Relational Wholeness vs. Relational Idolatry [TGC Podcast Ep. 405]

good afternoon and welcome to this good afternoon and welcome to this breakout relational breakout relational breakout relational wholeness how Jesus helps us love people wholeness how Jesus helps us love people wholeness how Jesus helps us love people rather than crave or worship them and I rather than crave or worship them and I rather than crave or worship them and I want to start out by saying that this want to start out by saying that this want to start out by saying that this topic is not only a passion of mine it's topic is not only a passion of mine it's topic is not only a passion of mine it's it's something that's very personal to it's something that's very personal to it's something that's very personal to me and every time I get to teach on it me and every time I get to teach on it me and every time I get to teach on it my heart is very tender as it is today my heart is very tender as it is today my heart is very tender as it is today knowing that some of the things we're knowing that some of the things we're knowing that some of the things we're going to talk about are going to be going to talk about are going to be going to talk about are going to be resonating in real time for some of you resonating in real time for some of you resonating in real time for some of you you know in many ways my own journey of you know in many ways my own journey of you know in many ways my own journey of sin of relational pain and struggle is sin of relational pain and struggle is sin of relational pain and struggle is why I'm actually here in front of you why I'm actually here in front of you why I'm actually here in front of you today in the early 2000s I did a Google today in the early 2000s I did a Google today in the early 2000s I did a Google search Christian plus Bible plus search Christian plus Bible plus search Christian plus Bible plus codependency and up came a book called codependency and up came a book called codependency and up came a book called when people are big and God is small by when people are big and God is small by when people are big and God is small by Ed Welch and that book set me on a Ed Welch and that book set me on a Ed Welch and that book set me on a healing and transformative trajectory healing and transformative trajectory healing and transformative trajectory that really led to uh that really led to uh that really led to uh utter transformation in my life but also utter transformation in my life but also utter transformation in my life but also a very surprising uh journey of now a very surprising uh journey of now a very surprising uh journey of now writing and speaking and counseling writing and speaking and counseling writing and speaking and counseling related to this topic and so friends I related to this topic and so friends I related to this topic and so friends I don't know what brings you here don't know what brings you here don't know what brings you here today but Jesus does and he has exactly today but Jesus does and he has exactly today but Jesus does and he has exactly what you need whether if it's good truth what you need whether if it's good truth what you need whether if it's good truth from his word if it's Comfort maybe even from his word if it's Comfort maybe even from his word if it's Comfort maybe even some correction to walk forward in a some correction to walk forward in a some correction to walk forward in a path of change so I don't know what he

path of change so I don't know what he path of change so I don't know what he has for you but I know he is faithful has for you but I know he is faithful has for you but I know he is faithful and he will give it so let's just pray and he will give it so let's just pray and he will give it so let's just pray and then we're going to dig in so Jesus and then we're going to dig in so Jesus and then we're going to dig in so Jesus we do look to you we do look to you we do look to you now the one in whom are found all the now the one in whom are found all the now the one in whom are found all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge you treasures of wisdom and knowledge you treasures of wisdom and knowledge you Lord who are bread of life good shepherd Lord who are bread of life good shepherd Lord who are bread of life good shepherd the door Resurrection the way truth and the door Resurrection the way truth and the door Resurrection the way truth and life and we ask you to encourage life and we ask you to encourage life and we ask you to encourage Comfort illuminate For Your Glory and Comfort illuminate For Your Glory and Comfort illuminate For Your Glory and for our good for our good for our good amen now I want to mention I'm going to amen now I want to mention I'm going to amen now I want to mention I'm going to uh reference a few books and articles uh reference a few books and articles uh reference a few books and articles today and if you have the TGC app if you today and if you have the TGC app if you today and if you have the TGC app if you go to this breakout there'll be a go to this breakout there'll be a go to this breakout there'll be a handout that you can click on it's handout that you can click on it's handout that you can click on it's actually not a handout for my teaching actually not a handout for my teaching actually not a handout for my teaching but it has a whole list of resources but it has a whole list of resources but it has a whole list of resources including a lot of articles that relate including a lot of articles that relate including a lot of articles that relate to the topic that we're going to address to the topic that we're going to address to the topic that we're going to address today I'm also I'm here here with a today I'm also I'm here here with a today I'm also I'm here here with a couple of women I serve with including couple of women I serve with including couple of women I serve with including uh Caitlyn who's the director of women's uh Caitlyn who's the director of women's uh Caitlyn who's the director of women's ministry for Harvest USA she and I will ministry for Harvest USA she and I will ministry for Harvest USA she and I will be up front here for a few minutes be up front here for a few minutes be up front here for a few minutes before the uh plenary session which before the uh plenary session which before the uh plenary session which starts I think at 4:30 if you have starts I think at 4:30 if you have starts I think at 4:30 if you have questions if you want to chat about questions if you want to chat about questions if you want to chat about anything we also have a table down in anything we also have a table down in anything we also have a table down in the exhibit hall Harvest USA uh we'd be the exhibit hall Harvest USA uh we'd be the exhibit hall Harvest USA uh we'd be love to we'd love to chat with you uh love to we'd love to chat with you uh love to we'd love to chat with you uh share with you more about our ministry share with you more about our ministry share with you more about our ministry as well as uh a position in women's as well as uh a position in women's as well as uh a position in women's ministry that we are recruiting for so ministry that we are recruiting for so ministry that we are recruiting for so let's begin with just a kind of an let's begin with just a kind of an let's begin with just a kind of an overview of what are some of the initial overview of what are some of the initial overview of what are some of the initial differences between what God says about

differences between what God says about differences between what God says about relationships and what the world says relationships and what the world says relationships and what the world says around us just a quick overview because around us just a quick overview because around us just a quick overview because you don't have to really look far to see you don't have to really look far to see you don't have to really look far to see that all around us in entertainment that all around us in entertainment that all around us in entertainment social media uh there are all these social media uh there are all these social media uh there are all these stories of people searching for a soul stories of people searching for a soul stories of people searching for a soul filling love for deep connections even filling love for deep connections even filling love for deep connections even connections that are going to supposedly connections that are going to supposedly connections that are going to supposedly make life meaningful maybe even make us make life meaningful maybe even make us make life meaningful maybe even make us feel okay there's all these songs that feel okay there's all these songs that feel okay there's all these songs that have Soulful uh lyrics about romantic have Soulful uh lyrics about romantic have Soulful uh lyrics about romantic relationships like back in the day how relationships like back in the day how relationships like back in the day how do I live without you you're my world my do I live without you you're my world my do I live without you you're my world my heart my soul baby if you leave you take heart my soul baby if you leave you take heart my soul baby if you leave you take away everything good in my life or away everything good in my life or away everything good in my life or there's even songs that have words of there's even songs that have words of there's even songs that have words of worship like you're the first thing I worship like you're the first thing I worship like you're the first thing I know I can believe in you're holy holy know I can believe in you're holy holy know I can believe in you're holy holy holy I'm high on loving you you're my holy I'm high on loving you you're my holy I'm high on loving you you're my Healing Hands where it used to hurt my Healing Hands where it used to hurt my Healing Hands where it used to hurt my Saving Grace you're my kind of church Saving Grace you're my kind of church Saving Grace you're my kind of church and then we've got to name the phrase and then we've got to name the phrase and then we've got to name the phrase that went viral from the medical drama that went viral from the medical drama that went viral from the medical drama in the 2000s graay and atomy who knows in the 2000s graay and atomy who knows in the 2000s graay and atomy who knows this you're my this you're my this you're my person I mean finally if we had Taylor person I mean finally if we had Taylor person I mean finally if we had Taylor Swift and Billy ish collaborate on two Swift and Billy ish collaborate on two Swift and Billy ish collaborate on two of their hit songs it might might have of their hit songs it might might have of their hit songs it might might have gone something like this you're my my my gone something like this you're my my my gone something like this you're my my my lover can I go where you go can we

lover can I go where you go can we lover can I go where you go can we always be this close always be this close always be this close forever I don't know how to feel I don't forever I don't know how to feel I don't forever I don't know how to feel I don't even know how to be happy I mean I I even know how to be happy I mean I I even know how to be happy I mean I I want to try but what was I made want to try but what was I made want to try but what was I made for I I want to be happy but I forgot for I I want to be happy but I forgot for I I want to be happy but I forgot how to be it it's something I'm made for how to be it it's something I'm made for how to be it it's something I'm made for something I can be something I can be something I can be something I wait for something I'm made something I wait for something I'm made something I wait for something I'm made for so as we get started I want to ask for so as we get started I want to ask for so as we get started I want to ask what are we made for and what does this what are we made for and what does this what are we made for and what does this have to do with our have to do with our have to do with our relationships I mean all those lyrics I relationships I mean all those lyrics I relationships I mean all those lyrics I just shared they actually reveal deep just shared they actually reveal deep just shared they actually reveal deep desires that are built into us by our desires that are built into us by our desires that are built into us by our creator desires for unfailing love for creator desires for unfailing love for creator desires for unfailing love for deep connection to have significance to deep connection to have significance to deep connection to have significance to know and and know others deeply to have know and and know others deeply to have know and and know others deeply to have relationships that are safe and relationships that are safe and relationships that are safe and comforting I mean those desires are comforting I mean those desires are comforting I mean those desires are beautiful aspects for all of us of being beautiful aspects for all of us of being beautiful aspects for all of us of being image bearers of God the very one who image bearers of God the very one who image bearers of God the very one who loves us deeply knows us loves us deeply knows us loves us deeply knows us perfectly and who exists himself in a perfectly and who exists himself in a perfectly and who exists himself in a holy relational Trinity he's the one holy relational Trinity he's the one holy relational Trinity he's the one that created us for relationships for that created us for relationships for that created us for relationships for his glory and for our good and it's his glory and for our good and it's his glory and for our good and it's through our connections with each other through our connections with each other through our connections with each other that we gain deep glimpses of who our that we gain deep glimpses of who our that we gain deep glimpses of who our amazing savior is as father as brother

