We Don’t Have to Cultivate a Victim Mentality in Church

You know, we just are living in a time You know, we just are living in a time where it just feels like being offended where it just feels like being offended where it just feels like being offended is not only prevalent, but incredibly is not only prevalent, but incredibly is not only prevalent, but incredibly acceptable, almost expected. It's almost acceptable, almost expected. It's almost acceptable, almost expected. It's almost like a like a like a It's almost become like a a virtue in It's almost become like a a virtue in It's almost become like a a virtue in some ways, which we're going to talk some ways, which we're going to talk some ways, which we're going to talk about just this idea of being offended about just this idea of being offended about just this idea of being offended or easily offended. And so, and I don't or easily offended. And so, and I don't or easily offended. And so, and I don't think it's just in kind of the world. I think it's just in kind of the world. I think it's just in kind of the world. I think it's in the church, absolutely, think it's in the church, absolutely, think it's in the church, absolutely, um, in the church, too. So, we're going um, in the church, too. So, we're going um, in the church, too. So, we're going to dive into this. to dive into this. to dive into this. >> Courtney, are you talking about me? I'm >> Courtney, are you talking about me? I'm >> Courtney, are you talking about me? I'm feeling kind of like offended that feeling kind of like offended that feeling kind of like offended that you're directing this to me. No. you're directing this to me. No. you're directing this to me. No. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> No, we are we are we are going to try >> No, we are we are we are going to try >> No, we are we are we are going to try not to offend everyone, hopefully, but I not to offend everyone, hopefully, but I not to offend everyone, hopefully, but I do um, I do think this is a really good do um, I do think this is a really good do um, I do think this is a really good topic because I do think people are topic because I do think people are topic because I do think people are really quick to take offense in our day really quick to take offense in our day really quick to take offense in our day and age. Um, it can be whether you said and age. Um, it can be whether you said and age. Um, it can be whether you said the wrong thing on social media or the wrong thing on social media or the wrong thing on social media or perhaps you didn't post on social media. perhaps you didn't post on social media. perhaps you didn't post on social media. You know, like I I've been I've I've You know, like I I've been I've I've You know, like I I've been I've I've been approached about why I didn't say been approached about why I didn't say been approached about why I didn't say something about something. You know, I'm something about something. You know, I'm something about something. You know, I'm like, well, I'm offending by not saying like, well, I'm offending by not saying like, well, I'm offending by not saying or you're offending by saying. It could or you're offending by saying. It could or you're offending by saying. It could be the way the church announcement was be the way the church announcement was be the way the church announcement was written. Somehow it was offensive, you written. Somehow it was offensive, you written. Somehow it was offensive, you know, or or maybe what time was picked know, or or maybe what time was picked know, or or maybe what time was picked for the church picnic or whatever. Um, for the church picnic or whatever. Um, for the church picnic or whatever. Um, it it seems like in our day and age we it it seems like in our day and age we it it seems like in our day and age we can be looking for ways to be offended.

can be looking for ways to be offended. can be looking for ways to be offended. And like you said, I do think it can be And like you said, I do think it can be And like you said, I do think it can be a badge of honor. So, do you see this a badge of honor. So, do you see this a badge of honor. So, do you see this kind of as part of a larger victim kind of as part of a larger victim kind of as part of a larger victim mentality in our culture? You know, it's mentality in our culture? You know, it's mentality in our culture? You know, it's it's like it used I think it used to be it's like it used I think it used to be it's like it used I think it used to be different. You never shared what was different. You never shared what was different. You never shared what was hard. And that has its own set of hard. And that has its own set of hard. And that has its own set of problems. But right now, I feel like problems. But right now, I feel like problems. But right now, I feel like we've moved into a we've moved into a we've moved into a you're known by your problems. I don't you're known by your problems. I don't you're known by your problems. I don't know, what do you think? Well, I think know, what do you think? Well, I think know, what do you think? Well, I think that the victim mentality connection is that the victim mentality connection is that the victim mentality connection is actually really helpful because in some actually really helpful because in some actually really helpful because in some ways that to be offended is to kind of ways that to be offended is to kind of ways that to be offended is to kind of put ourselves in the place of of the one put ourselves in the place of of the one put ourselves in the place of of the one who who who was was victimized, you know? So, I was was victimized, you know? So, I was was victimized, you know? So, I think that that's actually a really good think that that's actually a really good think that that's actually a really good correlation, but I think both of those correlation, but I think both of those correlation, but I think both of those victim mentality and and easily offended victim mentality and and easily offended victim mentality and and easily offended and and I we'll talk later probably and and I we'll talk later probably and and I we'll talk later probably about like about like about like true victimization. Like true like I'm true victimization. Like true like I'm true victimization. Like true like I'm not talking about that. That's not what not talking about that. That's not what not talking about that. That's not what we're talking about here, but I do think we're talking about here, but I do think we're talking about here, but I do think that the underlying issue is um that the underlying issue is um that the underlying issue is um the fact that we are living in a culture the fact that we are living in a culture the fact that we are living in a culture that prioritizes self above all things.

