was not a fun time I saw a chart on a social not a fun time I saw a chart on a social not a fun time I saw a chart on a social platform yesterday I don't remember platform yesterday I don't remember platform yesterday I don't remember which one that was just like it was a it which one that was just like it was a it which one that was just like it was a it looked like a heat map of a human body looked like a heat map of a human body looked like a heat map of a human body showing the most painful places to get showing the most painful places to get showing the most painful places to get tattooed I will reiterate this about tattooed I will reiterate this about tattooed I will reiterate this about tattoos the ones that you think will tattoos the ones that you think will tattoos the ones that you think will hurt the most hurt a little bit less hurt the most hurt a little bit less hurt the most hurt a little bit less than you think the ones that are meant than you think the ones that are meant than you think the ones that are meant to hurt the least will always hurt a bit to hurt the least will always hurt a bit to hurt the least will always hurt a bit more than you think and that's probably more than you think and that's probably more than you think and that's probably just the way you go into it mentally 50% just the way you go into it mentally 50% just the way you go into it mentally 50% in your head like tattoos always hurt in your head like tattoos always hurt in your head like tattoos always hurt sure some will be like an 8 n and a 10 sure some will be like an 8 n and a 10 sure some will be like an 8 n and a 10 some will be like a 7 out of 10 but like some will be like a 7 out of 10 but like some will be like a 7 out of 10 but like oh your bicep doesn't hurt that much oh your bicep doesn't hurt that much oh your bicep doesn't hurt that much yeah it still it still hurts oh your yeah it still it still hurts oh your yeah it still it still hurts oh your kneecap that's going to kill you yeah it kneecap that's going to kill you yeah it kneecap that's going to kill you yeah it just hurts more but like the Baseline is just hurts more but like the Baseline is just hurts more but like the Baseline is high but it's not excruciating at the high but it's not excruciating at the high but it's not excruciating at the very very very top personal value number two we can get top personal value number two we can get top personal value number two we can get through anything scripture reference through anything scripture reference through anything scripture reference Matthew 4:11 I just have a quote here Matthew 4:11 I just have a quote here Matthew 4:11 I just have a quote here from The Hobbit love it JRR quote so from The Hobbit love it JRR quote so from The Hobbit love it JRR quote so comes snow after fire and even dragons comes snow after fire and even dragons comes snow after fire and even dragons have their ending said Bilbo that was have their ending said Bilbo that was have their ending said Bilbo that was one of the first big books I ever read one of the first big books I ever read one of the first big books I ever read yeah yeah yeah that is like own the book yeah yeah yeah that is like own the book yeah yeah yeah that is like own the book I think I started that probably was one

I think I started that probably was one I think I started that probably was one of the first that I started with as well of the first that I started with as well of the first that I started with as well before I went into witchcraft in Harry before I went into witchcraft in Harry before I went into witchcraft in Harry Potter right right personal value number Potter right right personal value number Potter right right personal value number three just keep trying and be a good three just keep trying and be a good three just keep trying and be a good friend Proverbs 17:17 so this is the one friend Proverbs 17:17 so this is the one friend Proverbs 17:17 so this is the one that I have tattooed that I point to and that I have tattooed that I point to and that I have tattooed that I point to and this is the value that my daughter this is the value that my daughter this is the value that my daughter finished the other day so I have a finished the other day so I have a finished the other day so I have a tattoo of a little smiley face emoji tattoo of a little smiley face emoji tattoo of a little smiley face emoji going down a slide this value I've told going down a slide this value I've told going down a slide this value I've told the story before was uh developed in the story before was uh developed in the story before was uh developed in response to dropping my daughter response to dropping my daughter response to dropping my daughter firstborn off at school and I would tell firstborn off at school and I would tell firstborn off at school and I would tell her hey getting through school is not her hey getting through school is not her hey getting through school is not always going to be easy in fact school always going to be easy in fact school always going to be easy in fact school is going to be some of the most is going to be some of the most is going to be some of the most challenging parts of your life almost challenging parts of your life almost challenging parts of your life almost assuredly just keep trying be a good assuredly just keep trying be a good assuredly just keep trying be a good friend just keep trying be a good friend friend just keep trying be a good friend friend just keep trying be a good friend getting back to the Witchcraft I say getting back to the Witchcraft I say getting back to the Witchcraft I say this glibly okay don't look I come from this glibly okay don't look I come from this glibly okay don't look I come from hyper charismania all right we talked hyper charismania all right we talked hyper charismania all right we talked earlier about like will people like me earlier about like will people like me earlier about like will people like me if I show my true self one of the uh if I show my true self one of the