amazing savior is as father as brother amazing savior is as father as brother the friend who sticks closer than a the friend who sticks closer than a the friend who sticks closer than a brother who loves us with the tenderness brother who loves us with the tenderness brother who loves us with the tenderness of a mother the one in whom are found of a mother the one in whom are found of a mother the one in whom are found all the treasures of any pastoral all the treasures of any pastoral all the treasures of any pastoral counseling counseling counseling wisdom but he's even more than that wisdom but he's even more than that wisdom but he's even more than that Jesus is called our Eternal bridegroom Jesus is called our Eternal bridegroom Jesus is called our Eternal bridegroom the one who's waiting to be United fully the one who's waiting to be United fully the one who's waiting to be United fully with his bride his people the church so with his bride his people the church so with his bride his people the church so our relationships with each other are our relationships with each other are our relationships with each other are meant to help us grow in understanding meant to help us grow in understanding meant to help us grow in understanding him and in becoming more like Jesus to him and in becoming more like Jesus to him and in becoming more like Jesus to Proclaim him into the world I mean think Proclaim him into the world I mean think Proclaim him into the world I mean think about it we can't obey most of the New about it we can't obey most of the New about it we can't obey most of the New Testament unless we're in deep Testament unless we're in deep Testament unless we're in deep relationships with relationships with relationships with people but but sin people but but sin people but but sin sin the ultimate toxin has infiltrated sin the ultimate toxin has infiltrated sin the ultimate toxin has infiltrated every aspect of our every aspect of our every aspect of our relationships our desires relationships our desires relationships our desires motivations attractions motivations attractions motivations attractions priorities it's all polluted now due to priorities it's all polluted now due to priorities it's all polluted now due to sin's presence and power and even though sin's presence and power and even though sin's presence and power and even though we have been created for a pure love for we have been created for a pure love for we have been created for a pure love for wholeness in every area we struggle we wholeness in every area we struggle we wholeness in every area we struggle we all struggle in our connections with all struggle in our connections with all struggle in our connections with people with our attachments to people I people with our attachments to people I people with our attachments to people I mean none of us has a perfect track mean none of us has a perfect track mean none of us has a perfect track record either in loving or in being record either in loving or in being record either in loving or in being loved but before we dive in with some of loved but before we dive in with some of loved but before we dive in with some of the the struggles we have we need to we

the the struggles we have we need to we the the struggles we have we need to we need to be reminded that all of that sin need to be reminded that all of that sin need to be reminded that all of that sin has been remedied for us through has been remedied for us through has been remedied for us through Christ's death and his life after death Christ's death and his life after death Christ's death and his life after death his perfect track record has been given his perfect track record has been given his perfect track record has been given to us and the power which raised him to us and the power which raised him to us and the power which raised him from the dead is active in all those who from the dead is active in all those who from the dead is active in all those who believe in him including the power we believe in him including the power we believe in him including the power we need to begin to develop different types need to begin to develop different types need to begin to develop different types of of of relationships and to walk away from relationships and to walk away from relationships and to walk away from relationships where there is a relationships where there is a relationships where there is a messy messy messy enslaving unhelpful to say the least enslaving unhelpful to say the least enslaving unhelpful to say the least kind of dynamic those enslaving people kind of dynamic those enslaving people kind of dynamic those enslaving people addictions dependencies we have which we addictions dependencies we have which we addictions dependencies we have which we know have come to have a strong control know have come to have a strong control know have come to have a strong control over our life over our life over our life I mean this isn't what God has created I mean this isn't what God has created I mean this isn't what God has created us for it's not what he intended for us for it's not what he intended for us for it's not what he intended for us how have I seen some of this us how have I seen some of this us how have I seen some of this relational messiness at work I mean relational messiness at work I mean relational messiness at work I mean somewhat in my own life and in hundreds somewhat in my own life and in hundreds somewhat in my own life and in hundreds and hundreds of women that I've gotten and hundreds of women that I've gotten and hundreds of women that I've gotten to walk with over the years let me just to walk with over the years let me just to walk with over the years let me just share with you quickly some of the share with you quickly some of the share with you quickly some of the general things I've seen of women with general things I've seen of women with general things I've seen of women with women women with men women in parenting women women with men women in parenting women women with men women in parenting or with parenting relationships or their or with parenting relationships or their or with parenting relationships or their own parents and then broadly so first own parents and then broadly so first own parents and then broadly so first women with women well women with women well women with women well besties mentoring relationships even besties mentoring relationships even besties mentoring relationships even Ministry Ministry Ministry colleagues something happens and these colleagues something happens and these colleagues something happens and these friendships go beyond what is Godly and

friendships go beyond what is Godly and friendships go beyond what is Godly and can grow into a consuming obsessive can grow into a consuming obsessive can grow into a consuming obsessive jealousy filled desperate need grasping jealousy filled desperate need grasping jealousy filled desperate need grasping for constant connection I mean these for constant connection I mean these for constant connection I mean these women may pray together they study women may pray together they study women may pray together they study scripture together they may even serve scripture together they may even serve scripture together they may even serve together they may even even come to a together they may even even come to a together they may even even come to a conference like this together but conference like this together but conference like this together but there's an internal Panic not Christ there's an internal Panic not Christ there's an internal Panic not Christ that keeps them that keeps them that keeps them attached sometimes in inappropriate ways attached sometimes in inappropriate ways attached sometimes in inappropriate ways verbally physically maybe even into verbally physically maybe even into verbally physically maybe even into sexual sin Kelly Needum in her excellent sexual sin Kelly Needum in her excellent sexual sin Kelly Needum in her excellent book friendsh reclaiming real friendship book friendsh reclaiming real friendship book friendsh reclaiming real friendship in a culture of in a culture of in a culture of confusion she powerfully describes how confusion she powerfully describes how confusion she powerfully describes how our friendships and really this is true our friendships and really this is true our friendships and really this is true across the boards relationally but how across the boards relationally but how across the boards relationally but how friendships get off track when we friendships get off track when we friendships get off track when we effectively replace Jesus with a effectively replace Jesus with a effectively replace Jesus with a person and and can cultivate a person and and can cultivate a person and and can cultivate a friendship that mimics marriage in friendship that mimics marriage in friendship that mimics marriage in wanting to have that the blessing of a wanting to have that the blessing of a wanting to have that the blessing of a comprehensive Life Sharing uh Dynamic comprehensive Life Sharing uh Dynamic comprehensive Life Sharing uh Dynamic which has been reserved and designed for which has been reserved and designed for which has been reserved and designed for marriage between one man and one woman marriage between one man and one woman marriage between one man and one woman she says quote the result of this is an she says quote the result of this is an she says quote the result of this is an ingrown friendship where personal ingrown friendship where personal ingrown friendship where personal neediness sits in the driver's seat neediness sits in the driver's seat neediness sits in the driver's seat instead of sacrificial love over long instead of sacrificial love over long instead of sacrificial love over long periods of time this type of friendship periods of time this type of friendship periods of time this type of friendship can lead to addictive dependencies can lead to addictive dependencies can lead to addictive dependencies debilitating debilitating debilitating despair when something interferes with despair when something interferes with despair when something interferes with the friendship and Unholy sexual

the friendship and Unholy sexual the friendship and Unholy sexual attraction or interaction she says these attraction or interaction she says these attraction or interaction she says these are all distortions of God's intended are all distortions of God's intended are all distortions of God's intended purpose for friendship and love and they purpose for friendship and love and they purpose for friendship and love and they will not make us happy in the long run will not make us happy in the long run will not make us happy in the long run now I want to make quick to add here now I want to make quick to add here now I want to make quick to add here that experiencing those kinds of desires that experiencing those kinds of desires that experiencing those kinds of desires even attractions towards another woman even attractions towards another woman even attractions towards another woman that does not equal some kind of a label that does not equal some kind of a label that does not equal some kind of a label or identity like of being or identity like of being or identity like of being gay without minimizing it it it in one gay without minimizing it it it in one gay without minimizing it it it in one way it's simply reveals the direction of way it's simply reveals the direction of way it's simply reveals the direction of our heart desires of our heart maybe our heart desires of our heart maybe our heart desires of our heart maybe desires of our body being drawn to desires of our body being drawn to desires of our body being drawn to something but many women and I've walked something but many women and I've walked something but many women and I've walked with many of them many women have with many of them many women have with many of them many women have allowed a certain relationship with a allowed a certain relationship with a allowed a certain relationship with a particular woman to be a Gateway into particular woman to be a Gateway into particular woman to be a Gateway into other same-sex relationships and maybe other same-sex relationships and maybe other same-sex relationships and maybe eventually embracing a gay identity now eventually embracing a gay identity now eventually embracing a gay identity now Kelly's book which I would highly Kelly's book which I would highly Kelly's book which I would highly commend to you it also gives such a rich commend to you it also gives such a rich commend to you it also gives such a rich teaching about the goodness of God's teaching about the goodness of God's teaching about the goodness of God's design and friendship which is different design and friendship which is different design and friendship which is different from from from marriage but just as Rich meant to be marriage but just as Rich meant to be marriage but just as Rich meant to be just as sweet now what about women and just as sweet now what about women and just as sweet now what about women and men well I wrote a Bor book for wives men well I wrote a Bor book for wives men well I wrote a Bor book for wives actually wives facing sexual betrayal actually wives facing sexual betrayal actually wives facing sexual betrayal it's called Jesus and your unwanted it's called Jesus and your unwanted it's called Jesus and your unwanted journey and in that I address the shame journey and in that I address the shame journey and in that I address the shame that many wives will put on themselves that many wives will put on themselves that many wives will put on themselves or feel like it's being put on them or feel like it's being put on them or feel like it's being put on them because of their husband's sin and in because of their husband's sin and in because of their husband's sin and in that chapter on shame there's a chart that chapter on shame there's a chart that chapter on shame there's a chart called the three views of marriage which