that prioritizes self above all things. that prioritizes self above all things. And so, that prioritization of self And so, that prioritization of self And so, that prioritization of self above everything else and above above everything else and above above everything else and above everybody else, I think is at the root everybody else, I think is at the root everybody else, I think is at the root of this. And you you double that or you of this. And you you double that or you of this. And you you double that or you compound it by the fact that we are very compound it by the fact that we are very compound it by the fact that we are very feelings based. Very feelings based feelings based. Very feelings based feelings based. Very feelings based right now. Like your feelings and my right now. Like your feelings and my right now. Like your feelings and my feelings about any given situation or feelings about any given situation or feelings about any given situation or topic are preeminent. I mean, I'm and topic are preeminent. I mean, I'm and topic are preeminent. I mean, I'm and they're not. I mean, I'm saying that's they're not. I mean, I'm saying that's they're not. I mean, I'm saying that's that's kind of cultural moment is like that's kind of cultural moment is like that's kind of cultural moment is like how you feel about this thing is um so, how you feel about this thing is um so, how you feel about this thing is um so, you are most important and your feelings you are most important and your feelings you are most important and your feelings about Yeah. Yeah. So, it's you and your about Yeah. Yeah. So, it's you and your about Yeah. Yeah. So, it's you and your feelings. Those are going to be like the feelings. Those are going to be like the feelings. Those are going to be like the preeminent thing. And so, I think that preeminent thing. And so, I think that preeminent thing. And so, I think that that's why that's why we're seeing it that's why that's why we're seeing it that's why that's why we're seeing it right now. So, victimization, easily right now. So, victimization, easily right now. So, victimization, easily offended, they kind of all go together. offended, they kind of all go together. offended, they kind of all go together. I was I was remembering um 2 Timothy I was I was remembering um 2 Timothy I was I was remembering um 2 Timothy where Paul was writing that in the last where Paul was writing that in the last where Paul was writing that in the last days and you know, we all know that like days and you know, we all know that like days and you know, we all know that like from the time of the ascension until he from the time of the ascension until he from the time of the ascension until he comes again, that's what the Bible calls comes again, that's what the Bible calls comes again, that's what the Bible calls the last days. So, it doesn't mean like, the last days. So, it doesn't mean like, the last days. So, it doesn't mean like, you know, we're saying whatever date, you know, we're saying whatever date, you know, we're saying whatever date, you know, Jesus is coming again. Who you know, Jesus is coming again. Who you know, Jesus is coming again. Who knows? Please come again, Jesus, but the knows? Please come again, Jesus, but the knows? Please come again, Jesus, but the last days that we're living in. Um last days that we're living in. Um last days that we're living in. Um Paul wrote to Timothy and he says that Paul wrote to Timothy and he says that Paul wrote to Timothy and he says that one of the marks of the age are people one of the marks of the age are people one of the marks of the age are people are going to be lovers of self. I'm are going to be lovers of self. I'm are going to be lovers of self. I'm like, yes, we see that. And then he says like, yes, we see that. And then he says like, yes, we see that. And then he says lovers of money, but then he says proud, lovers of money, but then he says proud, lovers of money, but then he says proud, arrogant, abusive, ungrateful. There's arrogant, abusive, ungrateful. There's arrogant, abusive, ungrateful. There's other things in that list, but I think other things in that list, but I think other things in that list, but I think those are all wrapped up in