uh if I show my true self one of the uh what I've come to realize defense what I've come to realize defense what I've come to realize defense mechanisms I have for that is that I mechanisms I have for that is that I mechanisms I have for that is that I will very openly say things that will very openly say things that will very openly say things that obviously cross the line basically to obviously cross the line basically to obviously cross the line basically to see how people's reactions are in a way see how people's reactions are in a way see how people's reactions are in a way and I heard this described by a and I heard this described by a and I heard this described by a therapist perhaps this is why I'm doing therapist perhaps this is why I'm doing therapist perhaps this is why I'm doing it they said this is the reason their it they said this is the reason their it they said this is the reason their clients were doing it as a way of saying clients were doing it as a way of saying clients were doing it as a way of saying like I'm going to just be really out like I'm going to just be really out like I'm going to just be really out here and if you'll accept me here I know here and if you'll accept me here I know here and if you'll accept me here I know that you'll accept the real name so you that you'll accept the real name so you that you'll accept the real name so you push the limit and and you say something push the limit and and you say something push the limit and and you say something really crazy like I'm not diving into really crazy like I'm not diving into really crazy like I'm not diving into witchcraft but like you say yeah gosh witchcraft but like you say yeah gosh witchcraft but like you say yeah gosh okay all of our parents really did think okay all of our parents really did think okay all of our parents really did think it was witchcraft that's that's facts it was witchcraft that's that's facts it was witchcraft that's that's facts okay uh the quote from Harry Potter yeah okay uh the quote from Harry Potter yeah okay uh the quote from Harry Potter yeah that well the conservatives were like that well the conservatives were like that well the conservatives were like this is too much witcraft now the this is too much witcraft now the this is too much witcraft now the conservatives are like finally JK conservatives are like finally JK conservatives are like finally JK rolling standing up for rolling standing up for rolling standing up for I'm just saying right like how did the

I'm just saying right like how did the I'm just saying right like how did the thing shift okay we're talking about thing shift okay we're talking about thing shift okay we're talking about values here people this is this is good values here people this is this is good values here people this is this is good stuff so this is a quote from the stuff so this is a quote from the stuff so this is a quote from the deathly howls which is the final uh book deathly howls which is the final uh book deathly howls which is the final uh book in Harry Potter spoiler don't spoil I in Harry Potter spoiler don't spoil I in Harry Potter spoiler don't spoil I still haven't read or seen any of them still haven't read or seen any of them still haven't read or seen any of them still a Christian okay but it's important okay Christian okay but it's important okay you know I don't to say so this is and you know I don't to say so this is and you know I don't to say so this is and the final book and Harry says you'll the final book and Harry says you'll the final book and Harry says you'll stay with me and then his dad says back stay with me and then his dad says back stay with me and then his dad says back to him until the the very end so just to him until the the very end so just to him until the the very end so just keep trying be a good friend the quote keep trying be a good friend the quote keep trying be a good friend the quote there is longevity we're just there just there is longevity we're just there just there is longevity we're just there just being there you don't always have the being there you don't always have the being there you don't always have the right answer you don't always like know right answer you don't always like know right answer you don't always like know what to do you mess things up but as what to do you mess things up but as what to do you mess things up but as long as you're just there longevity wins long as you're just there longevity wins long as you're just there longevity wins in the end your daughter's a good friend in the end your daughter's a good friend in the end your daughter's a good friend the other night uh Asher just out of the the other night uh Asher just out of the the other night uh Asher just out of the out out of the blue we weren't talking out out of the blue we weren't talking out out of the blue we weren't talking about Lily he goes dad I love Lily so about Lily he goes dad I love Lily so about Lily he goes dad I love Lily so much she's my best girl and then he just much she's my best girl and then he just much she's my best girl and then he just walked around saying I love her so much walked around saying I love her so much walked around saying I love her so much I love her so much well your boy is a I love her so much well your boy is a I love her so much well your boy is a sweet uh next Family Value be sweet uh next Family Value be sweet uh next Family Value be unoffendable unoffendable unoffendable where did this come from couldn't tell where did this come from couldn't tell where did this come from couldn't tell you Bishop breastroke I I type it out you Bishop breastroke I I type it out you Bishop breastroke I I type it out quite a lot unoffendable and an auto quite a lot unoffendable and an auto quite a lot unoffendable and an auto correct is like yeah that's not a word correct is like yeah that's not a word correct is like yeah that's not a word and I said I don't care it's a value so and I said I don't care it's a value so and I said I don't care it's a value so get on my