called the three views of marriage which called the three views of marriage which is basically just meant to show how is basically just meant to show how is basically just meant to show how effective how how easy it is to effective how how easy it is to effective how how easy it is to effectively replace Jesus with your effectively replace Jesus with your effectively replace Jesus with your spouse looking to that husband to be uh spouse looking to that husband to be uh spouse looking to that husband to be uh um a source of unfailing Love ceaseless um a source of unfailing Love ceaseless um a source of unfailing Love ceaseless encouragement to never miss a cue to encouragement to never miss a cue to encouragement to never miss a cue to always know exactly what you need and to always know exactly what you need and to always know exactly what you need and to be sure a Godly husband can be and is be sure a Godly husband can be and is be sure a Godly husband can be and is meant to be by the Lord is a a wonderful meant to be by the Lord is a a wonderful meant to be by the Lord is a a wonderful gift a signpost to his love but sisters gift a signpost to his love but sisters gift a signpost to his love but sisters it was never God's intent that a spouse it was never God's intent that a spouse it was never God's intent that a spouse replace him and so dating relationships replace him and so dating relationships replace him and so dating relationships are basically trying to find a boyfriend are basically trying to find a boyfriend are basically trying to find a boyfriend that can be has chose the potential to that can be has chose the potential to that can be has chose the potential to maybe be that kind of a maybe be that kind of a maybe be that kind of a husband what about women and their husband what about women and their husband what about women and their children well again marriage is a good children well again marriage is a good children well again marriage is a good gift friendship is a good gift and gift friendship is a good gift and gift friendship is a good gift and having children is a beautiful gift but having children is a beautiful gift but having children is a beautiful gift but children are meant to be a son or children are meant to be a son or children are meant to be a son or daughter not to be the source of a mom's daughter not to be the source of a mom's daughter not to be the source of a mom's Identity or if her life is okay or if Identity or if her life is okay or if Identity or if her life is okay or if she has any meaning in she has any meaning in she has any meaning in life to try to find identity in your son life to try to find identity in your son life to try to find identity in your son or daughter or to equate if she's doing or daughter or to equate if she's doing or daughter or to equate if she's doing okay I'm doing okay if he's okay then okay I'm doing okay if he's okay then okay I'm doing okay if he's okay then life is life is life is okay to let that kind of a dynamic keep okay to let that kind of a dynamic keep okay to let that kind of a dynamic keep growing and depending on that child's growing and depending on that child's growing and depending on that child's emotional well-being for your well-being emotional well-being for your well-being emotional well-being for your well-being as that child grows up what can develop

as that child grows up what can develop as that child grows up what can develop is almost looking to a child to be an is almost looking to a child to be an is almost looking to a child to be an emotional a surrogate spouse that's not emotional a surrogate spouse that's not emotional a surrogate spouse that's not God's intent and then these kind of God's intent and then these kind of God's intent and then these kind of Dynamics can can spill over into any Dynamics can can spill over into any Dynamics can can spill over into any kind of relationship with a a Ministry kind of relationship with a a Ministry kind of relationship with a a Ministry leader a pastor a mentor or whatever it leader a pastor a mentor or whatever it leader a pastor a mentor or whatever it might might might be so if that's the landscape that we're be so if that's the landscape that we're be so if that's the landscape that we're focusing on I want to take the rest of focusing on I want to take the rest of focusing on I want to take the rest of our time we're going to look at three our time we're going to look at three our time we're going to look at three main things we want to look at how does main things we want to look at how does main things we want to look at how does the Bible talk about this idea of the Bible talk about this idea of the Bible talk about this idea of codependency or relational idolatry two codependency or relational idolatry two codependency or relational idolatry two we're going to look at what are some we're going to look at what are some we're going to look at what are some honest diagnostics for us to consider to honest diagnostics for us to consider to honest diagnostics for us to consider to see if do we need some relational see if do we need some relational see if do we need some relational recalibration and then three we want to recalibration and then three we want to recalibration and then three we want to be sure to land our time giving you a be sure to land our time giving you a be sure to land our time giving you a path out a some practical steps into path out a some practical steps into path out a some practical steps into some wholeness and change so let's start some wholeness and change so let's start some wholeness and change so let's start number one let's define this biblically number one let's define this biblically number one let's define this biblically I'm going to read just four of really I'm going to read just four of really I'm going to read just four of really probably thousands of verses we could go probably thousands of verses we could go probably thousands of verses we could go to four passages and then just give a to four passages and then just give a to four passages and then just give a summary applying it to our topic for summary applying it to our topic for summary applying it to our topic for this hour Exodus 20 2-3 this hour Exodus 20 2-3 this hour Exodus 20 2-3 I am the Lord your God who brought you I am the Lord your God who brought you I am the Lord your God who brought you out of the land of Egypt out of the out of the land of Egypt out of the out of the land of Egypt out of the house of house of house of slavery you shall have no other gods slavery you shall have no other gods slavery you shall have no other gods before me then from Deuteronomy 136 to8 before me then from Deuteronomy 136 to8 before me then from Deuteronomy 136 to8 if your brother the son of your mother if your brother the son of your mother if your brother the son of your mother or your son or your daughter or your

or your son or your daughter or your or your son or your daughter or your wife or the friend who is as your own wife or the friend who is as your own wife or the friend who is as your own soul if they entice you secretly saying soul if they entice you secretly saying soul if they entice you secretly saying let us go and serve other gods Gods let us go and serve other gods Gods let us go and serve other gods Gods which you've never heard of before you which you've never heard of before you which you've never heard of before you shall not yield to him you shall not shall not yield to him you shall not shall not yield to him you shall not listen to them then two from the New listen to them then two from the New listen to them then two from the New Testament Romans Testament Romans Testament Romans 1:25 they exchanged the truth about God 1:25 they exchanged the truth about God 1:25 they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the for a lie and worshiped and served the for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator who's creature rather than the Creator who's creature rather than the Creator who's blessed blessed blessed forever Galatians 5:13 finally for you forever Galatians 5:13 finally for you forever Galatians 5:13 finally for you were called to Freedom sisters only do were called to Freedom sisters only do were called to Freedom sisters only do not use your freedom as an opportunity not use your freedom as an opportunity not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh but through love serve one for the flesh but through love serve one for the flesh but through love serve one another so God's word reveals him as a another so God's word reveals him as a another so God's word reveals him as a generous holy giftgiving Creator who generous holy giftgiving Creator who generous holy giftgiving Creator who created us with relational created us with relational created us with relational capacities scripture also shows him to capacities scripture also shows him to capacities scripture also shows him to be a lord to whom we belong and the only be a lord to whom we belong and the only be a lord to whom we belong and the only savior who rescues us from sin and heals savior who rescues us from sin and heals savior who rescues us from sin and heals us from the miseries of sin heals us us from the miseries of sin heals us us from the miseries of sin heals us from the Damage Done against us I mean from the Damage Done against us I mean from the Damage Done against us I mean he has created us to be loved perfectly he has created us to be loved perfectly he has created us to be loved perfectly by himself and to receive the good gift by himself and to receive the good gift by himself and to receive the good gift of relationships with each of relationships with each of relationships with each other but never to replace him as Giver other but never to replace him as Giver other but never to replace him as Giver with those gifts never to engage the

with those gifts never to engage the with those gifts never to engage the gift of relationship at the expense of gift of relationship at the expense of gift of relationship at the expense of our Holiness or of our dependence upon our Holiness or of our dependence upon our Holiness or of our dependence upon Christ so he commands for our protection Christ so he commands for our protection Christ so he commands for our protection and our good that we worship him alone and our good that we worship him alone and our good that we worship him alone that he has no rivals or Replacements in that he has no rivals or Replacements in that he has no rivals or Replacements in our hearts and our affections and that our hearts and our affections and that our hearts and our affections and that not only protects us but it protects not only protects us but it protects not only protects us but it protects other people because everybody's in other people because everybody's in other people because everybody's in their right place and I'm not looking to their right place and I'm not looking to their right place and I'm not looking to you to be what only God can be so I want you to be what only God can be so I want you to be what only God can be so I want to just thinking again though about why to just thinking again though about why to just thinking again though about why we struggle with this I mean we we've we struggle with this I mean we we've we struggle with this I mean we we've talked a bit about Sin Sin is always at talked a bit about Sin Sin is always at talked a bit about Sin Sin is always at work here we're replacing god with a work here we're replacing god with a work here we're replacing god with a person a good gift but we're also person a good gift but we're also person a good gift but we're also sufferers and this is a tough world to sufferers and this is a tough world to sufferers and this is a tough world to live in and it shapes us it influences live in and it shapes us it influences live in and it shapes us it influences us so when we think about codependency us so when we think about codependency us so when we think about codependency love addiction people addiction there's love addiction people addiction there's love addiction people addiction there's lots of secular reasons and lots of lots of secular reasons and lots of lots of secular reasons and lots of labels for it I mean codependency is labels for it I mean codependency is labels for it I mean codependency is basically a codependence it's two people basically a codependence it's two people basically a codependence it's two people looking to each other depending on each looking to each other depending on each looking to each other depending on each other in unhelpful ways they feed off of other in unhelpful ways they feed off of other in unhelpful ways they feed off of each other they feed off of being needed each other they feed off of being needed each other they feed off of being needed um or letting someone meet all your um or letting someone meet all your um or letting someone meet all your needs but there's also diagnoses that needs but there's also diagnoses that needs but there's also diagnoses that are given by mental health professionals are given by mental health professionals are given by mental health professionals like the American Psychiatric like the American Psychiatric like the American Psychiatric association they will diagnose somebody association they will diagnose somebody association they will diagnose somebody with dependent personality disorder two