those are all wrapped up in those are all wrapped up in in this in this in this that that create the situation to be that that create the situation to be that that create the situation to be easily offended, to be a lover of self, easily offended, to be a lover of self, easily offended, to be a lover of self, to be proud, to be arrogant, to be to be proud, to be arrogant, to be to be proud, to be arrogant, to be ungrateful. Those all ungrateful. Those all ungrateful. Those all um promote um promote um promote easy offenses. easy offenses. easy offenses. >> Yeah, we almost foster culturally, don't >> Yeah, we almost foster culturally, don't >> Yeah, we almost foster culturally, don't you think? Like um it it's not just it's you think? Like um it it's not just it's you think? Like um it it's not just it's encouraged. encouraged. encouraged. Like don't let them talk to you that Like don't let them talk to you that Like don't let them talk to you that way. Don't let you And there's a right way. Don't let you And there's a right way. Don't let you And there's a right There's There's a time There is a time There's There's a time There is a time There's There's a time There is a time when someone's saying something when someone's saying something when someone's saying something inappropriate. Like there are certain inappropriate. Like there are certain inappropriate. Like there are certain things we shouldn't say to people. things we shouldn't say to people. things we shouldn't say to people. There's a rightness to Hey, you There's a rightness to Hey, you There's a rightness to Hey, you shouldn't You shouldn't shouldn't You shouldn't shouldn't You shouldn't be allowed to say certain things. But I be allowed to say certain things. But I be allowed to say certain things. But I think as a culture we're kind of think as a culture we're kind of think as a culture we're kind of fostering She looked at you weird. You fostering She looked at you weird. You fostering She looked at you weird. You should be offended. You know, like should be offended. You know, like should be offended. You know, like everything becomes offense or just the everything becomes offense or just the everything becomes offense or just the We're so centered on me that we think We're so centered on me that we think We're so centered on me that we think how could they not know not to say that how could they not know not to say that how could they not know not to say that to me? to me? to me? You know, and we look around and it's You know, and we look around and it's You know, and we look around and it's this But it's just like you said, it's this But it's just like you said, it's this But it's just like you said, it's lover of self lover of self lover of self that's making us kind of look through that's making us kind of look through that's making us kind of look through all the lens of that hurt me, that, you all the lens of that hurt me, that, you all the lens of that hurt me, that, you know, offended me. Well, let me ask you know, offended me. Well, let me ask you know, offended me. Well, let me ask you this. What does the Bible Let's think this. What does the Bible Let's think this. What does the Bible Let's think about what the Bible about what the Bible about what the Bible I think it's a good place to start. What I think it's a good place to start. What I think it's a good place to start. What does the Bible talk about taking does the Bible talk about taking does the Bible talk about taking offense? Um because it's actually offense? Um because it's actually offense? Um because it's actually surprising how much it's in there.

surprising how much it's in there. surprising how much it's in there. Um when when we start to look at some of Um when when we start to look at some of Um when when we start to look at some of these passages. Like one is Proverbs these passages. Like one is Proverbs these passages. Like one is Proverbs 10:12. Hatred stirs up strife, but love 10:12. Hatred stirs up strife, but love 10:12. Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses. And then I thought covers all offenses. And then I thought covers all offenses. And then I thought this one was convicting even this this one was convicting even this this one was convicting even this morning. Whoever com- covers an offense morning. Whoever com- covers an offense morning. Whoever com- covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matters seeks love, but he who repeats a matters seeks love, but he who repeats a matters separates close friends. So, here's an separates close friends. So, here's an separates close friends. So, here's an interesting thing. interesting thing. interesting thing. How do you see when we're offended that How do you see when we're offended that How do you see when we're offended that we tend to repeat it? Oh, we love I we tend to repeat it? Oh, we love I we tend to repeat it? Oh, we love I mean, it's to be offended by yourself is mean, it's to be offended by yourself is mean, it's to be offended by yourself is not gratifying. You know, we want other not gratifying. You know, we want other not gratifying. You know, we want other I mean, it's actually I mean, I mean, it's actually I mean, I mean, it's actually I mean, that actually to be offended by myself that actually to be offended by myself that actually to be offended by myself is actually I think what we're going to is actually I think what we're going to is actually I think what we're going to get to. It's this idea of I use the word get to. It's this idea of I