level autoc correct is I wrote get on my level autoc correct is I wrote get on my level autoc correct is I wrote the other day miles and it just changed the other day miles and it just changed the other day miles and it just changed it to Mike apostrophe s not necessary it to Mike apostrophe s not necessary it to Mike apostrophe s not necessary what yeah why okay so uh description what yeah why okay so uh description what yeah why okay so uh description here forfeit the right to be offended here forfeit the right to be offended here forfeit the right to be offended forfeit the right to be offended forfeit forfeit the right to be offended forfeit forfeit the right to be offended forfeit the right to hold anger the cross offers the right to hold anger the cross offers the right to hold anger the cross offers a reminder of Jesus is willingness to a reminder of Jesus is willingness to a reminder of Jesus is willingness to pay the bill and an indictment on us pay the bill and an indictment on us pay the bill and an indictment on us when we are unwilling to do the same for

when we are unwilling to do the same for when we are unwilling to do the same for others that is one to reread and remind others that is one to reread and remind others that is one to reread and remind yourself next we are all people in yourself next we are all people in yourself next we are all people in process Bishop breastroke back again wow process Bishop breastroke back again wow process Bishop breastroke back again wow this is uh 1 Corinthians 1312 and the this is uh 1 Corinthians 1312 and the this is uh 1 Corinthians 1312 and the description here try to be gentler with description here try to be gentler with description here try to be gentler with yourself and charitable with others you yourself and charitable with others you yourself and charitable with others you don't know the things you don't know and don't know the things you don't know and don't know the things you don't know and you may never know what someone else is you may never know what someone else is you may never know what someone else is going going going through next graceful pursuit of a through next graceful pursuit of a through next graceful pursuit of a superior self this is Hebrews 12:2 superior self this is Hebrews 12:2 superior self this is Hebrews 12:2 my description for this value goes quote my description for this value goes quote my description for this value goes quote each of us is in a battle with our each of us is in a battle with our each of us is in a battle with our physical form first to master it and physical form first to master it and physical form first to master it and bring it to its full potential second as bring it to its full potential second as bring it to its full potential second as we age and get sick to arrest its we age and get sick to arrest its we age and get sick to arrest its physical decline the body is a Proving physical decline the body is a Proving physical decline the body is a Proving Ground for the mind and soul what are Ground for the mind and soul what are Ground for the mind and soul what are you willing to put up with what can you you willing to put up with what can you you willing to put up with what can you do without what will you put yourself do without what will you put yourself do without what will you put yourself through wow this is something that I through wow this is something that I through wow this is something that I don't think we have a great sense of in don't think we have a great sense of in don't think we have a great sense of in the modern world specifically in the the modern world specifically in the the modern world specifically in the west I think that a lot of saints west I think that a lot of saints west I think that a lot of saints through the history of the church have through the history of the church have through the history of the church have had a great understanding of like the had a great understanding of like the had a great understanding of like the body and the fact that like hey this is body and the fact that like hey this is body and the fact that like hey this is not simply like a cage for the soul and not simply like a cage for the soul and not simply like a cage for the soul and the spirit but like this has been given the spirit but like this has been given the spirit but like this has been given to me by God and it's important for me to me by God and it's important for me to me by God and it's important for me you know Paul uses this in the run the you know Paul uses this in the run the you know Paul uses this in the run the race verbage like it's important for me race verbage like it's important for me race verbage like it's important for me to to master this so that I am not to to master this so that I am not to to master this so that I am not Mastered by it uh this description here Mastered by it uh this description here Mastered by it uh this description here is actually directly from um a book is actually directly from um a book is actually directly from um a book called discipline is Destiny I cannot called discipline is Destiny I cannot called discipline is Destiny I cannot take credit for writing that but I put take credit for writing that but I put take credit for writing that but I put that in earlier this year because I that in earlier this year because I that in earlier this year because I realized like you know just so many of realized like you know just so many of realized like you know just so many of the carnal desires of life you know for the carnal desires of life you know for the carnal desires of life you know for me it's mostly food um like just pulling me it's mostly food um like just pulling me it's mostly food um like just pulling me in directions and like me becoming a me in directions and like me becoming a me in directions and like me becoming a slave to that when I need to be master