with dependent personality disorder two with dependent personality disorder two individuals that meet one main individuals that meet one main individuals that meet one main criteria an excessive and pervasive need criteria an excessive and pervasive need criteria an excessive and pervasive need to be taken care of to be taken care of to be taken care of this person exhibits sub submissive this person exhibits sub submissive this person exhibits sub submissive clinging needy Behavior hash Ben there clinging needy Behavior hash Ben there clinging needy Behavior hash Ben there give me the diagnosis someone that has give me the diagnosis someone that has give me the diagnosis someone that has that kind of behavior due to fear of that kind of behavior due to fear of that kind of behavior due to fear of Abandonment but by their own admission Abandonment but by their own admission Abandonment but by their own admission these mental health professionals they these mental health professionals they these mental health professionals they say guess what no effective treatment say guess what no effective treatment say guess what no effective treatment options are are known or love addiction options are are known or love addiction options are are known or love addiction this is on the National Institute of this is on the National Institute of this is on the National Institute of Health's website love addiction presents Health's website love addiction presents Health's website love addiction presents itself as an incessant need for the itself as an incessant need for the itself as an incessant need for the presence of someone who is indispensable presence of someone who is indispensable presence of someone who is indispensable for one's life a relationship within for one's life a relationship within for one's life a relationship within which purely dysfunctional behaviors which purely dysfunctional behaviors which purely dysfunctional behaviors associated with a recurrent fear of associated with a recurrent fear of associated with a recurrent fear of Abandonment are Abandonment are Abandonment are implemented now that's rough and I would implemented now that's rough and I would implemented now that's rough and I would guess I'm not the only person in the guess I'm not the only person in the guess I'm not the only person in the room that maybe has seen thems in some room that maybe has seen thems in some room that maybe has seen thems in some of those diagnosis but but some of us of those diagnosis but but some of us of those diagnosis but but some of us struggle to just keep people in their struggle to just keep people in their struggle to just keep people in their the right place if you will because we the right place if you will because we the right place if you will because we We're Young in our faith or we were just We're Young in our faith or we were just We're Young in our faith or we were just never taught like we were never taught never taught like we were never taught never taught like we were never taught about Christ centered healthy about Christ centered healthy about Christ centered healthy relationships I mean maybe you grew up relationships I mean maybe you grew up relationships I mean maybe you grew up in a family that was characterized by in a family that was characterized by in a family that was characterized by excessive enmeshment in each other's excessive enmeshment in each other's excessive enmeshment in each other's lives extreme unhealthy attachments or lives extreme unhealthy attachments or lives extreme unhealthy attachments or maybe you grew up in a family on the

maybe you grew up in a family on the maybe you grew up in a family on the other side where there was no attachment other side where there was no attachment other side where there was no attachment there was no emotional connection no there was no emotional connection no there was no emotional connection no emotional comfort and then you were an emotional comfort and then you were an emotional comfort and then you were an adolescent teen girl college girl young adolescent teen girl college girl young adolescent teen girl college girl young adult maybe older somebody came along adult maybe older somebody came along adult maybe older somebody came along who basically offered you what all those who basically offered you what all those who basically offered you what all those lyrics were that I sang and you ate it lyrics were that I sang and you ate it lyrics were that I sang and you ate it up I mean you were starved for up I mean you were starved for up I mean you were starved for attention starved for attention starved for attention starved for connection but the Bible the gospel connection but the Bible the gospel connection but the Bible the gospel really gives us not only the most clear really gives us not only the most clear really gives us not only the most clear diagnosis but the most helpful diagnosis but the most helpful diagnosis but the most helpful explanation explanation explanation that our sinful and H hurting Hearts that our sinful and H hurting Hearts that our sinful and H hurting Hearts turn away from the Creator and seek the turn away from the Creator and seek the turn away from the Creator and seek the created thing instead of him including created thing instead of him including created thing instead of him including people including relationships I like people including relationships I like people including relationships I like how Puritan John Flavel said it the how Puritan John Flavel said it the how Puritan John Flavel said it the believer is in spiritual danger if he believer is in spiritual danger if he believer is in spiritual danger if he allows himself to go for any lengths of allows himself to go for any lengths of allows himself to go for any lengths of time without tasting the love of Christ time without tasting the love of Christ time without tasting the love of Christ and S and savoring the felt comforts of and S and savoring the felt comforts of and S and savoring the felt comforts of a savior's presence when Christ ceases a savior's presence when Christ ceases a savior's presence when Christ ceases to fill the heart with to fill the heart with to fill the heart with satisfaction our souls will go in silent satisfaction our souls will go in silent satisfaction our souls will go in silent search of other lovers when Christ search of other lovers when Christ search of other lovers when Christ ceases to fill our hearts with ceases to fill our hearts with ceases to fill our hearts with satisfaction our souls will go in silent satisfaction our souls will go in silent satisfaction our souls will go in silent search of other lovers and it's humbling

search of other lovers and it's humbling search of other lovers and it's humbling it might feel overwhelming to consider it might feel overwhelming to consider it might feel overwhelming to consider these things you might be saying Christ these things you might be saying Christ these things you might be saying Christ filling my heart Christ comforting me filling my heart Christ comforting me filling my heart Christ comforting me like how does that even like how does that even like how does that even work work work well let's be well let's be well let's be encouraged that all these relational encouraged that all these relational encouraged that all these relational struggles my friends they represent struggles my friends they represent struggles my friends they represent temptations that are common to us that temptations that are common to us that temptations that are common to us that are common to The Human Experience even are common to The Human Experience even are common to The Human Experience even as they may look really different in our as they may look really different in our as they may look really different in our lives because think about it people in lives because think about it people in lives because think about it people in our relationships with them aren't they our relationships with them aren't they our relationships with them aren't they one of the greatest gifts that we can one of the greatest gifts that we can one of the greatest gifts that we can have in this life I mean they really are have in this life I mean they really are have in this life I mean they really are as I mentioned it it's how we we get to as I mentioned it it's how we we get to as I mentioned it it's how we we get to know the Lord in a lot of ways is in in know the Lord in a lot of ways is in in know the Lord in a lot of ways is in in healthy Godly healthy Godly healthy Godly relationships and God relationships and God relationships and God knows better than even we do how we knows better than even we do how we knows better than even we do how we replace him with the very gift of people replace him with the very gift of people replace him with the very gift of people and he's committed he's committed to and he's committed he's committed to and he's committed he's committed to rescuing us to coming after us he's not rescuing us to coming after us he's not rescuing us to coming after us he's not going to have any rivals in our hearts going to have any rivals in our hearts going to have any rivals in our hearts he's not going to have other lovers he's not going to have other lovers he's not going to have other lovers vying for the glory that is due to him vying for the glory that is due to him vying for the glory that is due to him alone and this is isn't because he's alone and this is isn't because he's alone and this is isn't because he's narcissistic or narcissistic or narcissistic or needy no this this is what we've been needy no this this is what we've been needy no this this is what we've been created for and our creator wants to created for and our creator wants to created for and our creator wants to protect that he wants us to live in protect that he wants us to live in protect that he wants us to live in wholeness and to have relationships that wholeness and to have relationships that wholeness and to have relationships that are filled and fueled with sincere love are filled and fueled with sincere love are filled and fueled with sincere love so that's a quick B biblical so that's a quick B biblical so that's a quick B biblical overview now we've got to do some overview now we've got to do some overview now we've got to do some Diagnostics because we don't want to

Diagnostics because we don't want to Diagnostics because we don't want to just talk up here so without being just talk up here so without being just talk up here so without being overly sus supicious or overly cynical overly sus supicious or overly cynical overly sus supicious or overly cynical overly overly overly introspective we do need to have some introspective we do need to have some introspective we do need to have some humble discernment and wisdom so how humble discernment and wisdom so how humble discernment and wisdom so how might we diagnose a relationship that's might we diagnose a relationship that's might we diagnose a relationship that's gotten off track that's off the rails of gotten off track that's off the rails of gotten off track that's off the rails of what God would have for us what might be what God would have for us what might be what God would have for us what might be markers to alert us to at least pause markers to alert us to at least pause markers to alert us to at least pause maybe put some space between us and maybe put some space between us and maybe put some space between us and someone maybe even to end a someone maybe even to end a someone maybe even to end a relationship so in about an hour we're relationship so in about an hour we're relationship so in about an hour we're going to be starting our plenary going to be starting our plenary going to be starting our plenary sessions I'm excited I'm really eager to sessions I'm excited I'm really eager to sessions I'm excited I'm really eager to hear this teaching and we're going to be hear this teaching and we're going to be hear this teaching and we're going to be immersed in Rich wisdom about what Jesus immersed in Rich wisdom about what Jesus immersed in Rich wisdom about what Jesus said uniquely about himself what he said uniquely about himself what he said uniquely about himself what he proclaimed about himself in a unique way proclaimed about himself in a unique way proclaimed about himself in a unique way as Savior so I'm going to suggest that as Savior so I'm going to suggest that as Savior so I'm going to suggest that one way we might diagnose the health of one way we might diagnose the health of one way we might diagnose the health of our our our relationships is to see to what degree relationships is to see to what degree relationships is to see to what degree do we understand believe in and depend do we understand believe in and depend do we understand believe in and depend upon Jesus to be what only he can upon Jesus to be what only he can upon Jesus to be what only he can be and how might we tend to actually be and how might we tend to actually be and how might we tend to actually look away from him to look away from him to look away from him to people husband friend son daughter people husband friend son daughter people husband friend son daughter mentor to be our bread of life the light mentor to be our bread of life the light mentor to be our bread of life the light of our world the door our Good Shepherd of our world the door our Good Shepherd of our world the door our Good Shepherd our resurrection and life our way truth