use the word get to. It's this idea of I use the word absorb. Like, I think we're actually absorb. Like, I think we're actually absorb. Like, I think we're actually called to absorb offenses. And so, called to absorb offenses. And so, called to absorb offenses. And so, here's where scripture talks about it here's where scripture talks about it here's where scripture talks about it being covering. Um I think that the the being covering. Um I think that the the being covering. Um I think that the the the other way to think about that is can the other way to think about that is can the other way to think about that is can I bear this alone? Can I just I can't I bear this alone? Can I just I can't I bear this alone? Can I just I can't always help the fact that I might feel always help the fact that I might feel always help the fact that I might feel hurt or or even offended about hurt or or even offended about hurt or or even offended about something, but this idea that I don't something, but this idea that I don't something, but this idea that I don't have to go repeat it to everybody. I have to go repeat it to everybody. I have to go repeat it to everybody. I think it's the it's in the repeating think it's the it's in the repeating think it's the it's in the repeating that it becomes this this thing, but that it becomes this this thing, but that it becomes this this thing, but it's just not gratifying to be I mean, it's just not gratifying to be I mean, it's just not gratifying to be I mean, that that calls like I have to dig deep that that calls like I have to dig deep that that calls like I have to dig deep into humility and love of others for me into humility and love of others for me into humility and love of others for me not to go repeat it to someone else. I not to go repeat it to someone else. I not to go repeat it to someone else. I remember one time I was in counseling remember one time I was in counseling remember one time I was in counseling and and the the counselor was saying and and the the counselor was saying and and the the counselor was saying something like, "Well, you need to something like, "Well, you need to something like, "Well, you need to confront this person over that."

confront this person over that." confront this person over that." And I thought to myself, And I thought to myself, And I thought to myself, I I I don't actually have to. I can I can live don't actually have to. I can I can live don't actually have to. I can I can live with this for the rest of my life and with this for the rest of my life and with this for the rest of my life and not tell someone else. Like, I don't I not tell someone else. Like, I don't I not tell someone else. Like, I don't I don't have to seek my don't have to seek my don't have to seek my kind of healing or kind of healing or kind of healing or um um um peace, you know, whatever it is through peace, you know, whatever it is through peace, you know, whatever it is through the repeating the matter to other the repeating the matter to other the repeating the matter to other people, even if it's the person who people, even if it's the person who people, even if it's the person who offended me. So, I I just think like offended me. So, I I just think like offended me. So, I I just think like this idea of it this idea of it this idea of it again, it goes back to the again, it goes back to the again, it goes back to the prioritization of self. Like, my prioritization of self. Like, my prioritization of self. Like, my feelings and me are the most important feelings and me are the most important feelings and me are the most important thing in any given situation. Instead of thing in any given situation. Instead of thing in any given situation. Instead of gosh, what if what if I'm not the most gosh, what if what if I'm not the most gosh, what if what if I'm not the most important thing in any given situation? important thing in any given situation? important thing in any given situation? So, I think this idea of repeating So, I think this idea of repeating So, I think this idea of repeating itself, but I was also thinking just itself, but I was also thinking just itself, but I was also thinking just back to scriptural references about back to scriptural references about back to scriptural references about 1 Corinthians 13, which is this 1 Corinthians 13, which is this 1 Corinthians 13, which is this beautiful chapter on love, and it tells beautiful chapter on love, and it tells beautiful chapter on love, and it tells us the the first thing Paul says is is us the the first thing Paul says is is us the the first thing Paul says is is that love is two things, patient and that love is two things, patient and that love is two things, patient and kind. And some translations for the word kind. And some translations for the word kind. And some translations for the word patient use use the word long-suffering.