slave to that when I need to be master slave to that when I need to be master of those things and not let them uh have of those things and not let them uh have of those things and not let them uh have you know um mastership over me so coding you know um mastership over me so coding you know um mastership over me so coding this in here I think it's just as this in here I think it's just as this in here I think it's just as spiritual as many of the others because spiritual as many of the others because spiritual as many of the others because what I found is when I let like my body what I found is when I let like my body what I found is when I let like my body kind of like just do its own thing the kind of like just do its own thing the kind of like just do its own thing the soul and the spirit suffer yeah all soul and the spirit suffer yeah all soul and the spirit suffer yeah all these other things like I need to feel these other things like I need to feel these other things like I need to feel my best and be at my best I know what my best and be at my best I know what my best and be at my best I know what chronic pain is like I know what it's chronic pain is like I know what it's chronic pain is like I know what it's like to like be in a brain fog I know like to like be in a brain fog I know like to like be in a brain fog I know what it's like to get bad sleep I know what it's like to get bad sleep I know what it's like to get bad sleep I know what it's like to say like yes to what it's like to say like yes to what it's like to say like yes to something carnal in the moment and then something carnal in the moment and then something carnal in the moment and then afterward the next day you're like oh afterward the next day you're like oh afterward the next day you're like oh I'm I'm I'm suffering I'm paying the I'm I'm I'm suffering I'm paying the I'm I'm I'm suffering I'm paying the bill for what I did yesterday and then bill for what I did yesterday and then bill for what I did yesterday and then all of these values get compromised yeah all of these values get compromised yeah all of these values get compromised yeah because you're not able to live them out because you're not able to live them out because you're not able to live them out in their fullest because your body's in their fullest because your body's in their fullest because your body's like I I just can't do it right I you like I I just can't do it right I you like I I just can't do it right I you mentioned the Saints I I think I think mentioned the Saints I I think I think mentioned the Saints I I think I think their uh embodiment of this probably had their uh embodiment of this probably had their uh embodiment of this probably had a lot to do with their belief about an a lot to do with their belief about an a lot to do with their belief about an actual bodily Resurrection um that like actual bodily Resurrection um that like actual bodily Resurrection um that like this skin suit I'm in will this is the this skin suit I'm in will this is the this skin suit I'm in will this is the thing that's going to get resurrected thing that's going to get resurrected thing that's going to get resurrected because we're going to embody like a new because we're going to embody like a new because we're going to embody like a new Heaven and a new Earth right as opposed Heaven and a new Earth right as opposed Heaven and a new Earth right as opposed to you know more modern idea of like to you know more modern idea of like to you know more modern idea of like this this Cosmic future in the sky uh a this this Cosmic future in the sky uh a this this Cosmic future in the sky uh a lot of saints actually believe like oh lot of saints actually believe like oh lot of saints actually believe like oh no like it's it's this thing that's no like it's it's this thing that's no like it's it's this thing that's going to be that's going to be going to be that's going to be going to be that's going to be resurrected um I really could have used resurrected um I really could have used resurrected um I really could have used this language this value uh last night this language this value uh last night this language this value uh last night at about 5:14 p.m. when I was shivering at about 5:14 p.m. when I was shivering at about 5:14 p.m. when I was shivering like clinging on to the side of a tree like clinging on to the side of a tree like clinging on to the side of a tree waiting for a deer to walk by I was waiting for a deer to walk by I was waiting for a deer to walk by I was really I was having a bit of a pity really I was having a bit of a pity really I was having a bit of a pity party for my myself um but uh I mean party for my myself um but uh I mean party for my myself um but uh I mean what what am I what am I going to be what what am I what am I going to be what what am I what am I going to be willing to put up with to do what I

willing to put up with to do what I willing to put up with to do what I believe to be a pretty like spiritual believe to be a pretty like spiritual believe to be a pretty like spiritual and Christian thing which is like you and Christian thing which is like you and Christian thing which is like you know e if we're going to eat meat like know e if we're going to eat meat like know e if we're going to eat meat like like ethically Harvest it myself so I like ethically Harvest it myself so I like ethically Harvest it myself so I could have used this yesterday but I'll could have used this yesterday but I'll could have used this yesterday but I'll use it um hopefully I'll get it for for use it um hopefully I'll get it for for use it um hopefully I'll get it for for another hunt next week I'll use it next another hunt next week I'll use it next another hunt next week I'll use it next week yeah so we're still over out the week yeah so we're still over out the week yeah so we're still over out the streets yeah it's not good okay moving streets yeah it's not good okay moving streets yeah it's not good okay moving on the compounding power of consistency on the compounding power of consistency on the compounding power of consistency Galatians 69 most people underestimate Galatians 69 most people underestimate