our resurrection and life our way truth our resurrection and life our way truth and and and life so we're going to apply this to our life so we're going to apply this to our life so we're going to apply this to our topic and so what I've done is I've I topic and so what I've done is I've I topic and so what I've done is I've I took those I am statements that we're took those I am statements that we're took those I am statements that we're going to hear unpacked in the going to hear unpacked in the going to hear unpacked in the plenaries and I've come up with three plenaries and I've come up with three plenaries and I've come up with three categories that I think represent them categories that I think represent them categories that I think represent them and we're going to let this be a pathway and we're going to let this be a pathway and we're going to let this be a pathway for some honest self-reflection so as I for some honest self-reflection so as I for some honest self-reflection so as I walk through this I I want you to walk through this I I want you to walk through this I I want you to consider are you attempting to be this consider are you attempting to be this consider are you attempting to be this for for for somebody or do you somebody or do you somebody or do you demand crave that somebody other than demand crave that somebody other than demand crave that somebody other than Jesus be the for you number Jesus be the for you number Jesus be the for you number one our life and soul one our life and soul one our life and soul satisfaction are you looking to a person satisfaction are you looking to a person satisfaction are you looking to a person to give you ultimate meaning in life to give you ultimate meaning in life to give you ultimate meaning in life purpose a reason to live maybe to be purpose a reason to live maybe to be purpose a reason to live maybe to be okay so this person their words presence okay so this person their words presence okay so this person their words presence attention affection and need of you they attention affection and need of you they attention affection and need of you they seem to fill you up when those things seem to fill you up when those things seem to fill you up when those things are consistent if not constant you're are consistent if not constant you're are consistent if not constant you're okay life is okay okay but when that okay life is okay okay but when that okay life is okay okay but when that person isn't as available or somebody person isn't as available or somebody person isn't as available or somebody else comes into their life or they pull else comes into their life or they pull else comes into their life or they pull away so away so away so slightly you are slightly you are slightly you are undone that person and the dynamic that undone that person and the dynamic that undone that person and the dynamic that you have with them you've allowed it to you have with them you've allowed it to you have with them you've allowed it to have a power to make or break your day have a power to make or break your day have a power to make or break your day are you looking to someone are you are you looking to someone are you are you looking to someone are you trying to be life and so and soul

trying to be life and so and soul trying to be life and so and soul satisfaction number number two are you satisfaction number number two are you satisfaction number number two are you looking to somebody to be your healing looking to somebody to be your healing looking to somebody to be your healing and salvation like do you feel like you and salvation like do you feel like you and salvation like do you feel like you need someone to provide healing and need someone to provide healing and need someone to provide healing and wholeness to a very hurting Lonely Heart wholeness to a very hurting Lonely Heart wholeness to a very hurting Lonely Heart the the Brokenness you have to fill in the the Brokenness you have to fill in the the Brokenness you have to fill in the gaps of what you sense is missing in the gaps of what you sense is missing in the gaps of what you sense is missing in your life so that you're complete and your life so that you're complete and your life so that you're complete and not lacking anything it might feel like not lacking anything it might feel like not lacking anything it might feel like this person and again in the dynamic you this person and again in the dynamic you this person and again in the dynamic you share it might seem like it has this share it might seem like it has this share it might seem like it has this person has actually healed the deepest person has actually healed the deepest person has actually healed the deepest places of pain and Brokenness at you in places of pain and Brokenness at you in places of pain and Brokenness at you in you at least when you're around them or you at least when you're around them or you at least when you're around them or in consistent contact with them or in consistent contact with them or in consistent contact with them or they're validating you or needing you or they're validating you or needing you or they're validating you or needing you or needing your neediness that was my path needing your neediness that was my path needing your neediness that was my path I was the needy to be needed I was the needy to be needed I was the needy to be needed caregiver but in this situation when caregiver but in this situation when caregiver but in this situation when that suppose when that person's supposed that suppose when that person's supposed that suppose when that person's supposed healing saving assuring attention healing saving assuring attention healing saving assuring attention waivers or again when it's pulled back waivers or again when it's pulled back waivers or again when it's pulled back or they're putting their attention or they're putting their attention or they're putting their attention somewhere else you feel lost hopeless somewhere else you feel lost hopeless somewhere else you feel lost hopeless maybe wounded Beyond repair you might maybe wounded Beyond repair you might maybe wounded Beyond repair you might even despair of life even despair of life even despair of life itself a mom with this young adult son itself a mom with this young adult son itself a mom with this young adult son or daughter that's in a serious or daughter that's in a serious or daughter that's in a serious relationship and you're happy on the relationship and you're happy on the relationship and you're happy on the outside but on the inside you're outside but on the inside you're outside but on the inside you're terrified don't leave me don't let terrified don't leave me don't let terrified don't leave me don't let another woman in your another woman in your another woman in your life number three so

life number three so life number three so again some we're looking to someone to again some we're looking to someone to again some we're looking to someone to be life and soul satisfaction to be our be life and soul satisfaction to be our be life and soul satisfaction to be our healing and healing and healing and salvation but then three looking to a salvation but then three looking to a salvation but then three looking to a person or trying to be for someone a person or trying to be for someone a person or trying to be for someone a 247 home and refuge now David Platt's 247 home and refuge now David Platt's 247 home and refuge now David Platt's going to finish out our time on Saturday going to finish out our time on Saturday going to finish out our time on Saturday with John 15 and what does it mean that with John 15 and what does it mean that with John 15 and what does it mean that Jesus is our True Vine and one of the Jesus is our True Vine and one of the Jesus is our True Vine and one of the things I love about that passage passage things I love about that passage passage things I love about that passage passage is it describes us as branches is is it describes us as branches is is it describes us as branches is abiding in Jesus alongside of each other abiding in Jesus alongside of each other abiding in Jesus alongside of each other beautifully so but we're drawing life beautifully so but we're drawing life beautifully so but we're drawing life not from each other as branches not from each other as branches not from each other as branches ultimately but from ultimately but from ultimately but from Jesus and so relationships that Jesus and so relationships that Jesus and so relationships that effectively want to bypass Jesus and effectively want to bypass Jesus and effectively want to bypass Jesus and make you my ultimate home my security my make you my ultimate home my security my make you my ultimate home my security my safety something's off track if your safety something's off track if your safety something's off track if your life has become so fused together life has become so fused together life has become so fused together that space is unbearable other people that space is unbearable other people that space is unbearable other people are a are a are a threat and yet if you're honest you threat and yet if you're honest you threat and yet if you're honest you might be feeling a little bit suffocated might be feeling a little bit suffocated might be feeling a little bit suffocated a little bit stuck and a little bit stuck and a little bit stuck and trapped maybe your eyes have gotten off trapped maybe your eyes have gotten off trapped maybe your eyes have gotten off of Jesus as a True Vine and you've been of Jesus as a True Vine and you've been of Jesus as a True Vine and you've been looking towards a branch to be what a looking towards a branch to be what a looking towards a branch to be what a branch can't branch can't branch can't be I had a friendship like this with a be I had a friendship like this with a be I had a friendship like this with a Christian sister and we had our Christian sister and we had our Christian sister and we had our friendship song it was a cute little friendship song it was a cute little friendship song it was a cute little Christian song it was called home away Christian song it was called home away Christian song it was called home away from home from home from home and I was in a big messy dependency with

and I was in a big messy dependency with and I was in a big messy dependency with this friend but we would just go to this this friend but we would just go to this this friend but we would just go to this song we were each others home away from song we were each others home away from song we were each others home away from home but then another friend came into home but then another friend came into home but then another friend came into her life and she moved away a bit she her life and she moved away a bit she her life and she moved away a bit she was she wasn't as available for me and I was she wasn't as available for me and I was she wasn't as available for me and I I was like un undone and I reached out I was like un undone and I reached out I was like un undone and I reached out to her I cried I kind of pleaded with to her I cried I kind of pleaded with to her I cried I kind of pleaded with her I said but I thought we were each her I said but I thought we were each her I said but I thought we were each other's home away from home and she just other's home away from home and she just other's home away from home and she just said matter of fact well I guess I'm said matter of fact well I guess I'm said matter of fact well I guess I'm moving out that was a out that was a wound now listen what I'm talking about wound now listen what I'm talking about wound now listen what I'm talking about are not the normal griefs of changed are not the normal griefs of changed are not the normal griefs of changed relationships I'm not talking about that relationships I'm not talking about that relationships I'm not talking about that I'm not talking about when the the EB I'm not talking about when the the EB I'm not talking about when the the EB and flow of relationships things change and flow of relationships things change and flow of relationships things change that's not we're talking about we're that's not we're talking about we're that's not we're talking about we're talking about relationships that have talking about relationships that have talking about relationships that have patterns of obsessive need neediness patterns of obsessive need neediness patterns of obsessive need neediness jealousy feeling threatened hiding and jealousy feeling threatened hiding and jealousy feeling threatened hiding and concealing what's really going on concealing what's really going on concealing what's really going on because we don't want people around us because we don't want people around us because we don't want people around us to know the true nature of this to know the true nature of this to know the true nature of this relationship in these situations other relationship in these situations other relationship in these situations other key relationships including a spouse can key relationships including a spouse can key relationships including a spouse can be pushed aside because after all this be pushed aside because after all this be pushed aside because after all this person is my person is my person is my person this person is my soulmate you might be feeling overwhelming you might be feeling overwhelming distraction anxiety and paralysis in