patient use use the word long-suffering. patient use use the word long-suffering. And even in Bible study last night, I And even in Bible study last night, I And even in Bible study last night, I was talking about somebody used the word was talking about somebody used the word was talking about somebody used the word long-suffering, and I was talking about long-suffering, and I was talking about long-suffering, and I was talking about that word, like that word, like that word, like that's actually, ultimately, this is that's actually, ultimately, this is that's actually, ultimately, this is true about God, that he is true about God, that he is true about God, that he is long-suffering. And so, this idea that long-suffering. And so, this idea that long-suffering. And so, this idea that you bear with somebody for a long time, you bear with somebody for a long time, you bear with somebody for a long time, over and over. There are There are over and over. There are There are over and over. There are There are repeated things that require patience, repeated things that require patience, repeated things that require patience, that require us all, you know, and there that require us all, you know, and there that require us all, you know, and there is suffering in it. But, the fact that is suffering in it. But, the fact that is suffering in it. But, the fact that the Lord does that with us, like the Lord does that with us, like the Lord does that with us, like long-suffering, long-suffering, long-suffering, um so, I just thought, like that is such um so, I just thought, like that is such um so, I just thought, like that is such a good word for us as we talk about a good word for us as we talk about a good word for us as we talk about being easily offended. Like, can we be being easily offended. Like, can we be being easily offended. Like, can we be long-suffering with people? Um and then long-suffering with people? Um and then long-suffering with people? Um and then it goes on to say that it bears love it goes on to say that it bears love it goes on to say that it bears love bears all things. Gosh, I mean, can I bears all things. Gosh, I mean, can I bears all things. Gosh, I mean, can I bear? Yeah, it's just it's exactly what bear? Yeah, it's just it's exactly what bear? Yeah, it's just it's exactly what you were saying, Melissa, about you were saying, Melissa, about you were saying, Melissa, about covering. Can we bear with? What were covering. Can we bear with? What were covering. Can we bear with? What were you going to say? you going to say? you going to say? >> Well, yeah, I was just thinking I I do >> Well, yeah, I was just thinking I I do >> Well, yeah, I was just thinking I I do think part of our take offense culture think part of our take offense culture think part of our take offense culture is you're supposed to confront in in our is you're supposed to confront in in our is you're supposed to confront in in our Christian world. You're supposed to Christian world. You're supposed to Christian world. You're supposed to confront sin every time you see it. And confront sin every time you see it. And confront sin every time you see it. And I you know, and and I it actually says I you know, and and I it actually says I you know, and and I it actually says when someone's caught in sin.

when someone's caught in sin. when someone's caught in sin. You know, so so like one-off sins, I You know, so so like one-off sins, I You know, so so like one-off sins, I mean, there are sometimes one-off sins mean, there are sometimes one-off sins mean, there are sometimes one-off sins need to be confronted. Look, you know, I need to be confronted. Look, you know, I need to be confronted. Look, you know, I mean, like that's what I'm saying. But, mean, like that's what I'm saying. But, mean, like that's what I'm saying. But, like a one-off like a one-off like a one-off oh, you know, oh, you know, oh, you know, somebody did something that was somebody did something that was somebody did something that was offensive or even sinful against me. offensive or even sinful against me. offensive or even sinful against me. Like, I think we can't we can call it, Like, I think we can't we can call it, Like, I think we can't we can call it, but sometimes we can just forgive it. but sometimes we can just forgive it. but sometimes we can just forgive it. You know, I think of Jesus on the cross, You know, I think of Jesus on the cross, You know, I think of Jesus on the cross, he just said, "Forgive them, they know he just said, "Forgive them, they know he just said, "Forgive them, they know not what they do." Cuz sometimes they're not what they do." Cuz sometimes they're not what they do." Cuz sometimes they're not even aware that they're sinning not even aware that they're sinning not even aware that they're sinning against you. So, that's also a whole against you. So, that's also a whole against you. So, that's also a whole different category. Sometimes people different category. Sometimes people different category. Sometimes people just have no idea. But I But I do think just have no idea. But I But I do think just have no idea. But I But I do think you know, when we even think about when you know, when we even think about when you know, when we even think about when am I supposed to confront this in am I supposed to confront this in am I supposed to confront this in another person? Am I looking at are they another person? Am I looking at are they another person? Am I looking at are they caught in a sin pattern or am I just caught in a sin pattern or am I just caught in a sin pattern or am I just offended? That's a big difference. You offended? That's a big difference. You offended? That's a big difference. You know, like one is looking toward the know, like one is looking toward the know, like one is looking toward the other person and one is looking toward other person and one is looking toward other person and one is looking toward self. self. self. >> And we kind of want >> And we kind of want >> And we kind of want payment because you hurt me or or payment because you hurt me or or payment because you hurt me or or whatever. And so, we I think that's a whatever. And so, we I think that's a whatever. And so, we I think that's a helpful way to different I've tried to helpful way to different I've tried to helpful way to different I've tried to differentiate between the two. Was I differentiate between the two. Was I differentiate between the two. Was I just hurt by that? But they're not act just hurt by that? But they're not act just hurt by that? But they're not act They weren't actually being sinful.