Galatians 69 most people underestimate what they can do in one year pardon me what they can do in one year pardon me what they can do in one year pardon me most people overestimate what they can most people overestimate what they can most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what do in one year and underestimate what do in one year and underestimate what they can do in 10 years that one's they can do in 10 years that one's they can do in 10 years that one's pretty self-explanatory but my belief pretty self-explanatory but my belief pretty self-explanatory but my belief about anything to achieve to do to about anything to achieve to do to about anything to achieve to do to experience in life has to do with good experience in life has to do with good experience in life has to do with good small decisions every single day that's small decisions every single day that's small decisions every single day that's right moving on Plenty never lasts right moving on Plenty never lasts right moving on Plenty never lasts Ecclesiastes 3 from one of our favorite Ecclesiastes 3 from one of our favorite Ecclesiastes 3 from one of our favorite Hill song songs Seasons quote like the Hill song songs Seasons quote like the Hill song songs Seasons quote like the frost on a rose winter comes for us all frost on a rose winter comes for us all frost on a rose winter comes for us all winter is coming we are in winter here winter is coming we are in winter here winter is coming we are in winter here in Canada praise God we soon shall in Canada praise God we soon shall in Canada praise God we soon shall Escape it but this is tattooed on my Escape it but this is tattooed on my Escape it but this is tattooed on my body in a little uh slot machine and the body in a little uh slot machine and the body in a little uh slot machine and the point of this is similar to one of the point of this is similar to one of the point of this is similar to one of the previous values about clearing the previous values about clearing the previous values about clearing the runway something is is going to come runway something is is going to come runway something is is going to come maybe it's a problem with your health maybe it's a problem with your health maybe it's a problem with your health maybe it's a global pandemic maybe it's maybe it's a global pandemic maybe it's maybe it's a global pandemic maybe it's the loss of a loved one maybe it's you the loss of a loved one maybe it's you the loss of a loved one maybe it's you know some wrongful accountant thing that know some wrongful accountant thing that know some wrongful accountant thing that went wrong yeah whatever it might be went wrong yeah whatever it might be went wrong yeah whatever it might be either by your action your in action or either by your action your in action or either by your action your in action or something that's completely out of your something that's completely out of your something that's completely out of your control so control so control so just remember that plenty never lasts just remember that plenty never lasts just remember that plenty never lasts inversely the drought the famine never inversely the drought the famine never inversely the drought the famine never lasts also two more personal values here

lasts also two more personal values here lasts also two more personal values here freedom is the opportunity to exercise freedom is the opportunity to exercise freedom is the opportunity to exercise restraint Matthew 7:14 narrow is the restraint Matthew 7:14 narrow is the restraint Matthew 7:14 narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which gate and difficult is the way which gate and difficult is the way which leads to life there are few who find it leads to life there are few who find it leads to life there are few who find it this is a acknowledgement that we live this is a acknowledgement that we live this is a acknowledgement that we live in the most plentiful existence in human in the most plentiful existence in human in the most plentiful existence in human history yeah we have more food we have history yeah we have more food we have history yeah we have more food we have more money we have more leisure time we more money we have more leisure time we more money we have more leisure time we have more and yet have more and yet have more and yet in all of this abundance we are more in all of this abundance we are more in all of this abundance we are more lonely more depressed uh more suffering lonely more depressed uh more suffering lonely more depressed uh more suffering in many ways suffering in the gluttony in many ways suffering in the gluttony in many ways suffering in the gluttony of having so much more anxious um and so of having so much more anxious um and so of having so much more anxious um and so this is a reminder that like freedom is this is a reminder that like freedom is this is a reminder that like freedom is the opportunity to exercise restraint the opportunity to exercise restraint the opportunity to exercise restraint you know so many people were restraint you know so many people were restraint you know so many people were restraint was forced on them throughout human was forced on them throughout human was forced on them throughout human history so many Saints restraint P history so many Saints restraint P history so many Saints restraint P forced on them we have to force it upon forced on them we have to force it upon forced on them we have to force it upon ourselves other we'll just be become ourselves other we'll just be become ourselves other we'll just be become gluttons in the excess that exists all gluttons in the excess that exists all gluttons in the excess that exists all around us and then finally there will around us and then finally there will around us and then finally there will come a time when life demands something come a time when life demands something come a time when life demands something greater Luke greater Luke greater Luke 12:48 again from The Hobbit quote go 12:48 again from The Hobbit