distraction anxiety and paralysis in distraction anxiety and paralysis in these relationships but you just can't these relationships but you just can't these relationships but you just can't get get get out God isn't in his right place and out God isn't in his right place and out God isn't in his right place and when Jesus isn't in his rightful place when Jesus isn't in his rightful place when Jesus isn't in his rightful place people and other gifts won't be in people and other gifts won't be in people and other gifts won't be in theirs and friends you're already theirs and friends you're already theirs and friends you're already catching this but I have so I have so catching this but I have so I have so catching this but I have so I have so been there in all of this like I've been there in all of this like I've been there in all of this like I've lived this and I can tell you though lived this and I can tell you though lived this and I can tell you though that Christ has Set Me Free he has that Christ has Set Me Free he has that Christ has Set Me Free he has answered my prayers of many many anxious answered my prayers of many many anxious answered my prayers of many many anxious fearful feeling stuck fearful feeling stuck fearful feeling stuck Seasons I had a couple of go-to Psalms Seasons I had a couple of go-to Psalms Seasons I had a couple of go-to Psalms Psalm 18 and Psalm 142 I was just Psalm 18 and Psalm 142 I was just Psalm 18 and Psalm 142 I was just praying and praying at the beginning of praying and praying at the beginning of praying and praying at the beginning of my own journey of wholeness praying God my own journey of wholeness praying God my own journey of wholeness praying God get me out of this bring me into a get me out of this bring me into a get me out of this bring me into a spacious Place bring me out of this spacious Place bring me out of this spacious Place bring me out of this prison Lord you say you Delight in me do prison Lord you say you Delight in me do prison Lord you say you Delight in me do something different Lord I don't even something different Lord I don't even something different Lord I don't even know what a healthy relationship is but know what a healthy relationship is but know what a healthy relationship is but God I want to be God I want to be God I want to be free help free help free help God and I'm free sisters I'm not without God and I'm free sisters I'm not without God and I'm free sisters I'm not without Temptations I don't love perfectly I Temptations I don't love perfectly I Temptations I don't love perfectly I still have to watch over my heart watch still have to watch over my heart watch still have to watch over my heart watch over my attachments and feelings but I over my attachments and feelings but I over my attachments and feelings but I am I am truly free and I never want to am I am truly free and I never want to am I am truly free and I never want to go go go back so let pivot now I want to take the back so let pivot now I want to take the back so let pivot now I want to take the rest of our time to share with you some rest of our time to share with you some rest of our time to share with you some of what I've learned along the way a of what I've learned along the way a of what I've learned along the way a path towards wholeness which is path towards wholeness which is path towards wholeness which is Holiness I've got five things I want to

Holiness I've got five things I want to Holiness I've got five things I want to share and don't hear these as linear 1 2 share and don't hear these as linear 1 2 share and don't hear these as linear 1 2 3 4 five and it's all done but you might 3 4 five and it's all done but you might 3 4 five and it's all done but you might consider these as five stones to to step consider these as five stones to to step consider these as five stones to to step onto on a path that I believe will get onto on a path that I believe will get onto on a path that I believe will get you set on a trajectory of Freedom now you set on a trajectory of Freedom now you set on a trajectory of Freedom now overall of this woven into all five of overall of this woven into all five of overall of this woven into all five of these is or you know underg guarding it these is or you know underg guarding it these is or you know underg guarding it is a fresh commitment to Christ is a fresh commitment to Christ is a fresh commitment to Christ to the word and to living honestly with to the word and to living honestly with to the word and to living honestly with other people ideally in a local church other people ideally in a local church other people ideally in a local church family where you are known at ground family where you are known at ground family where you are known at ground level so five things one level so five things one level so five things one identify identify how your relationships identify identify how your relationships identify identify how your relationships may be off track maybe it's one may be off track maybe it's one may be off track maybe it's one relationship maybe several start here relationship maybe several start here relationship maybe several start here pray Psalm pray Psalm pray Psalm 13923 and 24 search me oh God and know 13923 and 24 search me oh God and know 13923 and 24 search me oh God and know my heart test me and know my anxious my heart test me and know my anxious my heart test me and know my anxious thoughts see if there's any offensive thoughts see if there's any offensive thoughts see if there's any offensive way in me and Lead Me in the way way in me and Lead Me in the way way in me and Lead Me in the way Everlasting now let's be Everlasting now let's be Everlasting now let's be honest is something off or out of place honest is something off or out of place honest is something off or out of place in your relational world do those in your relational world do those in your relational world do those Diagnostics hit home has sexual Diagnostics hit home has sexual Diagnostics hit home has sexual sin entered a relationship or are you on sin entered a relationship or are you on sin entered a relationship or are you on the road there through cuddling and the road there through cuddling and the road there through cuddling and snuggling that you don't want anybody to snuggling that you don't want anybody to snuggling that you don't want anybody to know know about has your marriage or know know about has your marriage or know know about has your marriage or relationship with a parent or a son or relationship with a parent or a son or relationship with a parent or a son or daughter has it become somehow daughter has it become somehow daughter has it become somehow suffocating in controlling that's not

suffocating in controlling that's not suffocating in controlling that's not what God's what God's what God's designed have others in your life tried designed have others in your life tried designed have others in your life tried to express concern to you because to express concern to you because to express concern to you because there's something consuming about this there's something consuming about this there's something consuming about this relationship pray ask God to show you relationship pray ask God to show you relationship pray ask God to show you what's what now two what's what now two what's what now two admit admit your relational sin and and admit admit your relational sin and and admit admit your relational sin and and pain to Jesus your deliverer and at pain to Jesus your deliverer and at pain to Jesus your deliverer and at least one trustworthy person now this least one trustworthy person now this least one trustworthy person now this isn't the person you might be in a mess isn't the person you might be in a mess isn't the person you might be in a mess with with with okay no James 5:116 I I know I know what okay no James 5:116 I I know I know what okay no James 5:116 I I know I know what we all do with that James 5:116 says we all do with that James 5:116 says we all do with that James 5:116 says confess your sins to each other and pray confess your sins to each other and pray confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed for each other so that you may be healed for each other so that you may be healed the earnest prayer of a righteous person the earnest prayer of a righteous person the earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful has great power and produces wonderful has great power and produces wonderful results results results s Jesus is our faithful precious savior s Jesus is our faithful precious savior s Jesus is our faithful precious savior he's the one to whom we're betrothed and he's the one to whom we're betrothed and he's the one to whom we're betrothed and we're going to we're going to Feast with we're going to we're going to Feast with we're going to we're going to Feast with him at the wedding supper of the Lamb him at the wedding supper of the Lamb him at the wedding supper of the Lamb we're going to be the bride there he's we're going to be the bride there he's we're going to be the bride there he's also our faithful compassionate also our faithful compassionate also our faithful compassionate friend what are the hurts in your heart friend what are the hurts in your heart friend what are the hurts in your heart that you've wanted this that you've wanted this that you've wanted this relationship to heal he's the only one relationship to heal he's the only one relationship to heal he's the only one that can heal our broken Hearts from the that can heal our broken Hearts from the that can heal our broken Hearts from the inside out admit confess your pain to inside out admit confess your pain to inside out admit confess your pain to Jesus and ask him to help you so we

Jesus and ask him to help you so we Jesus and ask him to help you so we identify we admit number three we expect identify we admit number three we expect identify we admit number three we expect now this is a hard one y'all but it's a now this is a hard one y'all but it's a now this is a hard one y'all but it's a part of it expect a season of pain and part of it expect a season of pain and part of it expect a season of pain and grief that can serve God's purposes let grief that can serve God's purposes let grief that can serve God's purposes let me read to you some more from Psalm me read to you some more from Psalm me read to you some more from Psalm 142 which as I mentioned was one of my 142 which as I mentioned was one of my 142 which as I mentioned was one of my go-to Psalms during a season of my own go-to Psalms during a season of my own go-to Psalms during a season of my own crying out to crying out to crying out to Jesus David said and this Psalm says it Jesus David said and this Psalm says it Jesus David said and this Psalm says it was written in a cave probably all was written in a cave probably all was written in a cave probably all alone with my voice I cry out to the alone with my voice I cry out to the alone with my voice I cry out to the Lord with my voice with my voice I plead Lord with my voice with my voice I plead Lord with my voice with my voice I plead for Mercy to the Lord I pour out my my for Mercy to the Lord I pour out my my for Mercy to the Lord I pour out my my complaint before him I tell my trouble complaint before him I tell my trouble complaint before him I tell my trouble before him when my spirit faints within before him when my spirit faints within before him when my spirit faints within me you God know my way in the path where me you God know my way in the path where me you God know my way in the path where I walk they've hidden a trap for me I I walk they've hidden a trap for me I I walk they've hidden a trap for me I mean look to my I write and see there's mean look to my I write and see there's mean look to my I write and see there's no one who takes notice of Me no refuge no one who takes notice of Me no refuge no one who takes notice of Me no refuge remains to me no one cares for my soul remains to me no one cares for my soul remains to me no one cares for my soul so I cry to you Lord I say you are my so I cry to you Lord I say you are my so I cry to you Lord I say you are my refuge my portion in the land of the refuge my portion in the land of the refuge my portion in the land of the living now the grief comes not only from living now the grief comes not only from living now the grief comes not only from from maybe from maybe from maybe recognizing that you've been fostering recognizing that you've been fostering recognizing that you've been fostering really unhealthy relationships but also really unhealthy relationships but also really unhealthy relationships but also because most most of the because most most of the because most most of the time separation or space is going to time separation or space is going to time separation or space is going to need to happen with this need to happen with this need to happen with this person the relationship might need to be

person the relationship might need to be person the relationship might need to be ended and ties severed now marriage ended and ties severed now marriage ended and ties severed now marriage relationships parent child relationships relationships parent child relationships relationships parent child relationships that's different it's a very different that's different it's a very different that's different it's a very different situation but nonetheless those situation but nonetheless those situation but nonetheless those relationships sometimes need some new relationships sometimes need some new relationships sometimes need some new firm firm firm boundaries and letting go of things as boundaries and letting go of things as boundaries and letting go of things as they've been even Letting Go a very they've been even Letting Go a very they've been even Letting Go a very unhealthy system of unhealthy system of unhealthy system of relating it it leads to grief The relating it it leads to grief The relating it it leads to grief The Familiar terrain of life is being walked Familiar terrain of life is being walked Familiar terrain of life is being walked away from loss is happening and letting away from loss is happening and letting away from loss is happening and letting go of what is it it's going to hurt and go of what is it it's going to hurt and go of what is it it's going to hurt and it's probably going to hurt for a long it's probably going to hurt for a long it's probably going to hurt for a long time and it's in this part of the time and it's in this part of the time and it's in this part of the journey that so many just turn back journey that so many just turn back journey that so many just turn back towards that entangled relationship towards that entangled relationship towards that entangled relationship don't leave me come back to me or they don't leave me come back to me or they don't leave me come back to me or they go looking for someone else to attach go looking for someone else to attach go looking for someone else to attach to so so friends I want to speak to you to so so friends I want to speak to you to so so friends I want to speak to you like heart tohe heart you've got a like heart tohe heart you've got a like heart tohe heart you've got a choice here if this is your situation choice here if this is your situation choice here if this is your situation you've got a choice you can experience you've got a choice you can experience you've got a choice you can experience healing pain and walk this out healing pain and walk this out healing pain and walk this out or you can seek a temporary sinful or you can seek a temporary sinful or you can seek a temporary sinful soothing that's only going to lead to soothing that's only going to lead to soothing that's only going to lead to more enslaving pain take this step this more enslaving pain take this step this more enslaving pain take this step this costly step of implementing space or costly step of implementing space or costly step of implementing space or even ending a relationship it's going to even ending a relationship it's going to even ending a relationship it's going to feel like death because it is a death feel like death because it is a death feel like death because it is a death you're letting go you're you're putting you're letting go you're you're putting you're letting go you're you're putting to death you're forsaking