They weren't actually being sinful. They weren't actually being sinful. You know, you know, like that There's a You know, you know, like that There's a You know, you know, like that There's a big difference when someone's like, big difference when someone's like, big difference when someone's like, "Yeah, I don't really love your "Yeah, I don't really love your "Yeah, I don't really love your pillows." They're not sinful to tell you pillows." They're not sinful to tell you pillows." They're not sinful to tell you that. that. that. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Like I know, I had someone take me to >> Like I know, I had someone take me to >> Like I know, I had someone take me to lunch one time and the whole purpose of lunch one time and the whole purpose of lunch one time and the whole purpose of the lunch was to tell me that basically the lunch was to tell me that basically the lunch was to tell me that basically they just did not like my personality. they just did not like my personality. they just did not like my personality. And I was like, "Oh." And she was And I was like, "Oh." And she was And I was like, "Oh." And she was confessing to me bitterness in her heart confessing to me bitterness in her heart confessing to me bitterness in her heart and I was like, "Man, girl, you could and I was like, "Man, girl, you could and I was like, "Man, girl, you could have you could have kept that to have you could have kept that to have you could have kept that to yourself. Like I that's actually between yourself. Like I that's actually between yourself. Like I that's actually between you and the Lord. Like I'm so sorry." you and the Lord. Like I'm so sorry." you and the Lord. Like I'm so sorry." But even this idea of like quick to But even this idea of like quick to But even this idea of like quick to confront sin, oh my word, I want to be confront sin, oh my word, I want to be confront sin, oh my word, I want to be quick to confront my own sin in myself. quick to confront my own sin in myself. quick to confront my own sin in myself. Like that's where that's where focus on Like that's where that's where focus on Like that's where that's where focus on self is good. You know, Psalm 139 says, self is good. You know, Psalm 139 says, self is good. You know, Psalm 139 says, "See if there is any offensive way in me "See if there is any offensive way in me "See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting." and lead me in the way everlasting." and lead me in the way everlasting." Like Like Like that is the prayer we should be praying. that is the prayer we should be praying. that is the prayer we should be praying. Like, "Lord, see if there is any Like, "Lord, see if there is any Like, "Lord, see if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the offensive way in me and lead me in the offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting." Like I want him to way everlasting." Like I want him to way everlasting." Like I want him to refine those offensive ways out of me. refine those offensive ways out of me. refine those offensive ways out of me. But you're right, there's such a big But you're right, there's such a big But you're right, there's such a big difference between like difference between like difference between like if if somebody is if if somebody is if if somebody is caught in sin, that's a totally caught in sin, that's a totally caught in sin, that's a totally different issue. But I was thinking different issue. But I was thinking different issue. But I was thinking Proverbs 18:19 says, "A brother or Proverbs 18:19 says, "A brother or Proverbs 18:19 says, "A brother or sister offended is more unyielding than sister offended is more unyielding than sister offended is more unyielding than a strong city." And I just was like, is a strong city." And I just was like, is a strong city." And I just was like, is that not true? And that's kind of what that not true? And that's kind of what that not true? And that's kind of what we do. We like build these walls. Like a we do. We like build these walls. Like a we do. We like build these walls. Like a a strong city has a lot of walls around a strong city has a lot of walls around a strong city has a lot of walls around it. And when we're offended, so when it. And when we're offended, so when it. And when we're offended, so when we're the offended one, you know, we we're the offended one, you know, we we're the offended one, you know, we build these walls and we usually punish

build these walls and we usually punish build these walls and we usually punish them with the silent treatment or them with the silent treatment or them with the silent treatment or distance or like you no longer I mean, distance or like you no longer I mean, distance or like you no longer I mean, that's that strong city of like that's that strong city of like that's that strong city of like you're not getting in again. Like you you're not getting in again. Like you you're not getting in again. Like you are dead to me. are dead to me. are dead to me. It's just like because we were offended. It's just like because we were offended. It's just like because we were offended. >> You know what's ironic about that? You >> You know what's ironic about that? You >> You know what's ironic about that? You keep building those walls, you're keep building those walls, you're keep building those walls, you're suddenly alone. suddenly alone. suddenly alone. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> It's kind of a warning, right? Like you >> It's kind of a warning, right? Like you >> It's kind of a warning, right? Like you might become a city of one if you're might become a city of one if you're might become a city of one if you're offended by everyone.