quote go 12:48 again from The Hobbit quote go back he thought no no good at all go back he thought no no good at all go back he thought no no good at all go sideways impossible go forward only sideways impossible go forward only sideways impossible go forward only thing to do on we go so up billbo got thing to do on we go so up billbo got thing to do on we go so up billbo got and trotted along with his little sword and trotted along with his little sword and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him I said this to held in front of him I said this to held in front of him I said this to myself at the beginning of last January myself at the beginning of last January myself at the beginning of last January you know there was things going on and I you know there was things going on and I you know there was things going on and I was like sometimes life demands was like sometimes life demands was like sometimes life demands something greater I'm not ready for it something greater I'm not ready for it something greater I'm not ready for it I'd prefer it not to be happening right I'd prefer it not to be happening right I'd prefer it not to be happening right I don't think I'm at fault for being I don't think I'm at fault for being I don't think I'm at fault for being here and yet sometimes life demands

here and yet sometimes life demands here and yet sometimes life demands something greater so I always pictured something greater so I always pictured something greater so I always pictured myself I am Bilbo with a little sword myself I am Bilbo with a little sword myself I am Bilbo with a little sword and I don't really belong here and I and I don't really belong here and I and I don't really belong here and I don't really seem to have a way out but don't really seem to have a way out but don't really seem to have a way out but I can't go sideways and I can't go I can't go sideways and I can't go I can't go sideways and I can't go backward onward is the only way tatted backward onward is the only way tatted backward onward is the only way tatted on your body you know I got the one on your body you know I got the one on your body you know I got the one where um he like looks at the meil and where um he like looks at the meil and where um he like looks at the meil and he goes and he like screams I have that he goes and he like screams I have that he goes and he like screams I have that just on my chest just just just Bilbo's just on my chest just just just Bilbo's just on my chest just just just Bilbo's face life size like like life size yeah face life size like like life size yeah face life size like like life size yeah absolutely now it's a hobbit so it's absolutely now it's a hobbit so it's absolutely now it's a hobbit so it's still kind of small relative uh but I still kind of small relative uh but I still kind of small relative uh but I have a very small head myself um you have a very small head myself um you have a very small head myself um you know this is maybe a point to encourage know this is maybe a point to encourage know this is maybe a point to encourage whoever's listening and watching like whoever's listening and watching like whoever's listening and watching like you might be in a place right now where you might be in a place right now where you might be in a place right now where it's you know life's demanding something it's you know life's demanding something it's you know life's demanding something greater of you a lot of us find oursel greater of you a lot of us find oursel greater of you a lot of us find oursel in that place especially the more people in that place especially the more people in that place especially the more people rely on us the more that we have rely on us the more that we have rely on us the more that we have children the more that we have parents children the more that we have parents children the more that we have parents that have needs from us the more that we that have needs from us the more that we that have needs from us the more that we have Partners the more that we have have Partners the more that we have have Partners the more that we have friends and family and extended family friends and family and extended family friends and family and extended family and people under us in church people and people under us in church people and people under us in church people above us at church like we're all being above us at church like we're all being above us at church like we're all being relied on and then we have to take care relied on and then we have to take care relied on and then we have to take care of ourselves you know sometimes life of ourselves you know sometimes life of ourselves you know sometimes life demands something greater of yourself demands something greater of yourself demands something greater of yourself maybe you're neglecting your body maybe maybe you're neglecting your body maybe maybe you're neglecting your body maybe you're neglecting your soul or your you're neglecting your soul or your you're neglecting your soul or your spirit sometimes life demands something spirit sometimes life demands something spirit sometimes life demands something greater you might not feel capable you greater you might not feel capable you greater you might not feel capable you got your little sword you're like Bilbo got your little sword you're like Bilbo got your little sword you're like Bilbo onward we go well listener hopefully you onward we go well listener hopefully you onward we go well listener hopefully you have lasted to this point because we have lasted to this point because we have lasted to this point because we mentioned right at the top hey there's mentioned right at the top hey there's mentioned right at the top hey there's going to be a framework for developing going to be a framework for developing going to be a framework for developing your own values we have to we have to your own values we have to we have to your own values we have to we have to clear the runway to get there and uh clear the runway to get there and uh clear the runway to get there and uh through our work value our shared work through our work value our shared work through our work value our shared work values and your personal values we have values and your personal values we have values and your personal values we have arrived and so Brady will you teach us arrived and so Brady will you teach us arrived and so Brady will you teach us how to develop uh our own sets of values how to develop uh our own sets of values how to develop uh our own sets of values uh for the workplace for the church uh for the workplace for the church uh for the workplace for the church space organizational and even personal space organizational and even personal space organizational and even personal values yeah so there are four items here