to death you're forsaking to death you're forsaking sin but isn't this what the Christian sin but isn't this what the Christian sin but isn't this what the Christian life is like we've been called to life is like we've been called to life is like we've been called to identify with our savior to take up our identify with our savior to take up our identify with our savior to take up our cross and follow him so we must let the cross and follow him so we must let the cross and follow him so we must let the gospel touch cut and heal the deeper gospel touch cut and heal the deeper gospel touch cut and heal the deeper issues of our hearts and the things that issues of our hearts and the things that issues of our hearts and the things that are there pain trauma anger fear are there pain trauma anger fear are there pain trauma anger fear insecurity insecurity insecurity unbelief that friend's words of mine um unbelief that friend's words of mine um unbelief that friend's words of mine um moving out I mean it I I can I can REM I moving out I mean it I I can I can REM I moving out I mean it I I can I can REM I can hear her voice in my head and this can hear her voice in my head and this can hear her voice in my head and this has been well over 20 years ago no has been well over 20 years ago no has been well over 20 years ago no actually this has actually this has actually this has been like 36 years ago it's been a been like 36 years ago it's been a been like 36 years ago it's been a while it was a wound but you know while it was a wound but you know while it was a wound but you know what it that was used by God what it that was used by God what it that was used by God as a key incision with his loving as a key incision with his loving as a key incision with his loving surgeon's hand to start cleaning out the surgeon's hand to start cleaning out the surgeon's hand to start cleaning out the mess mess mess inside so even though she was pursuing inside so even though she was pursuing inside so even though she was pursuing her own sin and it came on to me our her own sin and it came on to me our her own sin and it came on to me our father had the last word he used that father had the last word he used that father had the last word he used that wound to go in and start cleaning some wound to go in and start cleaning some wound to go in and start cleaning some stuff out so the promise of the stuff out so the promise of the stuff out so the promise of the Gospel is that when we die to self for Gospel is that when we die to self for Gospel is that when we die to self for the sake of Christ new life will come I the sake of Christ new life will come I the sake of Christ new life will come I mean that's what we Proclaim at Easter mean that's what we Proclaim at Easter mean that's what we Proclaim at Easter Good Friday into Resurrection Sunday we Good Friday into Resurrection Sunday we Good Friday into Resurrection Sunday we identify with Jesus in our sufferings in identify with Jesus in our sufferings in identify with Jesus in our sufferings in the pain that we experience including in the pain that we experience including in the pain that we experience including in our our our repentance it hurts to let go of

repentance it hurts to let go of repentance it hurts to let go of idols and Jesus doesn't say will you idols and Jesus doesn't say will you idols and Jesus doesn't say will you sinned so deal with it he comes right to sinned so deal with it he comes right to sinned so deal with it he comes right to us in the pain that we're experiencing us in the pain that we're experiencing us in the pain that we're experiencing because of turning away from him and he because of turning away from him and he because of turning away from him and he helps us and it takes time it takes helps us and it takes time it takes helps us and it takes time it takes perseverance to learn these things about perseverance to learn these things about perseverance to learn these things about the Christian Life to learn these things the Christian Life to learn these things the Christian Life to learn these things in relationship so you're going to need in relationship so you're going to need in relationship so you're going to need help so that leads to number four and help so that leads to number four and help so that leads to number four and that is pursue pursue biblical that is pursue pursue biblical that is pursue pursue biblical discipleship and counseling regarding discipleship and counseling regarding discipleship and counseling regarding lots of things I'm going to give you lots of things I'm going to give you lots of things I'm going to give you just a few to think about I wrote a just a few to think about I wrote a just a few to think about I wrote a 31-day devotional book it should be 31-day devotional book it should be 31-day devotional book it should be available downstairs it's called toxic available downstairs it's called toxic available downstairs it's called toxic relationships taking refuge in Christ relationships taking refuge in Christ relationships taking refuge in Christ and it was written as a way to walk and it was written as a way to walk and it was written as a way to walk others that have struggled like me in others that have struggled like me in others that have struggled like me in these areas to walk you through A these areas to walk you through A these areas to walk you through A discipleship process and and I want the discipleship process and and I want the discipleship process and and I want the reader to kind of feel like I'm there reader to kind of feel like I'm there reader to kind of feel like I'm there talking with you helping you take these talking with you helping you take these talking with you helping you take these steps to consider things like getting to steps to consider things like getting to steps to consider things like getting to the root of your true fears and the root of your true fears and the root of your true fears and beliefs what is it that you're terrified beliefs what is it that you're terrified beliefs what is it that you're terrified of losing If this relationship changes of losing If this relationship changes of losing If this relationship changes we need to get to the root there we need we need to get to the root there we need we need to get to the root there we need to get to more underlying heart issues I to get to more underlying heart issues I to get to more underlying heart issues I mean Jesus said you'll know the truth mean Jesus said you'll know the truth mean Jesus said you'll know the truth and my truth is going to set you free so and my truth is going to set you free so and my truth is going to set you free so what what has made you vulnerable to what what has made you vulnerable to what what has made you vulnerable to these kinds of these kinds of these kinds of relationships what's been the journey

relationships what's been the journey relationships what's been the journey your your your story good discipleship counseling can story good discipleship counseling can story good discipleship counseling can help you get to the root of that but help you get to the root of that but help you get to the root of that but also as I mentioned earlier we most of also as I mentioned earlier we most of also as I mentioned earlier we most of us need help just understanding healthy us need help just understanding healthy us need help just understanding healthy Christ centered Christ centered Christ centered relationships and on that I want to say relationships and on that I want to say relationships and on that I want to say one of my deep blessings of my childhood one of my deep blessings of my childhood one of my deep blessings of my childhood is I was not raised on sugar so guess is I was not raised on sugar so guess is I was not raised on sugar so guess what I don't have a sweet tooth you what I don't have a sweet tooth you what I don't have a sweet tooth you could put a whole thing of chocolate could put a whole thing of chocolate could put a whole thing of chocolate here and I could walk right away from it here and I could walk right away from it here and I could walk right away from it but I was raised on chips so I have a but I was raised on chips so I have a but I was raised on chips so I have a salt salt salt tooth and I've gone through Seasons tooth and I've gone through Seasons tooth and I've gone through Seasons where I salted everything including where I salted everything including where I salted everything including fruit blueberries apples sobody told me fruit blueberries apples sobody told me fruit blueberries apples sobody told me about salting watermelon I was like what about salting watermelon I was like what about salting watermelon I was like what I never heard of that one tried that I never heard of that one tried that I never heard of that one tried that another addiction for me another addiction for me another addiction for me but here's what happened it it wasn't but here's what happened it it wasn't but here's what happened it it wasn't healthy and the very good sweetness of healthy and the very good sweetness of healthy and the very good sweetness of fruit and God's design wasn't enough for fruit and God's design wasn't enough for fruit and God's design wasn't enough for me I needed Salt so I did salt fasts and me I needed Salt so I did salt fasts and me I needed Salt so I did salt fasts and guess what as I fasted from Salt the guess what as I fasted from Salt the guess what as I fasted from Salt the goodness of that fruit came alive to my goodness of that fruit came alive to my goodness of that fruit came alive to my taste buds so that an orange although I taste buds so that an orange although I taste buds so that an orange although I never did I never did salt and orange never did I never did salt and orange never did I never did salt and orange okay so that's okay so that's okay so that's something but the point is this the same something but the point is this the same something but the point is this the same is really true in our spiritual and is really true in our spiritual and is really true in our spiritual and relational world and in our relationship relational world and in our relationship relational world and in our relationship with Jesus if we've become with Jesus if we've become with Jesus if we've become enamored enamored enamored intoxicated with the pleasures of sin

intoxicated with the pleasures of sin intoxicated with the pleasures of sin healthy healthy healthy relationships Godly Christ Center relationships Godly Christ Center relationships Godly Christ Center relationships and Christ relationships and Christ relationships and Christ himself can seem himself can seem himself can seem Bland boring and Bland boring and Bland boring and tasteless we all need a reorientation of tasteless we all need a reorientation of tasteless we all need a reorientation of our emotional and relational taste buds our emotional and relational taste buds our emotional and relational taste buds for what is Holy and freeing rather than for what is Holy and freeing rather than for what is Holy and freeing rather than what is intoxicating and the those what is intoxicating and the those what is intoxicating and the those relationships that can give us a relationships that can give us a relationships that can give us a dopamine rush I mean I prayed and prayed dopamine rush I mean I prayed and prayed dopamine rush I mean I prayed and prayed and I would commend this to you this and I would commend this to you this and I would commend this to you this might be your starting point is Lord might be your starting point is Lord might be your starting point is Lord change my desires change the very taste change my desires change the very taste change my desires change the very taste buds and appetites of my heart for what buds and appetites of my heart for what buds and appetites of my heart for what is Holy and good now finally on is Holy and good now finally on is Holy and good now finally on discipleship and again there's so much discipleship and again there's so much discipleship and again there's so much more we could say but you're going to more we could say but you're going to more we could say but you're going to need to pursue discipleship and actual need to pursue discipleship and actual need to pursue discipleship and actual account about accountability but also account about accountability but also account about accountability but also implementing accountability in your life implementing accountability in your life implementing accountability in your life this means having trustworthy people this means having trustworthy people this means having trustworthy people that you've given meddling rights to as that you've given meddling rights to as that you've given meddling rights to as Pastor Tim Keller used to say Pastor Tim Keller used to say Pastor Tim Keller used to say people you we need people that have a people you we need people that have a people you we need people that have a hunting license for they're going to hunting license for they're going to hunting license for they're going to come after us not in stalking or an come after us not in stalking or an come after us not in stalking or an intrusion that isn't healthy but people intrusion that isn't healthy but people intrusion that isn't healthy but people that aren't going to just help us avoid that aren't going to just help us avoid that aren't going to just help us avoid sin but run after Christ sin but run after Christ sin but run after Christ and I want to give you one verse that and I want to give you one verse that and I want to give you one verse that has two promises about this the first has two promises about this the first has two promises about this the first one is very sober the second is very one is very sober the second is very one is very sober the second is very sweet Proverbs sweet Proverbs sweet Proverbs 28:13 whoever conceals his sins will not