values yeah so there are four items here values yeah so there are four items here four ways to develop these values the four ways to develop these values the four ways to develop these values the first is in response to a challenge many first is in response to a challenge many first is in response to a challenge many of these values for me were generated in of these values for me were generated in of these values for me were generated in response to all right can't go under it response to all right can't go under it response to all right can't go under it can't go around it got to go through it can't go around it got to go through it can't go around it got to go through it sort of thing and that developed sort of thing and that developed sort of thing and that developed character in me but it also developed a character in me but it also developed a character in me but it also developed a road map of okay when you face a road map of okay when you face a road map of okay when you face a challenge like this how do you want to challenge like this how do you want to challenge like this how do you want to approach it right it's not about like approach it right it's not about like approach it right it's not about like what the challenge is or what the what the challenge is or what the what the challenge is or what the outcome is on the other side but okay outcome is on the other side but okay outcome is on the other side but okay this challenge is in front of me it's this challenge is in front of me it's this challenge is in front of me it's personal it's professional it's physical personal it's professional it's physical personal it's professional it's physical it's spiritual how do I want to what it's spiritual how do I want to what it's spiritual how do I want to what script do I want to follow to get script do I want to follow to get script do I want to follow to get through this second way is aligned with through this second way is aligned with through this second way is aligned with your DNA so for me the idea of longevity your DNA so for me the idea of longevity your DNA so for me the idea of longevity is in like more than half of these is in like more than half of these is in like more than half of these values I went through it and the reason values I went through it and the reason values I went through it and the reason it's more in more than half of these it's more in more than half of these it's more in more than half of these values is like before I ever even had values is like before I ever even had values is like before I ever even had like coded values like this I would keep like coded values like this I would keep like coded values like this I would keep coming back to the idea of okay just coming back to the idea of okay just coming back to the idea of okay just keep doing the right thing every day or keep doing the right thing every day or keep doing the right thing every day or like o you know compound interest is like o you know compound interest is like o you know compound interest is really good in finances oh it must also really good in finances oh it must also really good in finances oh it must also be good in like Habits Like and I be good in like Habits Like and I be good in like Habits Like and I realized that that was like just like realized that that was like just like realized that that was like just like key to what my worldview and the way key to what my worldview and the way key to what my worldview and the way that I saw the world and yes it was that I saw the world and yes it was that I saw the world and yes it was inspired by scripture we all have inspired by scripture we all have inspired by scripture we all have different emphases you know we all have different emphases you know we all have different emphases you know we all have different like just focuses and so you different like just focuses and so you different like just focuses and so you might notice like oh in my own life I might notice like oh in my own life I might notice like oh in my own life I always come back to principles like this always come back to principles like this always come back to principles like this one okay that probably means that like one okay that probably means that like one okay that probably means that like your reson with it in like a unique and your reson with it in like a unique and your reson with it in like a unique and just personal way and so how then might just personal way and so how then might just personal way and so how then might you take that and code it into a you take that and code it into a you take that and code it into a personal value third way to develop personal value third way to develop personal value third way to develop values inspired by story scripture values inspired by story scripture values inspired by story scripture fiction you know you saw The Hobbit was fiction you know you saw The Hobbit was fiction you know you saw The Hobbit was in here you saw Harry Potter was in here