28:13 whoever conceals his sins will not 28:13 whoever conceals his sins will not Prosper but whoever confesses and Prosper but whoever confesses and Prosper but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have forsakes them will have forsakes them will have mercy we want to be those who bring our mercy we want to be those who bring our mercy we want to be those who bring our sin into the light and prosper we want sin into the light and prosper we want sin into the light and prosper we want to be those who confess and forsake sin to be those who confess and forsake sin to be those who confess and forsake sin and dwell in the mercy of the and dwell in the mercy of the and dwell in the mercy of the Lord that leads to number five pray pray Lord that leads to number five pray pray Lord that leads to number five pray pray for endurance to remain steadfast for endurance to remain steadfast for endurance to remain steadfast because sisters there is so much at because sisters there is so much at because sisters there is so much at stake here there really is secret stake here there really is secret stake here there really is secret lovers obsessive friendships same sex lovers obsessive friendships same sex lovers obsessive friendships same sex dependencies which might lead to sexual dependencies which might lead to sexual dependencies which might lead to sexual involvement smothering unhealthy parent involvement smothering unhealthy parent involvement smothering unhealthy parent child relationships and idolatry and child relationships and idolatry and child relationships and idolatry and marriage all of these have power to marriage all of these have power to marriage all of these have power to hijack and distract Us in in destructive hijack and distract Us in in destructive hijack and distract Us in in destructive ways even and we do have an enemy Satan ways even and we do have an enemy Satan ways even and we do have an enemy Satan in the kingdom of darkness has a vested in the kingdom of darkness has a vested in the kingdom of darkness has a vested interest in dulling your desires or interest in dulling your desires or interest in dulling your desires or distracting you from Christ in the distracting you from Christ in the distracting you from Christ in the Kingdom getting you off track letting Kingdom getting you off track letting Kingdom getting you off track letting you just be so pleased us all pleased you just be so pleased us all pleased you just be so pleased us all pleased with the pleasures of this life putting with the pleasures of this life putting with the pleasures of this life putting our hope in this life rather than the our hope in this life rather than the our hope in this life rather than the the one is to come the one that come so the one is to come the one that come so the one is to come the one that come so I just want to I want to plead with you I just want to I want to plead with you I just want to I want to plead with you as your sister as an older sister to as your sister as an older sister to as your sister as an older sister to many of you to pray for what Paul says many of you to pray for what Paul says many of you to pray for what Paul says in Colossians in Colossians in Colossians 1:23 that we would that you would remain

1:23 that we would that you would remain 1:23 that we would that you would remain steadfast stable un shifting in the hope steadfast stable un shifting in the hope steadfast stable un shifting in the hope of the Gospel by the spirit's of the Gospel by the spirit's of the Gospel by the spirit's power he is supremely worth it he's the power he is supremely worth it he's the power he is supremely worth it he's the one we're coming home to he's our savior one we're coming home to he's our savior one we're coming home to he's our savior he is our Good he is our Good he is our Good Shepherd now finally I'm going to close Shepherd now finally I'm going to close Shepherd now finally I'm going to close with this with hopeful with this with hopeful with this with hopeful news all of our desires that may get off news all of our desires that may get off news all of our desires that may get off track that maybe have gotten us into a track that maybe have gotten us into a track that maybe have gotten us into a mess all those desires will find their mess all those desires will find their mess all those desires will find their satisfaction in Christ and it's only satisfaction in Christ and it's only satisfaction in Christ and it's only when we grow and understanding that that when we grow and understanding that that when we grow and understanding that that we can really let go of our idols and we can really let go of our idols and we can really let go of our idols and God himself S is doing battle with our God himself S is doing battle with our God himself S is doing battle with our Idols he may have prompted you to come Idols he may have prompted you to come Idols he may have prompted you to come to this Workshop CU he's wanting to do to this Workshop CU he's wanting to do to this Workshop CU he's wanting to do something in you and he does this something in you and he does this something in you and he does this lovingly he does this unrelentingly lovingly he does this unrelentingly lovingly he does this unrelentingly because as I've already mentioned he because as I've already mentioned he because as I've already mentioned he will have no other rivals in our lives will have no other rivals in our lives will have no other rivals in our lives when people are not in their proper when people are not in their proper when people are not in their proper place and Jesus is isn't in his proper place and Jesus is isn't in his proper place and Jesus is isn't in his proper place our lives are not going to flow in place our lives are not going to flow in place our lives are not going to flow in a very good way and that's putting it a very good way and that's putting it a very good way and that's putting it lightly lightly lightly we belong to him he's going to keep we belong to him he's going to keep we belong to him he's going to keep coming after us he's going to keep after coming after us he's going to keep after coming after us he's going to keep after to bring us into a spacious place of to bring us into a spacious place of to bring us into a spacious place of wholeness to bring us into a wholeness to bring us into a wholeness to bring us into a relationship with himself that is just relationship with himself that is just relationship with himself that is just beyond what we can imagine why does he beyond what we can imagine why does he beyond what we can imagine why does he do this why is he not going to give up

do this why is he not going to give up do this why is he not going to give up because he because he because he alone is our bread of alone is our bread of alone is our bread of life he is the light of the world he is life he is the light of the world he is life he is the light of the world he is the door into real life he's our great the door into real life he's our great the door into real life he's our great Shepherd he's the only Resurrection way Shepherd he's the only Resurrection way Shepherd he's the only Resurrection way truth and life and you know truth and life and you know truth and life and you know what he loves us so much he's carrying what he loves us so much he's carrying what he loves us so much he's carrying us right now he's going to carry us us right now he's going to carry us us right now he's going to carry us through this life and into the one to through this life and into the one to through this life and into the one to come he sees you he knows where you're come he sees you he knows where you're come he sees you he knows where you're at and he has what you need and I pray at and he has what you need and I pray at and he has what you need and I pray that as we even go as we go through that as we even go as we go through that as we even go as we go through these plenary sessions that there's these plenary sessions that there's these plenary sessions that there's going to be some tender comforting going to be some tender comforting going to be some tender comforting maybe correcting but comforting words maybe correcting but comforting words maybe correcting but comforting words for each of our hearts let's for each of our hearts let's for each of our hearts let's pray Jesus you pray Jesus you pray Jesus you are all of these things you alone are are all of these things you alone are are all of these things you alone are Savior and I just thank you that you Savior and I just thank you that you Savior and I just thank you that you love every woman every girl sitting in love every woman every girl sitting in love every woman every girl sitting in this room and Lord where there's a need this room and Lord where there's a need this room and Lord where there's a need for relational recalibration would you for relational recalibration would you for relational recalibration would you make that make that make that clear where some of us maybe have a clear where some of us maybe have a clear where some of us maybe have a friend or family member in our life and friend or family member in our life and friend or family member in our life and they're in a mess give us boldness and they're in a mess give us boldness and they're in a mess give us boldness and humility and gentleness to go be your humility and gentleness to go be your humility and gentleness to go be your instrument in their life oh God I I just instrument in their life oh God I I just instrument in their life oh God I I just thank you that you you have done a great thank you that you you have done a great thank you that you you have done a great work Lord in in setting me

work Lord in in setting me work Lord in in setting me free that is of you and for you and I free that is of you and for you and I free that is of you and for you and I pray for any other person here that pray for any other person here that pray for any other person here that needs to have Hope For Freedom give them needs to have Hope For Freedom give them needs to have Hope For Freedom give them that hope Jesus because you are our that hope Jesus because you are our that hope Jesus because you are our living living living hope we love you and I now pray prepare hope we love you and I now pray prepare hope we love you and I now pray prepare our hearts for the teaching from the our hearts for the teaching from the our hearts for the teaching from the Gospel of John to go deep into our heart Gospel of John to go deep into our heart Gospel of John to go deep into our heart For Your Glory and for our For Your Glory and for our For Your Glory and for our good good good amen we hope you enjoyed this video amen we hope you enjoyed this video amen we hope you enjoyed this video who's someone you know that would also who's someone you know that would also who's someone you know that would also be encouraged by it you should send this be encouraged by it you should send this be encouraged by it you should send this to them the Gospel Coalition provides to them the Gospel Coalition provides to them the Gospel Coalition provides trusted timely and gospel centered trusted timely and gospel centered trusted timely and gospel centered resources to help each of us in our resources to help each of us in our resources to help each of us in our Ministry and our life so join in that Ministry and our life so join in that Ministry and our life so join in that mission and share this video with a mission and share this video with a mission and share this video with a friend friend friend [Music]