in here you saw Harry Potter was in here in here you saw Harry Potter was in here like all of the great stories are often like all of the great stories are often like all of the great stories are often the Jesus story retold in fiction uh but the Jesus story retold in fiction uh but the Jesus story retold in fiction uh but a lot of us get inspired by uh you know a lot of us get inspired by uh you know a lot of us get inspired by uh you know fictional figures oh in movies in books fictional figures oh in movies in books fictional figures oh in movies in books in television shows and stories like in television shows and stories like in television shows and stories like that was the hero that had to face the that was the hero that had to face the that was the hero that had to face the biggest challenge and they overcame it biggest challenge and they overcame it biggest challenge and they overcame it and how did they do it they stayed true and how did they do it they stayed true and how did they do it they stayed true to themselves they embodied Noble to themselves they embodied Noble to themselves they embodied Noble virtues you know they like uh they they virtues you know they like uh they they virtues you know they like uh they they did the thing that the hero does even did the thing that the hero does even did the thing that the hero does even when it comes at a great personal cost when it comes at a great personal cost when it comes at a great personal cost and so you can look at those stories and and so you can look at those stories and and so you can look at those stories and let that become an inspiration for a let that become an inspiration for a let that become an inspiration for a value and then finally Bishop value and then finally Bishop value and then finally Bishop breaststroke articulated by someone else breaststroke articulated by someone else breaststroke articulated by someone else you know Alex came into my you know Alex came into my you know Alex came into my life eight years ago yeah losing count life eight years ago yeah losing count life eight years ago yeah losing count at this point not not quite a decade I at this point not not quite a decade I at this point not not quite a decade I don't think and said some things don't think and said some things don't think and said some things articulated some things that I had never articulated some things that I had never articulated some things that I had never heard someone articulate that way before heard someone articulate that way before heard someone articulate that way before but immediately resonated with me so if but immediately resonated with me so if but immediately resonated with me so if you've heard me say something you're you've heard me say something you're you've heard me say something you're like oh you know what Brady articulated like oh you know what Brady articulated like oh you know what Brady articulated this value I want to take it for myself this value I want to take it for myself this value I want to take it for myself that's perfectly fine sometimes someone that's perfectly fine sometimes someone that's perfectly fine sometimes someone says it in a way articulates it you're says it in a way articulates it you're says it in a way articulates it you're like oh that yes I I have observed that like oh that yes I I have observed that like oh that yes I I have observed that I believe that but I've never quite said I believe that but I've never quite said I believe that but I've never quite said it that way that's a pithy way of saying it that way that's a pithy way of saying it that way that's a pithy way of saying it you know really great preachers are it you know really great preachers are it you know really great preachers are often good at this and sometimes it can often good at this and sometimes it can often good at this and sometimes it can descend into like comedy where it's you descend into like comedy where it's you descend into like comedy where it's you know a little too much alliteration or a know a little too much alliteration or a know a little too much alliteration or a little 23 points or a little too much little 23 points or a little too much little 23 points or a little too much rhyming but often they say it in a way rhyming but often they say it in a way rhyming but often they say it in a way that becomes memorable and when it's that becomes memorable and when it's that becomes memorable and when it's memorable it can become actionable and memorable it can become actionable and memorable it can become actionable and so sometimes someone else will so sometimes someone else will so sometimes someone else will articulate it for you well there you go articulate it for you well there you go articulate it for you well there you go 16 rules for life hopefully some of 16 rules for life hopefully some of 16 rules for life hopefully some of these are valuable to you as we start a these are valuable to you as we start a these are valuable to you as we start a brand new year thanks as always for your

brand new year thanks as always for your brand new year thanks as always for your time attention and Trust we'll talk to time attention and Trust we'll talk to time attention and Trust we'll talk to you real soon you know one thing I very you real soon you know one thing I very you real soon you know one thing I very vastly underestimated like how much vastly underestimated like how much vastly underestimated like how much Height plays into like success in Height plays into like success in Height plays into like success in probably most worlds but like the church probably most worlds but like the church probably most worlds but like the church world you just never like it's very world you just never like it's very world you just never like it's very that these like Mega pastors aren't six that these like Mega pastors aren't six that these like Mega pastors aren't six to yeah because like you get by with to yeah because like you get by with to yeah because like you get by with Charisma like Charisma is such a big Charisma like Charisma is such a big Charisma like Charisma is such a big part of it and then there's this like part of it and then there's this like part of it and then there's this like unspoken Charisma from just you towering unspoken Charisma from just you towering unspoken Charisma from just you towering m